I'm overweight and My step dad is a pain in the butt about it. He calls me "pig", "fat-***", and some other bad things. I've told my mother about it and she says that he doesn't mean what he said. I don't think what she said is right. What should I do?
2006-10-13 14:05:29 · 27 answers · asked by alexp_412 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe your Mom doesn't realize how much it hurts your feelings when he calls you names. I doubt talking to him about it would help much, but maybe you should have a serious talk about it with your mom so that she can see how it hurts you. If she won't take you seriously on the matter, try going to your school counselor and get some advice from him. Nobody should have to put up with verbal abuse in their own home. Good luck.
2006-10-13 14:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by Leda 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's a real jerk, nit-wit, nim-rod, A S S H O L E, numb-nut, dip-stick, dick-head old fart who doesn't have a clue how to talk to people! Don't even listen to him. And your mom is just avoiding conflict she has to live with him. Give her a break, she loves you!!! JUST KNOW IN YOUR OWN MIND AND HEART that you might be over weight or even fat and can always do something about it if need be, but that he is just UGLY ON THE INSIDE and can never change that. Only you can come to that point in your life to make a decision about your weight & health.
I'm sure you already know it's not good for you in fact bad and will eventually cause serious side affects like heart disease, high blood pressure , congestive heart failure & so much more. And that would be a tragic way to go knowing you did it to yourself. With that in mind stop for 5 seconds & think about that bite of food your about to put in your mouth & maybe just take one big bite if you have to not a bowl or plate full . And how you'd like to make him eat his own words! That might give you incentive to eat better!! I'm overwieght too, I'll try if you will. Good Luck!
2006-10-13 21:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In the first place your mom should say something to him about this instead of blowing it off. It's not right but some people don't know how to word things properly. Try your best to just ignore him even though I know it must be hard because he's the one who has the problems. ;o)
2006-10-14 12:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks he's being cute. Sure he's acting like an idiot. But he thinks he's being cute. I used to get teased about my weight by a relative. It got to the point I quit even talking to them. They never got the hint, or didn't care.
People who aren't funny, and don't think funny, go to the stupidest places looking for a laugh.
2006-10-13 21:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by martino 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a JACKASS!! How old are you? If you are a teenager I'd get nasty right back. But that is being disrespectful to adults.
Ask to go live with your dad or grandparents.
Him being a stupid jackass is doing nothing for your self esteem.
Show you mom the responses you have received maybe that will motivate her to look after your well being for a change. He is not joking and it is not funny.
2006-10-13 21:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your stepfather is abusing you, and your mother is brushing it off, which is neglect, and she probably doesn't care. I had the exact same thing with my "stepdad" who was really just one of my mom's retarded jackhole boyfriends. I would plot revenge, because the situation cannot be solved. They are abusive and you need to empower yourself by retaliating harshly, but at the right time. You have to put up with it for now.
2006-10-13 21:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by martin h 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's an a$#hole for calling you any kind of name at all. If he doesn't mean it, then why is he saying it?
Ignore him. Tell your mother when he demonstrates respect and learns to address you by your proper name, you'll stop ignoring him. How you can possibly respect someone who won't respect you? Your friends and teachers and everyone else calls you by your name (or nickname) and so should he.
2006-10-13 21:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well try to ignore it he probably just wants the best for you but as long as you are healthy and happy then you know who cares and if your mom has a problem with it she would say something but just remember to respect your step dad maybe if you told him how you feel about it he will stop good luck
2006-10-13 21:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by bananas 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is obviously ignorant about relationships and parenting. Be strong and tell him that when he says it it hurts your feelings. He may think that teasing you will make you decide to lose weight, or he may just be a jacka$$. Talk to him. If he doesn't stop, call him a jacka$$ when he calls you fat.
2006-10-13 21:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by troyboy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Calling anybody such names makes him a class act jerk. Tell him I said so. You are person who deserves respect & dignity. Being over weight as a child is tough & such people do not help. Being a kid is tough enough. Be yourself & hold your head up. You are very okay just as you are. Take care.
2006-10-13 21:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋