My probable fiance` has a best friend that is a woman. He lets her stay at his home anytime she wants to. She gets homeless often. She is like a sister to him. I know he doesn't think of her "that way" , It just bothers me her being there.
2006-10-13 15:44:33 · 23 answers · asked by Tarpaulin 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have every right to be jealous. I would be pissed. Definitely tell your man it makes you uncomfortable. No matter how much of a friend she is, that is totally rude and disrespectful to you. If your man don't do anything - tell the girl what you think or you could uh show her what you think about her staying with your man. Don't get yourself in trouble though, even though it is tempting to kick her ***.Oh, sorry I get so angry even thinking about this. Good Luck girl!
2006-10-13 15:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he knew this woman existed before he met you and when you started to date.This woman(sister) means something to him and he doesnt want her to be homeless. He is indeed a good man.Try to put yourself in this woman's place(homeless)then try to but more trust in your man.Has this man given you reason not to trust him?Yes I know its hard to do when he has a woman in his home. They say men and woman can be friends.Most of the time the man has slept with the woman(or so we think)I dont believe in that sister crap. I know you have that thought that there might a night or nights that they have a drink or two and things just happen.If this is your future husband then he needs to understand how you feel and work things out. I am sure this woman have family members that can take her in.Hopefully you want let this woman prevent you from being happy.
2006-10-13 23:04:53 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be you owe it to yourself unless you see something a else going on My best friend is a guy and we have been friends for about 10 years and thats all its ever been he moved out of state so when he visits he stays with me my boyfriend at the time didnt feel comfortable with it so i stayed at his place let him know how much it really bothers you hey you come first so maybe she could stay with other friends or does she have family ????? and if she is a best friend she would respect how you feel and leave to avoid any further conflict
good luck!!!!!!!
2006-10-13 23:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then u need 2 have a serious conversation wit him explaining the way u feel. if he's a good fiance', he'll understand and tell that gulr to back off cuz he is about to get married. i think that u should try and make it come down to you or her. he'll have to choose between the 2 of u. then if he doesn't choose u, u'll know that he isn't a keeper. but if he does, then u'll be able to sya that this guy reall y loves u and will do anything 4 u. that makes a great husband. wish ya luck!!
2006-10-13 23:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by DJ Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are his fiance and he is going to spend the rest of his life with you. YOu need to set your foot down and tell him how feel.He should understand and respect that if he wants to marry you. If he lashes out or make a fuss than maybe the wedding should be put on hold.You have to take control of your life and you have every right to be angery.There is no need if there is no ties between them. Its not your fiance responsibilty to take care of her, what about you.You never know what goes on behind closed doors.
2006-10-13 22:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by louise23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good guys finish last for this reason, and he needs to know it...I dont care if she is like a sister to him, the bold fact is, that shes NOT his sister, and she should NOT be at his house...Im pretty sure she has other options or people she can stay with...Either way, you need to tell him that you feel uncomfortable and this is absolutly unacceptable! to be honest, i dont know why your at your computer, when you should be telling him how it is...this is the man your going to marry, and if you dont stop this now and set rules down now, then this woman is going to be apart of your life for a really long time...
2006-10-13 22:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by SassyGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel. he should understand that it's ok and acceptable for you to be jealous. if he suspects you of being jealous then he's a real jerk. if he understands your feelings, he'll talk to his friend about the living situations. either way, you'll never know how great/understanding a guy you probabl fiance is. good luck!
2006-10-13 22:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by M.Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he thinks of her as a sister and not a undercover lover that's something to think about is she in a relationship if so why is she not with her man or family, think about it, don't be a fool. What is the behavior between the two, that will tell it all.
2006-10-13 23:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by JUST US 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has never given u a reason to be jealous, there is no need to be. You must trust him until he has given you just cause to be jealous. Get some hobbies and do not dwell on him and this woman friend.
2006-10-13 22:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is simply taking an advantage of her being homelessness. You should break up with him immediately. If he really want to help her then there are plenty of places he can allow her to stay there.
2006-10-13 23:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by pesific_boy_curious_2_no 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋