I'm in love with my friend, but he's in love with his soon-to-be wife who is carrying their first child. The thing is, I think he still has feelings for me. But i'm not sure.
He told me he had feelings for me last year before he met his current lover, but I was with someone else who I loved and I choose that guy over him.
I want to be with him soooo bad. What should I do?
2006-10-13 16:46:01 · 15 answers · asked by Krystal V. C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let's see, you can be the HO that broke up a family.... OR you can be the good friend that supports his decision to stay with the mother of his child...
That leaves a problem for you... You need to go out and find another man... You sound like you don't have problems doing that...
I think the best course of action is to be his friend, not bust up a family, and find another man...
2006-10-13 16:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no dilemma you need to leave this man alone.You are not even sure if he still has feelings for you. This man tried to have a relationship with you a year ago but you decided you didnt want him.Most people want what they cant have and now that you cant have him.He is about to be married and have his first child you want him so bad why?Dont you think you have hurt this man enough? This man has moved on and so should you. I am sure you wouldnt want to be the one to come between this man and his future wife(child). The woman in his life is carrying his child and this is something that she doesnt need to face alone.
2006-10-13 16:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You chose that other guy over him for a reason and if another guy peeked your interest, you might (if you had him now) dump him for the new guy over that same reason. Just build your friendship and try not to do or cause anything to happen that will make his life unhappy. Friendship is the foundation for everything beyond and if that foundation is strong...in time you may be able to build a relationship on that, but only when the time is right for the both of you.
2006-10-13 16:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve style of aready replied your man or woman question. Your BF obviosly isnt doing it for you anymore. the kind you describe him the spark of your relationship has long previous and that relationship become marked via undesirable chemistry besides (you pronounced you had problems with him interior the previous). to no longer point out he has moved away. you need to do whats best for you. This knew guy sounds interesting and clean and if that's what you're searching for via all ability sell off the previous bf and pass with him. existence is to short to waste on an ok long distance relationship once you need to be having a super relationship with somebody nearby. thats in simple terms my opinion however. reliable success.
2016-10-19 09:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHOOO CHOOO!!!! Get on-board the train that's leaving the station of "What-IF" and is heading to the township of "Heartache"...population YOU!!!
Build a bridge & get over him - find a man who is actually, genuinely available (& not so screwed up with weird ideas about life - I mean seriously, look it up in the dictionary; "a child born out of wed-lock is known as a bastard" - who wants to be known as a bastard?).
Hope you see things clearly soon.
Cheers!
Jack Wilson
2006-10-13 16:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jack Wilson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think in this situation you are gonna have to let things be. he confessed how he felt for you and you rejected him. granted you were in a relationship, but it still would have hurt him. he moved on and met someone else. now he is in love with her. he has his own life now. it would be selfish of you to destroy that for him and the person that probably really loves him. as hard as it may be you are gonna have to move on like he did once.
2006-10-13 16:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
imagine if someone else addresses this same question over u and ur husband to be.. what would ur answer be like.. not being harsh but just to let u know that: always treat someone as how u want to be treated.. u will make u feel good inside.. trust me!
2006-10-13 16:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by I need a vacation! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO LEAVE HIM ALONG, HE WITH SOMEONE ELSE
IF HE FEEL AS YOU DO, THEN HE WOULD BE WITH YOU
NOT HER, AND FOR THE FACT THAT SHE ABOUT TO HAVE
HIS CHILD IS MAJOR. EVEN IF HE WAS WITH YOU THE'
SHE WOULD BE STILL A BIG PART OF HIS LIFE BECAUSE
OF THE CHILD. THE ONLY PERSON THAT WILL BE HART
BY THIS RIGHT NOW IS YOU. SO MOVE ON.
2006-10-13 16:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you should tell him how you feel. i am some what in your situation i broke up with my boyfriend to be with this other guy and ended up marrying him and having his baby. i still have feelings for my x. i think you should tell him how you feel because you will live knowing how you feel and he will never know. i am still marry and i still have feelings for my x but i waited to long and now i can do nothing about it.
2006-10-13 16:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be with a guy who's getting married. You made your decision to stay with that other guy and he made his to be with his future wife. You can't change that now so accept it and move on.
Sorry to tell you this.
And Good Luck.
2006-10-13 17:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋