i dont know how to tell my friends or family, i told a friend about a month ago and we had a fight and she used it as an insult, but we arent fighting anymore, and i dont know what to do
2006-10-13 16:26:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are pretty young. I would wait and explore before saying anything to anyone. Sometimes we can get confused in life and it takes time and age to work things out in your mind and body. If you are bi or lesbian then that is your life to live but I would make sure before I put my family through something that could be traumatic to them. Parents have hopes and dreams for their kids, marriage, family, house ,white picket fence, 2 car garage, large income. We want our children to do better than we have. I know this seems old fashioned but it's true to this day. If you are not sure I would wait until I am. As for your friend, she needs to support you and be there for you while you sort your life out.
The only reason I say the things I do is that I know someone who was gay. He led the life, dated, lived with another guy, told his family everything. Now, he has decided that he wants to be straight so he can have a family etc. How do you turn those feelings off so fast? Who is he going to hurt when he decides he can't live a lie anymore? Wife, kids...... I hope it doesn't go this way but I can't help but see it clearly in my mind. Now, everyone kinda gives him a hard time about it. He's a nice guy and doesn't deserve it but that's what has happened to him. I hope this has helped you. Good luck!
2006-10-13 16:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by country girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares? Don't sweat it. It could be just a phase.... or you might actually be bi of les. So what? The last thing you want to do is lie to yourself about what your sexual preferences are. That will only make you suffer in the long run. Just do what feels natural.... and find some friends that will accept you for the content of your character, which has nothing to do with your sexual orientation.
2006-10-14 13:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really take time to think through how you feel by thinking about who you enjoy yourself more,men or women. Take time to know whether you know you are bi or lesbian and when you have made up your mind if you are bi or lesbian, tell your family you would like to talk to them in confidence and if they don't agree or support you then they don't love you for who you are, and when you tell your friends how you feel, if they also don't like it and throw it in ur face then say your not really the friends I thought you were.
2006-10-13 23:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well telling friends and family is kinda hard sometimes. Especiallly if your friends and family are not open-minded people. If they are not open-minded, don't say anything to them or just tell them and let them deal with it. You are what you are. If they can't accept you for who you are, that is terrible. I'm bi and I've only come out to my friends and they all accept me for who I am. Go with your natural instincts.
2006-10-13 23:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Vampira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well tell em u Bi, they look at that az bein just u expermentin, n that gives u plenty of tyme to figure out which is it, there is no shame in not bein straight, but there is shame in not bein true to urself, be honest wit urself b4 u can b honezt wit ne1 elze
2006-10-13 23:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by KaOz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is find some new friends. Then tell your family, if they don't accept you it is their loss.
2006-10-13 23:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Brock Samson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't sweat it - things will work out. I'm bi and knew it since I was 12. Parents aren't thrilled, but they'll get over it. Enjoy and don't worry!
2006-10-13 23:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SNAP OUT OF iT!!! Your not either bi or lesbian.
God did Not make Nobody Gay. Its all in your mind.
2006-10-13 23:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to pick and choose your battles. you can "come out " to the ones that will be really supportive and then they can be your support system coming out to everyone else.
2006-10-13 23:30:40 · answer #9 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BABY THE ONLY PERSON WHO CAN HELP YOU IS YOURSELF AND YOU HAVE TO ASK YOUR SELF ABOUT YOUR TRUE FEELING ABOUT MEN AND WOMEN GOOD LUCK
2006-10-13 23:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋