he promised me marriage, stole all my years, my love, broken heart and dreams, he took back his ring and the [romise 2 marry me on one knee. As soon as he got a good job he left me for a younger, prettier girl, does this mean am i not worth anything to be used like this. if i was worth something how can i guy not love me and use me like this?how do i get over this and mend my heart, and regain trust in men?
2006-10-13 17:51:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
will he be happily ever after with his new girl, while I lead a life of misery alone?
2006-10-13 17:53:03 · update #1
he told me when he left me he was just using me for my money all the while...telling me lies he loved me. Waiting for the day he got a decent job and he did.
2006-10-13 18:00:23 · update #2
No, it doesn't mean you aren't worth anything. However, it does mean that your ex was a true a s s. Don't worry hun, you deserve so much better. He will get what's coming to him, and you'll find what you're looking for. Just hang in there!
2006-10-13 17:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your emotions are running high right now so don't make any important decisions. This guy has done something completely unexpected so you have a right to be shocked and hurt, and then you will be angry. Take time to feel these emotions, but tell yourself clearly that you will get through it and things will get better in the end.
The fact that this guy could be so deceitful for 5 years (if he was using you for the money as you assume) is not to be taken lightly. Make sure this really is finalized (was it just a short fling and he's now repentant?) If it feels like it's over, then I think this relationship was not really solid as his heart wasn't in it. It ended a long time ago.
Yes, you will regain trust in men. Don't let this situation sour you on men or relationships permanently. Just take it as a learning experience, you may have to be more cautious in the future. But you will be happy again, just take time to heal from this and talk with someone close by when you're having a low moment. Good luck.
2006-10-13 18:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh thats terrible. Give it time you will get over him, there are thousands of other guys willing to love you.
Some people (Your ex) are just TOO greedy thats the problem with society, people want the best of the best. Heartless bastards they are. Forget that as*hole, he's trash; you don't need trash in your life...trash belongs in the dumpster along with other BS this world has.
But remember this not all guys are the same...I am sure theres someone out there waiting to appreciate a girl like you.
2006-10-13 17:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by FeverLust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 04:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by dmitriev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he used you and led you on for his own selfish reasons you can be rest assured that "what goes around comes around" and he will get his in the end. i know how bad heartache can be, but at least you didn't get married and have a divorce on your hands right now. You'll do so better than he will. It sounds like you were the solid rock in your relationship with him. He will fail and you'll find a good man to be with. Keep your head up! He is the AZZ hole! Good Luck!
2006-10-13 17:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Fort Worth, TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a jerk. No need to be depressed just learn from your mistakes. Every guy is different you just need to look for the right one. Never pamper your boyfriend and serve as his bank account. Throughout the five years did you not recognize any red flags. Has he ever cheated on you before. Marriage is something serious and any guy who really mean it would never say such thing as I promise to marry you.
2006-10-13 17:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnot mean you are worthless.. it means he is worthless and real jack***. what is done id done.
You have been fooled and cheated..you have already wasted so much of your precious time on him.. now why to waste more thinkg and crying over him...
Believe me a person like him can never really love anyone and can never be happy from inside ,doesnot matter with how good or preety girl he is with as he will see everything from the profit point of view...
so get a grip over yourself.. give everything a fresh start.. , take a break... do whatever makes you happy, keep yourself busy.. and always remeber time is the best healed ...
2006-10-13 18:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing that you should do now is not fret over your loss. every1 losses something in some point in their lives. it's just a matter of how big or how small it is. try to forget your bad memos and have fun with your good friends. thinking about how he has been a jerk is no use at all cos he doesnt feel a thing. retribution will strike hard, it's just a matter of time, just a matter of time...
2006-10-13 18:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by blizzard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to small claims court and get your ring back...he cant take it, it was a gift...Other than that nothing you can do but be greatful this guy who said he was using you is out of your life...You will find another guy when you least expect it...Keep you heart open and forget about the ex...Good luck....
2006-10-13 18:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-13 18:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by y0ur_l0ve_is_suicide 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋