How rare is it?

Question

How rare is it to find a man who does not want children? I would like to get married one day, but I definitely do not want to have children. The men I've been with so far have all wanted to have kids. Any advice or comments please?

Answer 1

Good for you for having the courage to say so. The worst thing a person can do is have children when they don't want them. There are plenty of men out there who feel the same. Be up front about it right away and you will avoid wasting your time.

Answer 2

I think it is rather rare but I have heard of couples deciding on this before marriage, my nephew and future bride had decided on just that.

They have since changed their minds and are parents of a beautiful little girl now over a year old, they were married over 10 years before conseption.

Also one of my husband's cousin didn't want children and he and his wife were together 25 years and never had children they have since seperated so it is not that rare after all I would say you just need to be honest about your feelings on the subject when you get serious or maybe it would be wise to bring it up before you get too serious with anyone, they might resent the fact and acuse you of leading them on.

I also know a woman who married her man even though he was honest and told her he did not wish to have children this was as far back as the 70's, and she got herself pregnant by lying to him about taking birth control, the man left her and refused to pay child support, refuses to have any relationship with them has no interest in their lives whatsoever. Sad huh!

Answer 3

Your odds of finding a guy who doesn't want kids would probably increase with any of these factors (but not always)...

1) He is divorced with kids from a previous marriage
2) He is very career oriented
3) He enjoys travelling or travels a lot for work
4) Likes to party, stay out late at night

So just try to figure out places that these types of guys would hang out (avoid churches and religious places since family is big there). I would start at more business-oriented bars and lounges, preferably in a larger city where it is more acceptable to be single and childless.

Best of Luck.

Answer 4

There are men out there who say they don't want children. Beware when he gets older this decision may change, years into the relationship.Most important you should be upfront from the very beginning, as to not waste your time or his. Good luck

Answer 5

There will always be a guy who would understand that you want to get married, but you don't want kids. The guys you have met so far is just another guy who probably wants a son or something. Either way, don't worry....there is always bound to be someone who understands.

Answer 6

Rare most of the time very strict and busy people such as tech supports may not want children.Trust me some of my friends hate children.

Answer 7

Oh I could have gone thru life without kids very happily.. but then I went and got married and got some readymade kids. but now that a few years have passed its nice to have kids.
But there are lots of guys out there who would like to do without kids

Answer 8

Just keep looking until you find one that feels the same way you do. My first husband didn't want kids, so they are out there.

Answer 9

awww honey why wouldnt you want children.... They are the best an can bring a couple together closer than ever.... Bout yeah i think it will be very hard to find a guy who dosent....

Answer 10

They are out there. Don't settle. Keep on looking. My youngest son is 25 and does not want to have kids.