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I am a female and I love all things...except shallow people. I love sports and cooking and the occasional,trend. But at parties and friends gathering...all they do is gossip, i don't want to hang out with the guys and talk about sports...although i would love to...but the women talk about their kids( i have none yet) or about the latest rumors. They even judge people at the party...there are some very pretty girls...and they get hated on, I don't like the gossip so I leave...often finding myself alone in a corner. some make the comments that they hate sports and thier boyfriends for watching...so sports converations are out. I could talk about the latest fashion...but that quickly turns into the latest gossip..because some bought that pair of jeans ..now they think they are hot...and then it's off to has the juicier gossip. I don't want to stay home...or stop attending the scocial events all together...but what else can I do...if i really don't like the dramatic conversations .

2006-10-13 14:25:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Etiquette

JOE: It was a metaphore...i see where your mind is....

2006-10-13 14:44:08 · update #1

19 answers

Well, you are obviousley intelligent and are bored with this type boring conversation.
You need an intellectual group to join.
These type of woman bore the hell out of me, too.
It is as if they got married, had kids and went brain dead.

2006-10-13 15:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

That's a VERY interesting question. I know a few women that whinge about how shallow and surface men can be - and then turn around and say things like, "I only date tall guys," or "Ooooh, he has to have a six-pack"...mind you, this is usually from the flabbiest chick in the room. Never mind the salary question! I can't stand that thinking, and if these women would realize how hypocritical and shallow they're being, they might not be sitting around wondering why they're pushing 40 and still single - and not by choice.

2016-05-22 00:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by Greta 4 · 0 0

Very good question.

However, If you are so shallow yourself to think that men only talk about sports then you need to sit in the corner by yourself and feel like you do. Talk about being a hypocrite. How about starting a conversation and find out that men are people to and can articulate themselves with other interesting topics other than why the Texans suck.

You should hate yourself for being shallow.

2006-10-13 14:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by joe 3 · 0 1

they say the two things you should NEVER discuss with friends is religion and politics, but i say at a dinner party, GO FOR IT! people need that stimulation. people need that "heat" to survive. let's not be afraid to be confrontational, opinionated and intelligent. let's see who gets their news from People magazine or CNN lol when there is a lull in the convo, or subject to shallow to wade in, then i say bring up the latest news. or heck bring up something you know EVERYONE will agree on, like crime. you can start off by saying you heard on the news...mention a crime. and watch people get passionate about the subject. or you can start with,"i'm hearing alot about Bono and his crusade for fighting poverty and aids. now dont make jokes, but i think it's ashame in 2006 there are people STILL dying because of poverty." and then watch the convo flourish. if you dont want shallow, then fill up the "tank". GOOD LUCK!!

2006-10-13 14:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I understand what you mean. I like to talk about books, movies, T.V., the news, all sorts of things - and they are stuck on the mundane. I hate it too.

Sounds like you need some new friends, or maybe challenge your friends to talk bout something else. Introduce a couple of new topics and see if they will "bite". Good luck.

2006-10-13 15:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by Karla R 5 · 0 0

I commend you for not listening to gossip. I'm sorry that it has caused you such a difficult time.

Perhaps you can suggest activities with your friends that allow you to focus your energies. Instead of just milling around at a party, for example, you could invite people to play a game.

2006-10-13 15:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0 0

You should try and find some friends who aren't so completely shallow. Not all women are interested in gossipping or being rude!

2006-10-13 14:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by littlenicky 2 · 0 0

Hey, I totally understand. Its hard these days to find like-minded people out there but we are there.
Don't worry about Joe. He seems to have a hate on for eveything.
Check out the one question he asked by clicking on his name.
Real winner!!!!

2006-10-13 14:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by davebarrca 4 · 0 0

Join a book club. You will met ladies that are well read and intelligent. Gossip is very rare.

2006-10-13 14:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 0 0

You are starting to grow up. At some point people realize that socializing is just posing and manipulating to get what you want. So, either use it to your advantage, or pursue something more intellectual like winning a nobel peace prize or something.

2006-10-13 14:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by martin h 6 · 1 1

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