Here's the thing. I've been doing a friends with benefits thing for a little over a year now. At first, it was good. But now, all that matters is that he gets off, and he doesn't really seem to care if I get off or not. How the heck do I go about telling him this without sounding like a needy, whiny, *****?
2006-10-13 16:28:16 · 9 answers · asked by Abby H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, cool for bringing some extra pleasure into the world. I'm sure a lot of these answers will be very judgemental.
Now for your question, the purpose of your situation is for both of you to enjoy yourselves, if he isn't providing you with satisfaction either tell him that staight up or cut him off and find a new friend. It's just a friendship so don't feel like you need to be sensitive to keeping a relationship.
I hope this helps.
2006-10-13 16:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by medic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where's the "benefit" for you? Tell him to take care of business or you'll find someone else who can. Nothing needy or whiny about that.
2006-10-13 23:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by doctormillions 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take back control. Tell him what you want. men like to be taken over so go for it.
2006-10-13 23:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by scrapper723 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the benefits are suppose to be for both of you, if a man can't make it worth my time I won't do it again
2006-10-13 23:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new "friend". He's obviously getting a little too comfortable.
2006-10-13 23:32:31 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him either get his weight up or give him up he not a friend with benefits if he doesnt benefit you. your just getting used.
2006-10-13 23:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by masnjaz17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just come out and tell him, if he is a true friend he will listen and learn and comply simple as that
2006-10-13 23:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by colvin0594 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him..'Listen dude, if this going to work be both have to get off"
2006-10-13 23:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by vinyl_mad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. And if ignores you find another.
2006-10-13 23:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by eternalvoid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋