I think I'm ready to tell my mom, and just my mom about my little addiction, cutting. Next weekend I will be home alone with her, minus the hours I work, so I'm thinking it would be the perfect time. I dont have to tell her, but i can only wear bracelets and sweatbands for so long, and i can never lie and say the scars are from something ealse, b/c they are to deep and obvious. Its been a couple years now and I'm really ready to actaully stop...at leaste i think... so I'm thinking if she knows she'll be able to whatch out for me and just keep a close on on me, and scicne I'll know that it'll be easier to not do it. So heres my question... how should i tell her and will it be worth it, I realllly don't know how she will react. And I'm scared to death.
2006-10-13 15:54:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanks, i told her today and well she, was upset and completely shocked and kept saying wow. and was surprise i could hide it for so long and she made me show her my scars and she freaked out. she started to get teary eyed and i told her ive been done for 2 months, thats not really true, but im working on it. um she said if i continue shes going to send me to talk to someone and she'll be making me strip down every weekend b/c thats the only times i see her during school. she knows where i do it so shes goign to check constantly.
2006-10-14 13:03:27 · update #1
Take my advice. Just stop. I have 640+ scars, several keloids and have almost died several times from going waaay to far. I had been doing it for 6 years nonstop. I actually just recovered from some earlier this year (had to get 10 wounds stapled up in ER).
For one.. they are all over my body, so EVERYONE knows because after a while you RUN OUT OF PLACES TO HIDE!. if someone is telling you to just wear pants or long sleeve shirts its not going to help either.. =)
For your mother , if she finds out don't expect her to react calm at all. You may end up in a hospital (but it may be for the better depending on your doctors). She may want to do daily full body impections, and lock up everything sharp! Hopefully if your cuts are minor-not serious cuts then she may be more prone to understand. Trust me, a parent NEVER wants to see their child hurt themselves.. My mother cried, and my father was to shock to explain. Also my younger sister became influenced by how I coped, and she started she looked up to me.. That broke my heart to know I *influenced* my little sister..
I just know how hard my life has been (i'm 19) since I've dealt with this addiction, and I know what I've missed out on , I would hate to see anyone else go through the same.
One thing you should check out is:
COVER FX - makeup used to cover scars
That is what I'm about to try out but I've heard great reviews!
Good luck with it <3
2006-10-14 07:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by rainbowsandhell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be extremely worth telling your mother. Be prepared for her to question you or bring you in for an evaluation with a doc. There is a reason that you are doing this to yourself, and you need some help. Your mom can only be part of your support group, but you need extra help. I'm glad that you want to stop cutting. God bless you and best of luck!
2006-10-14 01:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by kajunmommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her this weekend. I mean, I don't know anything about cutting and why people do it. But you really should. Just go out and tell her. I'm sure she'll be helpful and understanding. Good luck! =)
2006-10-13 15:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit her down and tell her you have a problem. Be honest and try to explain to her why, if you can, and she will help you to get help to stop. There is a reason why you are doing that and get help to stop! Have faith take a deep breath and get the help you need!!
2006-10-13 16:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by Shellee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a very serious problem that you have, but it is good that you finally want to tell someone. it wont be easy to tell your mother, but speaking as a mother if my daughter were to come to me with this, i would love her as much as i always have and i would talk to her about what it is she would like to do next, and i would help her get the help that she needs. as I'm sure your mother will do for you. mothers will love their children no matter what. this will come as a shock to her as I'm sure you are aware of, so make sure you are as understanding of her as she is of you.i really hope that you are able to get the help that you now know you really need.
2006-10-13 16:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you know it's not a good thing, that you want to stop and that you need help doing it. Prepare yourself for an unpleasent reaction (we mother's are prone to those kinds of things) and have faith that given a few moments to absorb it she'll be right there for you (another thing we mother's are prone to). Try and be calm while you do it and things should work out well.
Good luck!
2006-10-13 16:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by Erica B 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to her or write a note to her and sit there while she reads it. Just be honest.
Mom, I have a problem. For _____ amount of time I have been cutting myself. I have become addicted to it and I am scared that one day I might actually permanently harm myself. I want to stop but I don't know how. Please help me through this.
2006-10-13 15:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by rothe_jabbuk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your mother is going to be scared to death. But, if she is smart, she will assist you in finding the help you need. That is wonderful that you want to stop and that you recognize that you will need assistance with this addiction. Good luck.
2006-10-13 16:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend in high school who was a cutter. It was very scary for me when I found out. So your mom will probably be scared & worried for you but as a mom myself now. You need to just be honest w/ her. It will absolutly be worth it! Good Luck!!!
2006-10-13 16:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by jae4 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
omg, no. don't tell her. trust me, as a former cutter myself, you do not want to tell them. they wont understand, they'll tell you you're crazy, send you to a mental hospital. being around them and seeing their reaction to your addiction will make you feel so bad that you'll end up doing it even more. there are these band-aids that are sold in any grocery store. They get rid of scars. try them. In the mean time, try to wear long sleeved shirts. there are things you can do to slowly stop, instead of cutting, wear a rubber band around your arm and snap it against your wrist when you feel angry. but don't tell your mom.
2006-10-13 19:08:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋