I've been seeing this guy for 2 months and he treats me real nice and takes me out, buys me gifts, etc. We have sex and he doesn't refer to me as his girlfriend and says we're friends. He showed me where he lives and showed me his cell phone and who he calls and who calls him and no other woman is involved. what's going on in his mind?? Please be nice with your answers, I'm having a hard time as it is with this.
2006-10-13 15:09:03 · 14 answers · asked by guadalupe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he enjoys the relationship the way it is. If he's being kind and thoughtful, give him a chance. Relationships take time to develop.
If he starts cheating on you or not treating you well, then it's time to rethink the situation. Until then, enjoy.
What's really important is you know his background and his family. I wouldn't trust a guy that you don't know much about!
2006-10-13 15:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been seeing this guy for only 2 months.Why does he need to define the relationship just because you had sex. This is the real world and sometime sex isnt the what it takes to get a man to commit. Before you had sex with him did you both decide where the relationship was going? You should have made it clear that you wanted a relationship before the sex happened. He may have been the nice guy you wanted to get what he wanted. Give him a little time he might just be taken things slow or not at all.
2006-10-13 22:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just scared of commitment, and prefer the whole "friends with benefits" thing. Even if you two are exclusive.. he's probably just scared to take the jump into a "real relationship".
If you are having fun with this guy, and you know you're not one among 20 other "frieinds".. then what's the problem?
2006-10-13 22:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by [we're all mad here] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with JP. You let him know that you are easy by having sex with him after 2 months. Sex is for committed relationships, not for so-called friends with benefits. You better try to define this relationship fast.
2006-10-13 22:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it might be that he dont want to feel like he is tied downby saying that he has a girlfriend I am not sure but I think that the best thing in this case is to ask him about it. There is no way that he is going to get mad. I am married and I wish that my wife would talk more with me.
2006-10-13 22:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by James Henderson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you ask him? I think the best way to know what guys think is asking them ...if you want another type of relationship you should tell him..or he´s never going to find out about it
and besides that maybe he thinks you dont want to be his gf...
you ll never know until you ask him
be honest but try not to sound desperate
good luck!
2006-10-13 22:15:11 · answer #6 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how nice my answers gonna be but maybe he really wants a friends with benefits type relationship. it sounds like you got alot of good ones too.
2006-10-13 22:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free?
2006-10-13 22:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your his sex friend, move on if your looking for more
2006-10-13 22:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by smars442002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jp is right. you should give him an ultimatum. be my boyfriend or don't get the treatment a boyfriend gets(the sex)
2006-10-13 22:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by jazzmen4u28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋