my boyfriend lives bout 4 days drive away from me and he askes me to marry him. and im 18 but my mum and dad wont let me go down to see him. what do i do????
2006-10-13 14:47:24 · 10 answers · asked by Tasha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good things come to those who wait...
if he loves you and wants you make him come to you!!!!
2006-10-13 14:49:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sharp Marble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to get married at 18 do you?? Live a little.
If your parents won't let you go to see him, the marriage is going to be tough to say the least.
Marriage is a big thing, and 18 is so very young. I did a lot of flirting when I was 18 & 19, and I tell you, being married would have put a severe dampener on that. I'm not talking about sleeping around (that's just disgusting and dangerous), but you need to have some time in your life when you're a mature, single, adult female. You need to have a period in your life where you're independant. It'll make everything else so much easier.
You need to live for yourself a while before you get married and end up taking care of him and what ever you reproduce.
Why can't you just have a boyfriend? Why get married just yet? If you're still together in three years, why not get married then?? Also, how well can you know him if he lives so far away? I know it feels appealing to spend all day every day for the rest of your life with him *now*, but that's a heck of a long time, and a year later, boy are you going to wish you'd known he liked to eat with his pants undone *before* you married him.
Your parents are probably thinking about (sorry to use this phrase) "what's best for you". They're right. They've lived through this stage already. They're not just being difficult and trying to repress you. If they don't like him, there's probably a reasonable reason why.
You don't have to marry the guy to be in a relationship with him. Marriage is a big big step. If you want to get out of the marriage it's expensive and painful, better to wait til you're sure it's something *you* want to do.
2006-10-13 22:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by frouste 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wait. 4 days drive away? How much do you get to see him now? I know how much love feels incredible and that it will last forever....but are you really seeing him enough now to decide that you want to give up the rest of your life right now for him. Do you want to really get married or just see him more???? If you just want to see him more, then think maybe even just about moving closer to where he lives on your own. You have so much that you cannot even imagine right now over the next 5 years. It dosn't mean you can't experience it with him. But you don't need to be married to explore the world together. Once married your goal should be forever married. Take your time...forever is a very long time.
2006-10-13 22:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by Sleepless in Seattle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your parents don't think he is serious. Parents are always worried about their children, especially daughters and it takes a long time to convince them that you are no longer a little girl. Try to talk to them and make them understand that you both are serious and that you want to be with him. I don't know where you live, but here in America, you are considered an adult. I would never tell you to go against your parents, but surely you can find a way to let them know how you feel and hopefully change their minds. I wish you luck and may God be with you.
2006-10-13 22:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by KieKie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting married is a big deal...being an adult that's a big deal...depending upon reason for their not letting you go as to what you should do...but what ever their reason they are your parents and that is the biggest deal.He needs to work out something between you and your parents as to the arrangements of your engagement that you can all agree to.See ...making an adult decision about this will determine how adult you are.
2006-10-13 21:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by Stella G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you want to get married to him....if you do, then you're a legal adult and your parents can't stop you. They can only make it really difficult for you. If you don't, then tell him no and obey your parents.
2006-10-13 21:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by __Shele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How , when and where did he propose to you?? You are 18
2006-10-13 21:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by southernn_sky_2020 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will change so much as you grow into your 20s and beyond. Just be boyfriend and girlfriend.
2006-10-13 21:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 18. You can do whatever You want.
2006-10-13 21:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 18 and you can do what you want.
If you dont have a car then you need to take a bus.... or else your stealing their car
2006-10-13 21:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋