i told my female friend who i hav tried to date for 2 years with no success that i hav been actin strange thnx to my A.D.D and my diff. meds that i was takin at the time, but i told her that it was an issue i wouldn't like to discuss but shes goin to ask wat is the issue, should i tell her which might end up in her dislikin me more, or should i keep it a secret
2006-10-13 15:07:12 · 22 answers · asked by bob S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell the truth always, if necessary.
2006-10-13 15:08:47 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've been honest up to this point, it can't hurt to continue the trend.
If you don't want to tell her the truth, tell her you don't want to talk about it, you'd rather keep it to yourself. You don't have to tell anyone anything.
Truth is always easier to maintain than a bunch of lies. Lies are tricky things, and somewhere along the line you'll get the lie wrong, or she'll find something that doesn't add up or you'll find you care about her and want to tell the truth, which means admitting to a lie. Admitting to maintaining a lie for a long time is bad, really bad. She'll never trust you if you lie.
Only open up if you trust her and think she'll understand. Only you can judge that.
2006-10-13 15:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by frouste 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tell someone about your dissabilities, like A.D.D., and what you're using to get passed it, you're saying that you trust they won't tell anyone else. If they ask you to tell them about it, and you truely do believe the person is trust worthy with the topic, and you're comfortable with discussing it, be truthful and let it out. If you can easily say 'this person's truthworthy' and really mean it, and you feel comfortable talking about things, tell them as much as is comfortable for you, and tell them that. Say that you feel comfortable with telling this, but not so comfortable with this. Inform them of how you feel with talking about it, and tat what you don't feel comfortable talking about you wish to not discuss. And if they try to persuade you into saying everything, don't fall for it. Say only what's comfortable for you, and nothing more. if you don't feel comfortable discussing the topic at all, tell them that, and that you'd be grateful if they let you wait until you're ready to bring it up again. If they respect your feelings, they'll proudly do so. Just say what you feel. Nothing more.
2006-10-13 15:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by badams1990 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question first though; why did you reveal to her that you're taking meds? and is it absolutely necessary for you to tell her? if it's something really pertinent to her then, tell her. but if not, and she's being a little nosy, then why reveal something you're obviously not comfortable enough to share? (or else you wouldn't be asking strangers like me!) besides, if you really have been trying to ask her out for so long and she shows no interest, why should she suddenyl intrude herself into your personal business now? sorry, if this seems rude, but i need a little more info to give better advice. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-13 15:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by M.Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't you share those things with friends? I mean if she is trying to pry stuff out of you I would not agree with that however. The sign you gave here is tried to date for two years with no success. Give it up man she aint into you.
2006-10-13 15:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should keep things like that to yourself. Just say you were having some personal problems at the time and hope you didn't offend her in any way.
If she questions that tell her it was a family matter and leave it at that.
2006-10-13 15:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth.
if you're ever guna lie, then yea she may like you.
but sooner or later, if she finds out.. she's gonna dislike you more, because u lied to her. never try to keep a secret.
just be yourself. if she still doesnt like you after u told her the truth, then she's not worthit.
2006-10-13 15:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by ekuuhh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't have to know everything about your medical condition or meds. Only tell her what you'd want repeated to anyone else - after all - people talk.
Good luck :)
2006-10-13 15:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, the truth is ALWAYS best. I will take the truth at any time no matter how much it may hurt me.
if you care for her, be honest.
2006-10-13 15:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be yourself...tell the truth. If she isn't interested in the real you then you need to look elsewhere.....Honey, we are all strange in our own ways, embrace your inner strangeness!!!!
2006-10-13 15:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by ~MEEEOW~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be honest because any relationship isn't worth having if you aren't totally honest. If you start with one lie it will lead to more and more and one day it will blow up in your face.
2006-10-13 15:11:22 · answer #11 · answered by lucky_lady_blazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋