How long should friends with benefits be friends with benefits before it becomes more. I am asking for someone else. Here is the situation. They are exclusive, almost two years, talk to each other daily and have a regular sex life. What do you think?
2006-10-13 16:48:57 · 40 answers · asked by 2fine4u 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For the ones that is saying that it is none of my business. She is sitting here telling me what to type....She says hello
2006-10-13 16:56:29 · update #1
More details. First I am happily engaged. My friend is in a FWB type of thing. They guy and her are exclusive, constant contact, two years. Lately things have occured to make her think that there may be more. She is hearing him tell others that she is his "girl". For her feelings have developed. She is afraid to say anything because she do not want to ruin it.
2006-10-13 17:05:32 · update #2
i think after a couple months it was a relationship and has been for now the past 2 yrs there both in denial. maybe your friend should tell ther other friend that they are intereted in another if that doesnt put a flame under the friends butt to fess up to the relationship i dont know what will.
2006-10-13 16:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by evilella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friends with benifits but I made it clear that if there is a prospective relationship that would not be just fwb's then I would try it out because I'am looking for more than fwb's, but when I'm not seeing anyone I would love to have you as a fwb's. The answer to your question is they could continue being friend with benifits until they are ready to find someone they could be more with or if there comfortable with this then stay like it for as long as they want, I don't think anything is wrong with this.
2006-10-13 17:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this arrangement of consensual mutual gratification has gone on for two whole years without having already long ago moved on to a deeper commitment level, then what magical wave of a wand is going to change anything now? "Friends with benefits" is not a stage of development in a relationship; it IS the relationship, and that's why another name for this arrangement is "f**k buddies", since that is the be all and end all of it!
2006-10-13 16:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesnt sound like there is a problem, they are exclusive, good friends and they talk daily. Maybe they just don't want to call it a "relationship" because there is no problems with it now and if they say boyfriend/girlfriend they may feel different somehow.
2006-10-13 16:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by gypsilee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends I was like that too for like 4 or 5 years... And sometimes its just better to be friends with benefits because there are some certain stuff that wouldnt be ok.. Like thats why there friends but obviously not dating because they either one didnt see them self together or two their with someone or they like someone but the sex is good!
2006-10-13 16:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by Miguel R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a mutual agreement....no harm done. This works for them and if they are happy...keep it like it is. Your friend needs to sit down and talk it over so they will know where they stand...will prevent hard feelings later. I had the same arrangement for 2 yrs too....and now we are both Happily Married to someone else. I called him "my fling without strings". We are still friends and happy for each other.
2006-10-13 16:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This already sounds like more than just friends with benefits. They would need to sit down and talk with each other to see if they want to try actually calling it a relationship or not.
Good luck.
2006-10-13 16:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by SmileyGirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Friends with benefits are just that. No relationship is expected.
If that is what he wants, he is probably SOL.
My FWB and I have been together for 10 years. We have had boyfriends/girlfriends throughout.
I want nothing more from him than an orgasm on demand and he, the same.
2006-10-13 16:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if they talk almost every day and are having sex then they should comsider becoming more than "friends with benefits". But it they want to stay like they are- you cant stop them
2006-10-13 16:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After two years & he is only NOW calling her his "girl"???? Exclusive is good, but sometimes it can be a matter of "why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free".....
2006-10-13 17:27:46 · answer #10 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋