ummm, what are some reasons you dont like a girl?? i'm avg, and short, and have dirty blonde hair and big blue eyes, and my chin is kinda promenent like i have NO double chin, my lips are full, and that's about it. Anyhow are these bad traits?? and i'm shy and quiet, no guy likes me at school, and it's not because i dont know i DO KNOW. and i just wanted to know what some reasons are for that??
2006-10-13 15:05:57 · 21 answers · asked by a 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont have a life obviously, and if i did i wouldnt have asked the question. and i get good grades, and im quiet...
2006-10-13 15:16:28 · update #1
Look, a guy does not fall in love just by your apperance, factors such as intelligence, good grades and a great personality can switch the table around. I prefer to look for kind-hearted girls than b!tchy one's (because their always showing off and it can turn up breaking with you)
2006-10-13 15:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by JMCG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your rush? Honey, I'd ask you out - but only after you graduate. That is so important that even if you offered me your virginity, I'd turn you down. You do NOT need me or any other guy to make you a whole, important person. You need for YOU to do that.
Look, just be cool, be polite, speak when spoken to, and just do your thing. Take part in band, chorus, thespians (acting in the school play), student council - and be active in your community. Join 4-H, get into scouting. Ask your guidance counsellor about particpating in the American Legion's oratorical contest, the VFW's Americanism essay contest. Volunteer at your local Red Cross blood bank, the local food bank or animal shelter. THE MORE INVOLVED YOU ARE IN YOUR COMMUNITY, BOTH IN SCHOOL AND OUT, THE MORE NOTICED YOU WILL BECOME, AND THE MORE GUYS WILL BEGIN TO GET INTERESTED!
Okay, yeah, you wouldn't want to date me; I'm old enough to be your grandfather...but child, I've been around the world with the relationship thing while you have yet to be around the block. The foregoing is what works and brings serious, lasting relationships with the kind of guy you'd want to have in your life for the rest of your life. You try to rush it, you'll screw it up but good. You do sound like a fascinating person, and it won't be long, if you lighten up, for some cool guys your own age to get interested.
2006-10-13 22:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great lovely young lady. Love you first & yeah here comes a lecture-look at yourself in the mirror everyday till you learn to love yourself. Really look in your eyes & love all of you even your defects.
No those are not bad traits. Right now school takes on a big part of your life. Rest assured that next year & in five years this will seem trivial. Remember to treat yourself gently & not be so hard on yourself.
In time you will meet someone...btw maybe some guy secretly likes you but is shy too. Those big blue eyes of yours will soon begin to hypnotize the guys!
Right now is not a picnic and we are all socially unsure like this when young. And older...Good luck to you & frig what others say about you.
2006-10-13 22:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would DEFINITLY hit you up. Full-lipped girls are said to be very sensual and that word ALONE turns me on. Looks aren't so important to me (anymore) because I've seen about 10,000 different varieties of the same species and it comes down to the fact that she may have it outside, but her characteristics are what are important. But since you asked, a couple reasons I don't like girls is because they use makeup like they're trying to cover up who they actually are. One of my pet peeves is when a girl (when using a lip moisturizer) uses the kind that makes the lips like they are constantly wet (the "I-just-licked-my-lips" look). Another reason that I don't like some girls is because they go for the hot guys. That's normal. Well, sorta normal. That's 'cause I'm not the hottest looking chap around. There are better looking ones out there and here I'm thinking maybe I'm looking in the wrong place. But seriously, whether your traits are good or bad is decided by the individual. I've learned in my own looks and the looks of other people, that the more you try to alter your traits, the more you are likely to attract the kind of person you don't like. Be yourself. Every guy that I know of and every guy that I've read about on this network HATES surprises. As in, the girl he dated turned out to be something totally different once the newness wore off.
2006-10-13 22:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will answer this with the absolute TRUE ANSWER. Open your mind and really think about it. Everyone wants to go and see or do the latest and greatest cool thing, movie, game, concert, etc, whatever. The reason is because people want the fun and the wonder and the excitement and the mystery of life to be available for them to chase after and watch and just be there as it happens. People get a thrill from that, they feel good to be there while the excitement and the fun is happening. OK.. here's the secret. If YOU APPEAR TO BE HAVING FUN WITH YOUR LIFE AND ENJOYING YOURSELF AND JUST BEING HAPPY TO BE ALIVE AND IT LOOKS LIKE YOU ARE JUST HAPPY TO BE WHEREVER YOU ARE.. people will want to be near you in the same way. Just like the same way they want to be near the fun and exciting things. Forget about if a guy wants to be near you because of your hair, your lips, your ***, whatever. Thats just what the eyes see. The excitment , the fun, and the happiness is the real things that people are looking for. If you do that, I kid you not, you will be trying to choose between all the pretenders who keep trying to be near you. If they only want what the eyes see, then that means they are doing things for themselves and they wont ever want to do anything for you. stay away from those kinds of people. They will only hurt your feelings.
2006-10-13 22:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by shawn h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quiet people ahve a hard time finding people...trust me...was very similar to you in high school. maybe try to get out a little more...hang out with friends and work on your social skills...try something neutral at firs.t..meeting groups of friends for coffee( or any other drink) at a coffee shop....great places to chat and just people watch. Then, as your confidence in social circumstances improve...go for one on one meetings... you're jsut in high school and have a lot of time yet to become a social butterfly :)
2006-10-13 22:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by bald_guy69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a good kid. Don't get hung up on guys. You'll have plenty of time them. your just getting started in life. Try to think of the benefits. At least you don't have guys hanging on just to get in your pants. and at your age thats about all they think of anyway. you'll be OK.
2006-10-13 22:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe there are guys there that like you, you just cant tell. Also non of these traits are bad, you just have to be more open.
2006-10-13 22:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by Dead_Flame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrogance and insecurity, I guess. You know that it's what's inside that counts. Make friends with me, show me you're a likable enough rascal, and I just might want to get to know you better.
2006-10-13 22:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about that. Godd things come to those who wait. Pay attention to your studies. It's prolly cause you dont portray yourself as a whore and thats good.
2006-10-13 22:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by mermer7@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋