My daughter hates me?

Question

My daughter doesnt talk to me, she does not hug me, its only when she wants to be dropped somewhere or picked up or if she wants something which her mother is not giving her that she comes to me. . I tried to talk to her but she doesnt want to talk to me.
What should I do?
she is my lil princess and I love her very much and I feel very hurt.

P.S. I'm the father

Answer 1

YOU HAVE NOT WRITTEN THE AGE OF YOUR DAUGHTER. FIRST OF ALL IF YOU HAVE ANY PROBLEM WITH YOUR WIFE DO NOT DISCUSS IN FRONT OF HER. ALWAYS TALK VERY POLITELY TO HER. GIVE HER 2-3 NEW DRESSES OF MODERN STYLE.

Answer 2

Apparently some people didn't read that you are the dad............

Here is a word from the wise (I've been there done that) I am a Mom and once you let down your guard, weather you are the mom or the dad, you lose the battle....seriously.....
You and your wife have to be on the same page for everything....
If child says, well, Mom said it was o,k, with her if it is ok with you.
Say, "hold on a minute while I double check with Mom."
Child will come back and say, It sounded llike she said that. I thought that is what she said....It is a pain in the rear to keep checking back and forth, but you and the wife have to make a pack to do just that for no problems later.....Our daughter, especially played me and my husband a few times..Husband saw right through her most of the time.....Believe it or not just talk to her when she talks to you only. I mean don't bug her everyday about .the same questions..How was school, etc...Play her game...But let her know that you are always there, no matter what.....Remind her that all boys must go through you to get a date with your princess........Teenagers are more moody these days, grumpy, and not wanting to share anything much....Good luck

Answer 3

If she's a teenager, it's to be expected but it doesn't have to be that way. It will be hard but try to remember you were her age at one time.

I suggest communicating through email, even if you see each other everyday. It's always hard talking to your parents face to face, especially for a girl talking to her father. Even if you see each other face to face every single day, send her an email.
Don't grill her. Just make small talk about your day, weather, or whatever.

Find out what her interests are and get interested yourself. You don't have to like everything she likes but it helps if there is common ground. Most importantly, LISTEN without judging!! She has to learn to make her own decisions and there will be times when she'll want sound advice.

If you give in to her when Mom says 'No', she'll always manipulate you. Make sure you and Mom are on the same track when making important decisions and never undermine each other.

The relationship I've had with my own father has been a nightmare my entire life and because of his attitudes, it will never change. You don't want this to be the case with you. As long as you continue to make the effort, it will work out. You may not see it in the next few years but she'll appreciate you for it in the long term.

Oh, and she doesn't hate you.

Answer 4

Well you continue to be in her life and she'll see that you really
do love her and care for her. But if you tell her your going to pick
her up and never show with out a good excuse then, she will call
that a broken promise. Maybe her mom or someone else told her
negative things about you. So if I were you then you better think very hard to resolve that is wrong. If in fact you were out of her
life for what ever reason you better have that I love you so much
and start explaining to her. Take her out to eat and ask her what '
is bothering her. Sooner or later she'll feel comfortable to talk
to you. Don't ever give up on your child. Or you will lose her
love. Just because your her dad doesn't mean she has to love
you especially if she has good reasons. My Daughter does not
claim her dead beat dad, she tells everyone he dead. And she doesn't care. She claims my old man is her dad. So you don't want that to happen. Be there for her every step of the way.
go to every school teacher/parent meeting to show you care.
go to all Events, spend a lots of quality time with her.

Answer 5

This is one of the biggest challenges we parents face, we want to be there for our kids whenever they need us and let's face it they can make it very difficult for us. I don't claim to have the perfect answer but I can tell you what has worked for us.
We pretty much let him unknowingly tell us when we needed to start backing off. One day they are just normal kids and will talk to to you but, then you start noticing they start pulling away little by little and show signs such as moodiness and an unwillingness to talk. When that starts happening you get them to sit down and you tell them that you know they are growing up and some things are a private matter and you understand that but, you just want them to know that as their parents you want them to know you will always be there for them when things get a little tough and could maybe use some help and then let it go at that. We on occasion send him an email just to touch base with him, or sometimes we send him a funny ecard to let him know we are thinking about him and we are still here for him.
This has so far worked very well, to the point he is a pain in the *** at times with all his questions(just kidding). One of his favorite things is to say "hey I have a question" and we always make time for him no matter how inopportune it might be, we told him we would be there for him and we must do as we promised. I have to admit at times it can get pretty embarassing but we just swallow hard and do our best to answer him.
He is now 17, and so far he has made wise choices and we are approaching adult hood with the confidence that he will be just fine. To be honest, it hasn't all been a bed of roses but we have managed to work through the tough times too.
I hope this has helped, and I don't think it is too late for your "lil Princess" either, at least it is worth a try.
Just hang in there Dad!!
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Answer 6

Have you hurt her feelings for many times? knowingly or unknowingly? Do you intervene a lot in her matters? Is your way of telling her the truth of the life harsh? Is your attitude toward her or her mother is violent? If any of this answers in yes, you first need to look at your own behaviour. Have patience & try to understand her needs & feelings.

You are an concerned father, wish you all the best.

Answer 7

as a daughter myself i love my dad. of course there have been times when i was angry at him or avoided him but the bottom line is that i love him more than anything.share your views with your daughters. dont tryt o much to get involved with her. talk to her and try communicating a little, VERY LITTLE, with her friends.dont tryt o please but try to be there for her. your daughter doesnt hate you. she just thinks you dont enjoy her company or vice versa.bring her those special things you used to give her when she was young. remind her of her childhood and her cute habbits. i never believe that any father can ever be hated by his daughter. indulge in her life dont interfere.try and understand her and remember your own thoughts at this age. taht might help. she is young and has a lot that you dont but i am sure you have much more than she does. try to think like her and become her friend without forgetting that youa re her father! if this doesnt help then i feel you both need to have a heart to heart discussion. one day go to her when she is free and in a good mood and tell her that you feel that she hates you.appologize and tell her you want your relationship to be better.tel her that she is the apple of your eye and you want her to be happy and share her happiness with you. hope it helps

Answer 8

I am taking a guess here, she is a teenager right? It happens, your little girl grows up. I know it can be hard on you, but you just need to deal with it. Perhaps try to plan a time every so often to do something together. Something she would enjoy and you can tolerate. Trust me there will probably come a time when you want her out of the house, but she will want to stick around.

Answer 9

The reasons for strained relationship between father and daughter may be numerous. You might have unknowingly behaved with your daughter against her wishes. Try to recollect the incidents if any happened between yourself. Especially kids are very particular to get something by any means. If father disregard her wishes. it is but natural that kids start hating even own father.
Once all her wishes are met, she will be normal and extend love and affection.

Answer 10

She is using you and not having a relationship with you. Tell her it is going to stop and that until a relationship is formed she will stay home.I know because I did everything for my kids and now they are selfish and have a hard time with relationships. If we don't train them they will not know how to do it. A girl gets her self-esteem from her dad. She learns about how to deal with boys and men by her relationship with her dad.If she doesn't have a loving relationship, she will look for the love in all the wrong places!If you love her you must be disciplined her so she'll be a productive and successful adult! You are raising an adult.She needs chores,rules, and consequences so she will learn to make better choices.As she learns responsiblity and the expected consequences with each bad choice she will mature. Best wishes and love her and be patient and have a very disciplined routine for her to be able to succeed!

Answer 11

Your daughter does not hate you . She just does not respect you. She is a spoiled lil brat. Stop being a doormat and letting her walk all over you. Let her know that hugs will not get her what she wants. She is playing you. You need to be a father.