So for the pasy few yrs my mother has became an alcoholic.
about two hours after she gets home from work she pours herself a class of coke mixed with liquor.
She is a functioning alcoholic because she gets up and goes to work everyday and everything.
There is no use talking to her because sober or not she denies having a problem.
So yes i hvae tried having serious talks with her she is hard headed and there is no use talking to her about it.
I have an alcoholic dad as well but i am used to it for he has been that way for all my life and he just like my mother is a functioning alcoholic.
I cant our her liquor out i dont know where she hides it and i cant show her research or anything .
I cant get to any meeting because i have no car and i cant tell my mom " o your an alcoholic so take me to meetings for teens with alcoholic parents" .
I am basically asking on tips on dealing with this problem
2006-10-13 15:53:16 · 14 answers · asked by nilleh 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
did i mention i cant drive yet?
2006-10-13 15:57:55 · update #1
THERE IS A DIFFERANCE BETWEEN ENJOYING A FEW DRINKS AND GETTING D-R-U-N-EVERYNIGHT TO WERE U CANT EVEN WALK W/O STUMBLING
2006-10-13 15:59:25 · update #2
here is the website for an online teen A.A. support group since you cannot make it to the meetings. http://www.ola-is.org/
2006-10-13 15:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by arae8419 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear girl, my heart is aching for you, my husband/kid's dad is an alcoholic and I know how wacky life can be living in that situation. The best thing I ever did was go to Al-Anon, I learn that the drinking had nothing to do with me or my kids and that I could not control it. I know your parents love you, they are just sick with the diease of alcoholism, that is not your fault.
Thankfully they are functioning, it could be worse.
Go to the Alateen website that other people mentioned above. It is really good, you can even go to online meetings, since you can't get out of the house.
God bless you and I'll say a prayer for you :)
2006-10-13 23:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by Amy O 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar problem with my dad. I just gave up on him. He won't reason or he'll quit and then relapse, i just can't count on him anymore. I got very angry there for awhile. That didn't help anything. Tell you the truth i am still angry. AA tells you it's not your fault. My mother has just accepted that he is an alcholoic. So you really need to ask yourself if you can love an alcoholic. If you Google AA they probably have someone you can chat with.
2006-10-13 22:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by missqteeone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One is bad enough but two.......You're not very lucky I am 56 now but as a child I use to spend alot of time reading & praying it would stop . When I was about 19 they they finally saw the light or something happened for they both stopped drinking I guess you could say I was one of the lucky ones or who knows maybe my prayers were answered I really hope you can find some really good friends to confide in .My heart goes out to you
2006-10-13 23:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by T C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any other family members you can reach out to for help. Do you belong to a local church? If you do and you can trust your pastor, ask him for help. Do you have a crisis center or a crisis hot line you can call for help? Maybe they can put you in touch with free counseling services. Some of those centers may be able to help you with transportation.
Do you believe in God? If you do and you own a bible turn to the back of the bible. There are different topics like loneliness, anger, or depression in the back. It gives scriptures for every area of life you may be dealing with. I am a Christian and I will be praying for your mother's deliverance from alcohol and for someone to help you.
2006-10-13 23:09:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is to seek support and advice from a support group of some kind. The largest and most popular organization for this is the Al-Anon/Alateen program, for families and friends of alcoholics. Here you will find people from all backgrounds and all walks of life who can give you grounded advice and direct you to even more resources. Here is the link to their website, it will help locate a group near you.
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
Good luck with everything and hang in there, my grandparents were alcoholics too. Take care.
2006-10-13 22:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by neenerneener 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, accept that its not your mother's fault, its the alcohol. Its a self medicating thing for her and she's hiding from reality. Try getting her an intervention, that's pretty extreme though. You can't really force her to get "better". It takes time, and you will need to keep trying. Keep talking to her about how you feel, and never give up. Because no one but your mom can help herself.
2006-10-13 22:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by ~carmie~ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is very sad that you have to deal with this at such a young age. but, you have to understand something about drunks. no matter what you say to them or plead with them. if they don't think they have a problem, they don't want any ones help or advise, not even from their children. the only thing that you can do at this point is live your life the best way that you can, this is something you can not change and if you continue trying to help them your life is going to pass by with out you living it. I'm sorry,
2006-10-13 23:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain! There is nothing you can do to make them stop. Help your self get on line go A.A. 's web sight.
There are meetings on line and you can find help. Do this for yourself now do not wait.
2006-10-14 01:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...How does her "alcoholism" affect your life? How does/has your Dad's alcoholism affect/affected) your life? I suggest this would be a good starting point...Look and see what affect their alcoholism has/has had on your life. Then...Host your own intervention and tell them how their drinking affects/has affected your life. You love them and they love you....Go for it Kiddo.
2006-10-13 23:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by largerladybug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋