My son, though I'm SO happy to have him wasn't planed and because my doctor told me it was impossible to get pregnante was quiet a surprise. I'm just wondering how many people where surprised also... and whether you now feel happy that it happened or not so much?
2006-10-13 17:09:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
With our first, she wasn't planned, but we weren't preventing either, however trying calculate and avoid the fertile times. With our second we decided to try after a tubal pregnancy and a miscarriage. It took 4 months...and it was the one month we didn't try. With our 3rd (currently 9 weeks pg) I was taking birth control so...obviously NOT planned. It's been hard to deal with, one minute I'm so excited I can hardly stand it, and honestly and at times I want to cry. My 2 girls are 8 and 4 and I'm pretty much starting over. But it'll be fine. My husband and I were both accidents, and our parents tell us all the time that they don't know what they would do with out us. :) Don't get me wrong...it's not that I don't want the baby, it's just that I thought I was through having babies...so coming to terms with the fact that I'm actually pregnant, having morning sickness, thinking about the 7 more months of pregnancy I have, giving birth and starting that newborn stage over is a bit daunting. But in time, I'll come around and wonder what I would have ever done with out this baby.
2006-10-13 17:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son was an unplanned surprise, and yes, I was very happy! I went off of the pill after my husband and I got married, but my doctor said that it could take up to a year to get pregnant because of being on the pill for so long. A month after our wedding, I got pregnant. It sure didn't take long! I was nervous and overwhelmed, but VERY excited, and I would NEVER change the circumstances. There are times when I get really frustrated and wish that we had planned things a little better. We wanted to save for a cruise since we didn't get a honeymoon, and of course that never happened. There were a lot of things that we wanted to do before we got pregnant, and it does agitate me sometimes that we don't have the freedom that we once had. Like I said before though, I wouldn't change a thing. He is a blessing in our lives, and I figure it's going to happen when God wants it to happen. We're trying to conceive again and things are more difficult this time. I wish it was as easy as the first time around! I'll admit that I will sure miss the "surprise" of discovering an unplanned pregnancy, since we're planning this one, but at least we know what we're headed for this time. We have decided that we'll probably decline finding out the sex of the next baby, so we'll have one good surprise in store for us.
2006-10-14 00:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first one we had had to try for a year, so she was definitely planned. The second one, my older son, was sort of planned. The next one, my younger son, was kind of an oopsie, which is why the two boys are only 17 months apart, but that has worked out because they've grown up to be close friends. My final one was planned, although we didn't originally plan on 4, because my oldest daughter really wanted a sister. Fortunately, her prayers were answered and we had a girl. (I got pregnant the first moment we tried on that one.) Although they were six years apart, now at ages 15 and 21 they have enough in common that they can enjoy their time together, and I think they'll be friends as adults. The only problem is the oldest one looks kind of young for her age and the youngest one has a more mature look and they have similar coloring so everyone assumes they are now twins. I can't say every moment of parenthood has been a joy, but I'm glad for all of them, however they happened.
2006-10-14 00:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by just♪wondering 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my boyfriend had been together for 6 years when we decided to have a baby. I had been on the depo shot for 3 years and when i stopped taking it i became pregnant a year later. I was 21 when i got pregnant and had my son.
We got married just this last past year. We have been together for 11 years. We are now 27 years old and our son is five years old.
I am happy that we had him when we did. We haven't had anymore as of yet but i did miscarry last year (that was a shock cause we werent trying to get pregnant but i wanted the baby but it wasn't meant to be)
He was planned. we are talking about having another one before we turn 30 so the next one will be planned also.
2006-10-14 00:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife made me agree before we married that we would have no more than two chidren and that they would be at least two years apart so they were not both in diapers at the same time. Back then we didn't have the nice disposable things, they were just coming on the market about the time our youngest no longer needed them.
So we planned to have no children for the first year and then she left the pills in the drawer. It took about four months and the periods ceased. He was born in June and weighed 9 lbs 8 oz. She took pills for another year and a couple months and the pills were left in the drawer again. About three months later, no period, so both of ours were definitely planned. The second one weighed 8 lbs 2oz and they both are now married and have children of their own. I know one of them planned both of theirs but the other has made no comment. Either way we have three precious grandkids.
2006-10-14 00:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by mindbender - seeker of truth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We didn't "plan" either of our wonderful children. My son was conceived four months after we were married. We decided not to use protection and "leave it up to God". Apparently, God is very pro-procreation!
Then a year and a half later, we had moved to a different state and my prescription for the pill had lapsed, and I hadn't had time to visit my new OB. Again, we decided we wouldn't make a concious effort to have a baby, but we wouldn't fight it either. Two months later, *boom* pregnant again.
I wouldn't change it for the world. I have the two most wonderful children in the world.
2006-10-14 00:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by MightyMoose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was planned. I got pregnant the second month that we were trying. My OBGYN asked me if it was planned and when I said yes he was shocked and said that most people that he asks are surprised that they ended up pregnant even though they weren't doing anything to prevent it.
2006-10-14 03:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by Julie F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who PLAN pregnancies tend to have a hard time getting pregnant. I have 2 VERY beautiful unplanned boys that we love with all our hearts. It wasnt that we didnt want them or werent ready we just werent TRYING to have a baby. We had the whole "if it happens it happens" thing. Im glad we did!!!
2006-10-14 00:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by mommy of 3 boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ours were both planned. We were very prepared in many ways, and that worked for us very well. It gave us lots of time to decide how we wanted things to go-everything from decorating the nursery to deciding on how we wanted to discipline our kids. You can never be 100% prepared, but it was great for us.
2006-10-14 00:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First two were carefully planned, wife told me she was pregnant a few years later.
I asked how in HELL did that happen?
HAHA but of course I figured it out.
He is my favorite kid now, he still thinks I might
actually know something.
2006-10-14 01:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋