it is a bit complicated...I am the oldest of my siblings by atleast 7 years. I found out tonight that my youngest brother (12) showed my oldest brother (18) a video of a beheading in irac. I am really bothered by this as it really upset my oldest bro. Now where it gets complicated is that the yonger is a step bro, and his mom (my step) believes that her son walks on water. He would never do anything wrong ever. I feel that I should tell my dad since this happened on his computer and god only knows who else he has shown this video to. (friends). This is really damaging stuff. At best things between my step mom and me and my blood brother (the one that saw the video) are challenging, but I don't want to upset my dad, who I love very much. My blood brother is really upset, but feels that he can't talk to my dad, cause of his wife. What should I do? I am so upset I could cry. I just don't know how people could find this stuff interesting. People are so cruel to each other.
2006-10-13 16:26:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all I want to tell you that it takes guts to even consider telling your dad since the situation is so complicated. I also have a step-mother and she also thinks her kids can do no wrong. I am 27 though. Adults have to make hard decisions and this one is going to be rough, but you need to tell your dad. I don't give a crap what the lady says above me about it not being that big of a deal. Your little step-bro has some serious issues if he thinks that's amusing and he needs help before he becomes one of those guys. Just go to dad with your real bro if he's willing and tell him that you thought he ought to know that his youngest son has been watching and sharing graphic murder images on the web. Don't be judgemental though about it. Just let him know the facts and then let it go. Dad will take care of it better if he feels like you're not trying to "get the boy in trouble".
2006-10-13 18:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to watch it because curiosity got the best of me. You are right, it is horrible, but it is real, and it isn't a sex video. I think that you shouldn't be so upset, because even children should know that these are the kind of people that are soldiers are dying for so they can protect us. You can not shelter your siblings from this cruel world no matter how hard you try. Talk to your step-brother, just because he shared his knowledge doesn't mean that watching it has not effected him. You should go to both your dad and your step-mother and make this a family discussion, not a tattle tale event. The be-headings are real and so is the fact that everyday we lose another soldier over there!
2006-10-13 16:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by melanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people do horrible things to one another, yet there are some people, for curiosity reasons, etc., who want to see these kinds of things. It is like the ones who always strain to see what has happened when an ambulance is at the scene of an accident. Yes, you should go to your dad and tell him what has happened and how it has affected you and others. Just remember, some damage has already been done and dad may not be able to fix that, but he needs to know how much it has affected you and others.
2006-10-13 16:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by rexallen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people like to see whats happening in the world and others dont just cause he seen it and showed to you brother dosent make him bad if you feel you need to tell you dad than do it but if you are just upset he watched it and showed your brother then maybe you should not pay attention to him if your older brother didnt want to see it he could have turned it off
2006-10-13 16:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by bltchygirl22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh! How horrible! I think you should gentley tell your step mom that he is showing this stuff around. But first tell your dad to have him help you tell her. And maybe he will help ur younger step bro too.
2006-10-13 16:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by nicce 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would definitely tell your dad. i mean, this younger brother is your dad's son too, so you shouldn't have to even confront your stepmom, especially if the situation is bad between you.
your younger bro should understand that watching those things fills your mind with bad thoughts, and if anything, he shouldn't be showing it to others. just...talk to your dad and encourage him to do the disciplinary action.
2006-10-13 16:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just explain how you have to us how you are concerned and dont want to cause worry but you think that something should be done about thise. Dont cry, I understand how you feel...the last thing you want to do is cause tension in a family but when it comes down to things like this it will be icky at first but the outcome will overpower and be the positivity that you hoped for.
good luck!
2006-10-13 16:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by M. M 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why all the drama? Your brother is 18...if he can't handle reality, there are bigger problems than the 12 year's fascincation with a beheading. Best case, your bro is encouraged to go fight for our country!
2006-10-13 16:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by kellettgal 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i think you should tell your dad as soon as possible if you really love him and its for your own family good...
2006-10-13 16:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by watashiwatooku 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your dad... maybe he can block certain type of sites from being accessed on the net.
2006-10-13 16:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋