I have a feeling that the person I am intimate with is cheating on me, but I've asked them and they always tell me they are not. Are there signs I can look out for?
2006-10-13 13:39:38 · 6 answers · asked by Dragon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust what your feelings are telling you.
But keep your mouth shut and your eyes open.
Don't ask him any questions about cheating on you. Do you think he is stupid enough to tell you? He will just become more sneaky. If he really is cheating on you he will trip up in time and he will blow his cover himself. Just keep your eyes open.
2006-10-13 13:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by woooh! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite difficult unless you catch him in the act otherwise all you really have are suspicions which could be innocent. Do be really careful not to make accusations without being certain.
Signs that may help includes:
1. He lies about where he has been.
2. He doesn't seem all into you anymore.
3. He doesn't seem to want to be intimate.
4. Doesn't make time for you but seem to have time for many other social activities.
5. He gets affectionate messages from another woman on his cell phone.
6. He suddenly dresses much more smartly when he is heading out somewhere without you, more smartly than he used to.
None of the above are proof he is cheating but they are things that raise questions about your relationship.
2006-10-13 13:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by The boy from London 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he staying out more are working late and normal, is trying to start a fuss to get out of the house and are people calling hanging up does he real mad when you bring it up that a sure sign . is dressing better and is he leaving you at home alot alone and said he going out with the boys well if he is doing all the thing you bet your a.. he is having affair and if you fill it in your gut then it probably true
2006-10-13 14:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at watch before going to 24HourFitness... taking a shower before going there (gym)... looking at themselves and asking if the clothes they are wearing look good on them... asking how their abs look... working overtime- when it never was necessary before... etc, etc, etc.... You should know your man best, though- if you feel something is different about him and suspicious- be sharp and see what it is- ...be able to pinpoint it... don't just feel like something isn't right. Does he shout at the kids now- when he never did before for example? Does he get irritated fast and seems absent minded? Is something coming up- like a trip or a special occasion, but he doesn't seem to care about any of it at all.... doesn't seem excited- no involvement in anything you feel strongly about..... It's ok to ask, but you gotta do it like a true investigator... This is how I found out: he shouted at our son... I said to him calmly... I am very sure now that something is very wrong with you... can you tell me what it is? He said nothing was wrong - he was just tired. Thirty minutes later I went back to him... I said... did you think about telling me the truth now?... His answer: What? What are you talking about? Nothing is wrong!..... thirty minutes after that I approached him again: I am so ready to hear it- the truth, please- are you ready to tell me the truth... I am so ready to hear it- I know something is going on, .... please tell me. And BAM!!! He started confessing.... Apparently they started kissing at this point... I called her and they didn't talk, yet ... the first thing she said was that nothing happened... and that he loved me..... He said to me that he actually pushed her off of himself when she wanted to move beyond kissing.
So, you see- questioning can get you the answer, but do it in a calm professional manner. Good luck.
2006-10-13 13:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he ignore you? Does he call you often? Has he's attitude changed towards you? Do little things that you do upset him? Is he making excuses all the time? HONEY, THE RED FLAGS ARE EVERY WHERE! The question is DO YOU WANT TO ADMIT IT? I'm sure you already know the truth.
2006-10-13 13:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by Karina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes....if he os accusing you of sleeping with other people, if he is suddenly jealous or insecure, and if he is not looking at you in the eyes whenever he tries to explain where he has been......and last but not least, if you have a gut feeling, its probably true......ditch him
2006-10-13 13:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by Beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋