Last night me and my fiance got into a big fight. I dont get to see him much becuz he is always working. Well he told me wednesday night that he did not have to work sunday. Well I made plans for him to come to my house to spend time together. He got on and said that they are making everyone work saturday and sunday both. I totally blew up and went off on him. I get mad so eaisly. I never think befor I say hurtful things and last night he said he was a loser and that he was worthless. He is not, but I guess I made him feel that way. I love him a lot and he said that I need to understand he has a job and has to work. Well we dont get much time together and it hurt me when he said he had to work. I said that he didnt care about me and didnt want to see me or anything. It hurt him a lot. I didnt mean it really. I say things without thinking. We are going on a year the 27th. Can someone please help me find a way to not get mad so eaisly b4 i screw this relationship up?
2006-10-13 14:48:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You seem to be more frustrated than mad. Do you have a job or friends, hobby, or are you in school. If you cant take him being away from you and your not married yet whats gonna happen when you are married? The bills have to be paid and you have to eat. let the man work. It seems like you have to much time on your hands and look to him to fill that time, but babygirl he cant. He has responsibilities and you should be proud that he is taking care of them because it shows that when the time comes for you to get married he will do what he has to to take care of you. If you are working get some extra hours, in school do some studying, pick up and old hobby. You are pushing him away. If you wanna spend time with him go eat with him on his lunch break.Being his girl and future wife consists of more than just nagging him. remind him that you love him. And if you make plans with him make sure he knows than ask him to let you know asap if something comes up at work then you can reschedule your day( girls night out or something)
2006-10-13 15:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by HERE4U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty normal to be nervous about your pregnancy especially if you have that kind of history! Are you with the baby's father?? If so, he needs a wake up call!!! Could he be going through similar feelings? Also, if you have this history you should be considered a high risk pregnancy, I would think!!! Do you have any friends or family who can take you to the doctor? You really should find some way to the doctor and maybe re-think the relationship that you are in if he is as selfish as you just made him out to be!!! I wish you the best of luck...try not to worry yourself too much, easier said than done, I know, but stressing over it isn't good for you or the baby either! Hope everything goes great for you!
2016-05-22 00:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, but my boyfriend and I have been together almost 3 years. I had the same temper, but I never said things like that to him. The ugly things you say will most likely be your downfall. The bills have to be paid, so what does that have to do with him not wanting to be with you. You need to learn to have patients. If you set your mind that when you make plans that there is a big chance they will get broke... you won't get as upset, because your heart won't be set on seeing him. I know it's hard... believe me, I know. If there are times that you can't hold your temper you need to tell him that you will call him back that you have to go. When you calm down is the time to talk.
2006-10-13 14:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Marla C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you dont think before speaking why do you continue to do it. Thats the first thing you need to work on. You are hurting people and it should matter to you now its making you hurt the one you love. That should be reason alone to want to stop. This man is putting up with your childish antic and it needs to stop. I could see if this man said he was hanging out with his boys but he said he had to work. If you want to make it to the 27th or to the alter you need to wake up.Your man could be doing worst things but he is working.
2006-10-13 16:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologize first,say you didnt mean a thing and work your way from there..i think it'll take some time before things go back to normal..whenever you're in an argument,try to leave the scene and let your head cool down a bit,then contemplate whether what you're thinking or gonna say won't hurt the other person..
2006-10-13 15:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by Tricky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation... My husband works nights and I work days and we have different days off. The way we make it work is he gets up with me in the morning and makes coffee for us and I TRY and stay awake to see him when he gets home. Wednesday is always date night. Whether that means we go out or have a nice night at home, it's our night. If you truly love each other, you'll find ways to make it work.
2006-10-13 14:59:29 · answer #6 · answered by kcastillo1220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can quit beating your self up now....... think about all the girls who get this guy who won't give up his guy friends and I think you will know it is work keeping him away not so bad is it? Call him and apologize before he finds someone who won't yell at him I bet he misses you too until the fit starts.
2006-10-13 14:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him u care...send him something like his fav candy to his work just so he knows ur always thinking of him and that ur sorry u made the man of ur dreams feel like crap. he'll be so glad.
2006-10-13 15:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by Tic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl you both need to come to an agreement.settle things.then you both will know how better to communicate to each other
2006-10-13 14:52:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your sorry first and tell him that you wont ever do it again
2006-10-13 14:50:57 · answer #10 · answered by ya girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋