I am coming home for holidays on December 15. I gained 60 pounds since I last say my parents. If they see me, I know they will shout at me and be disappointed because I used to be so thin.
I am scared and do not want to ruin Christmas. What should I say to them because there is absolutely no way I am going to try to lose 60 pounds in eight weeks. Please help.
2006-10-13 17:15:44 · 9 answers · asked by holly l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
P.S. Please do not give any joke answers or insult me, I am exercising 4-5x a week and don't eat junk food 24/7, thanks.
2006-10-13 17:16:32 · update #1
How long has it been since you last saw your parents and why have you gained that much if you're excercising and not eating junk food? Something doesn't sound right, or did you have a baby in that time frame? Of course if you did your body needs time to get back to what it was before.
If none of this applies, I would just keep exercising and eat properly (don't starve!) and like the other person said, they should accept you anyway and know you are taking care of yourself and are healthy and happy.
2006-10-13 17:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are exercising & eating right....GOOD JOB!! Do not get discouraged and stop doing these things. Some people are just built to put on some weight at some certain point in their life. Maybe there are other circumstances or life changes that have caused this weight gain. Regardless of the reason, you should be accepted just as you are. I am a mother of 4, and if my child came home with extra weight on, I would be supportive of her decision to stay that way or to lose the weight. Either way, she would be embraced...all of her!!
2006-10-13 17:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by moonbaby3504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to have conversations and scenarios inside your head about what you envision will happen. Do not go expecting the worst.
If you are TRULY exercising and eating right, you should be losing weight and feeling healthy. This means you would not be 60 lbs overweight when you see them. So, if they start in on you, you can discuss what you're doing to better yourself. Then enjoy Christmas!
2006-10-14 05:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by Joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call them before you come home. You letting this go on before you get home will only stress you out that much more and make you miserable. Tell them you have put on weight, you are trying to lose it by exercising and dieting and to please not judge you. I would be very up front with them, letting them know of your apprehensions about walking in the door and being condemned. Don't let this go . . . . call or if you feel better about writing them, do it ASAP before you have a meltdown. If they are like the typical parent, they are going to happy to have you home for the holidays and shower you with love.
2006-10-13 17:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents can't accept you the way you are, then they have the problem not you. Don't try to lose weight for others. If you want to lose it, do it for yourself. If others don't like it, screw them. Go home for the holidays, heck on what others think. Be your own woman. Best of luck.
2006-10-14 01:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by kajunmommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom gave me a hard time when i put on weight too and i just told her im still the same person and reminded her she should accept her own daughter being 100 lbs or 400 lbs! family should always be stronger than that and she never said it again.
2006-10-13 17:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you scare to face your parent with your true identity it is your body not theirs and beside you can lose the weight but it doesn't take like one day to lose it being thin is not healthy and being fat is not healthy too but normal is best when i say fat i mean obese so yeah well just excerise good luck
2006-10-13 17:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by anna_banana♥LALakers. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I makes no difference how much you weigh.. if she loves you she shouldn't say anything..but she may pass on any bad habits like that ---if she grew up with one of her parents being critical. That is not your problem, if so, its hers.
2006-10-13 17:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by Douglas T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that they should love you for who you are, not what you look like.
2006-10-13 17:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by sparky_butt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋