What would it take for you to date a man that is overweight?

Question

Overweight being 350lbs.

What would he have to do to win you over?

Or why would you not date him?

If an overweight man were to approach you, what would he have to say or do?

Mind you I am only asking women.
So guys, no stupid answers, please.

I am 6 feet tall.
Look at my earlier questions for a picture of me.

Answer 1

So what if you're overweight?! Everyone has flaws, and if people can't see past that, they're just shallow, and you wouldn't want to be around them anyway.

You seem intelligent enough (well, considering the fact that you aren't TyPiN LyK *DiS..) and considerate.. as it seems you're concerned about what others want, and need.. So what's the problem?

The only advice I have is the same advice everyone else is going to give you : Just be yourself. It may sound cliche, but it works. Your looks and weight are going to change as the years catch up with you. That's nothing. What really shapes you as a person is your personality. Your sense of humor. Your love for life. That's what's going to keep that special girl around forever...

Good luck!

Answer 2

For me, it honestly is not about being overweight. I sometimes prefer overweight guys because the really attractive boys my age tend to be arrogant jerks many times. I would say the biggest problem I come across is the guy not really being himself and acting like a clown. Humor and enjoying humorous talk is one thing, but from the defense mechanism built up over the years, sometimes it is frustrating getting past it.

Answer 3

Well first, I don't look at a man outer appearance. That is just a shell, hiding all the man. For me a man of integrity is what's really important. I wouldn't care if he is 900 lbs, it's what's in the inside that counts. A calm spirit with a gentle touch added, can bring lots of good change to a personal relationship. Yet, society is so consumed with all the glamor of another, they lose sight of the reality of being human. When we look at the grass on the other side it appears greener, yet, it still must be mowed. "Go Figure" Love is in the eye of the beholder.

Answer 4

Sorry I would not date u....
If u want somone to see the real u "wats on the inside"
Make sure you show the not so fab women the same curtisy!

theres no point in trying to win over a super model type ...Unless your loaded and dont care if they love you or your wallet

Dont aim to high and youll never be disapointed
plan and simple , sorry if it comes across harsh .....

Or you could start going to the gym , workout a bit , you might meet somome there and you can get fit together!

I would not date an over weight man , because I like my man to be active! have a nice bod , be fit for the bedroom ;-)

if I was approched by a over weight man I would let him down nicley , either saying im in a relationship , or just fresh out and wanna enjoy the single life a bit.

Yes shallow i know , but we live in a shallow world where people only see wats on the outside........

Best of luck finding you special somone!!!

Answer 5

He wouldn't have to do anything an average weight person wouldn't need to do. No special lines, no different treatment. If a man has self confidence and is a respectful, caring person...who cares how much he weighs. Of course it helps that my preference is heavier guys. I don't know what it is, but I really like them. My friends all make fun of me for it, which is kind of sad because I don't see what's wrong with it. There is a big stigma attached to that in this country. Why do we make fun of fat people or think less of them?

Answer 6

He would have to be a nice guy. He'd also have to have a decent amount of self-esteem and self-assurance. Many overweight people are insecure and overly focus on their shortcomings. I have dated a man who weighed about 300 lbs. and a woman who weighed about 375. I would have no objection to dating a heavier man as long as he was confident and was willing to go out with me in public.

Answer 7

1st I am married, but I have never noticed a man by his looks etc. I notice them by their kindness and personality. Fortunately women or many of us are not so into the super great looks the right one will show up sooner or later but if you act desperate and go out with anyone then you actually will turn women off, because they are attracted to men that have confidence. and don't be afraid to ask any single lady out if you are interested, you never know. =) Good Luck.

Answer 8

If he is nice, kind, has a good personality and sense of humor, and maybe just a touch of devil, all he would have to do is ask me. Same for guys not overweight.

Answer 9

okay...as long as he didnt come up to me and like hit on me right away, i wouldnt care if he was fat, tall, short or skinny. if the guy is genuine and looks out for ones best interests in order to make a relationship work, then i dont care what his looks are. good guys are hard to come by. but you know what, there are also "fat" guys out there that think they are pimps just like the "good" looking, slim/fit ones. so be more specific on his personality to get a better idea of what this guy is like, unless you were just being general, in that case, i stick by my answer that no all women are superficial and only care about looks.

Answer 10

I don't know. I am not really attracted to a particular type of body, but I am attracted to a set of personality traits, so if you had that and we clicked then I'd probably date you. If you weren't a personality type I found interesting then no, I would not date you...but I wouldn't date you if you were like that but looked like a movie star, either.