He has never pooped on the toilet but will pee in there with no problems. He always poops in his underwear and it's been frustrating for a while now. I try to ask him why he won't poop on the toilet but he won't tell me. He won't even cooperate with his dad on this issue. Is there a trick to this with boys? What are we doing wrong?
2006-10-13 18:02:11 · 15 answers · asked by severina418 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son will be five in Dec. and is has just gotten to where it is no longer a battle to get him to go. He wouldn't go in the potty at first. Then he would just hold it until he was getting sick. Now he goes on his own. It just took a lot of time and patience. Good luck!
2006-10-13 18:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son is only three, but what worked for us was offering a big reward for his first poo in the toilet. I had about 10 brand new hot wheels cars, his favorite toy, that I displayed prominently, but out of my son's reach. I also told him that he could start using Kandoo wipes when he started pooping in the toilet. For every poo after the first he got to earn back a hot wheels car (he loses his cars when he refuses to clean up) until he was consistently using the toilet. You and his father might also try letting him in the bathroom while you're using the toilet so your son can see that it's natural and safe. My son has only messed himself two or three times since the first time he pooped in the toilet and those were all in the first week of potty pooping so things should get easier once your son actually poops in the toilet.
2006-10-14 03:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by ♥kam}i{ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids that age are sometimes scared of falling in and also that plop sound.Get him a seat for the toilet so he doesn't have to hold onto the sides,it fits under the toilet seat and is quite cheap $5 also put some toilet paper in the bowl to cushion the plop sound. My boy now 5 still hates going to the toilet and he has to have the door open. His dad also gives him a book to read sometimes. Just tell your son he's a big boy now and stand nearby as he does it than make a big deal of it when he has by clapping and telling everyone what a big boy he is.
2006-10-13 18:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some kids are just more difficult to potty train than others. Make going to the bathroom fun for him. What I did with my kids was to get a cheap (freebie) calendar from the bank or grocery store, and a ton of those little metallic star stickers from the Wal-Mart. Whenever my kid would do their business in the toliet, they would get to put a star on the square for today. When we would add a star, we'd go into the living room and do a little "happy dance" -- just turn on the radio and dance silly to whatever song is playing. It made it more like a game to actually go in the toliet instead of their pants. If that still doesn't appear to be helping, try talking to your doctor ... there might be some underlying problem that you're not aware of that the doctor could help with.
2006-10-13 18:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 04:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,No tricks for 4 year old.he is old enough to understand.Doesn't he go to preschool?You just have to be firm with him and demand him to do it in the toilet.What makes them to listen and obey is you take something away from him.Whatever he likes the most.With my four year old i take away his video games.Sometimes he doesn't care.So i don't give him his favorite desert,which is ice cream.That gets him going.Most kids are afraid of falling in.I am thinking it may be the case with your son.Because he has no problem with peeing,he is doing it standing.but when he has to poop,it's a different story for him.Anyways just take one step at a time.Get him to open up with you or your husband.Not just for now but for later on in his life.They always need to talk to somebody,that better be you.
2006-10-13 19:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by avavu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what this condition would normally be called is encopresis and it does occure more in boys than girls... it's where you poo in places not appropriate. and usually there's something going on in the kids life and he can't handle it. whether, there's something going on in the family, or if he's stressed out about something (kids do get stressed), definitely address these issues with him. scolding him will make it worse. so, do what you were doing and talk with him. and the father should bond more with the son... judging from your question, your son seems less attached to him. so once they form a stronger bond, your husband (i presume) will hopefully lead by example and help your son get over this. and overall it will make for a happier family and good home environment for the son to thrive in.
good luck
2006-10-13 18:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We just got our daughter to do this, it may sound really weird but it worked for us. We kept telling our daughter that the potty loves poo poo and this is how the potty eats. (poo is food and pee is drink). After she did it the first time we danced and sang and clapped hands and made a huge deal out of it. We did this for about a week and she finally went and that was the end of it. She was happy that the potty got to eat and was full. We also told her the potty says thank you.
2006-10-13 18:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
at 4 years old he should be pooping on the toilet.maybe if saw other kids his age going that may help.good luck.
2006-10-13 18:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by my_mas0n 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I promise, your not doing anything wrong. This is VERY common. Try not to pressure him or show your frustration. He'll go one day, just try not to make it a big deal. DO NOT force him to sit there when you know he has to go. It's tempting sometimes, but it will not help. GOOD LUCK it'll be OK
2006-10-13 18:08:53 · answer #10 · answered by D N 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋