What type of thing's should someone who is trying BDSM for the first time use?

Question

I'm not looking to try this out or anything, It's just something I'm guenuinely curious about.

Answer 1

The whole purpose of BDSM in my opinion is to explore and find out what works best between you and your partner. The important thing is to start light and with one thing at the time. Your mileage may vary, but I think it is important to take your time.

When I was introduced to BDSM the first time my partner just handcuffed me and somewhat later added a blindfold. When I introduced my wife to the game I started with a rope harnass.

For a introductory links see here:
http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/BDSMinfo/the_basics.htm

BDSM book:
http://www.amazon.com/101-Realistic-Introduction-Jay-Wiseman/dp/0963976389

Answer 2

It all depends upon your purpose, and your place. Are you top dog, or need-to-be-punished mutt? Are you wanting to be bound or tease/torment those you bind?

As far as experiencing it, two things come immediately to mind that you can quietly try for yourself. One is get a sheet and roll yourself up in it. Then just lay there and experience the helpless feeling. Another is buy a dog collar and leash for yourself. Put it on and walk around with it for a while. The next steps include, at your convenient order, take your clothes off and do your housework like that. When you sit to watch TV, sit on the floor, with the leash up on your shoulder(s) as if your master can take it at any time. Try that again with a length of fabric strips you tie around your hands behind you, then just sit for an hour or two, unmoving, not speaking, like a good dog sitting at a show awaiting the master's commands. You might even put the dog collar on (without leash this time) and go shopping (somewhere you don't usually go if it is the first time).

This will give you the feel before you plunge into the real with a real master or slave (see first paragraph).

Answer 3

Try spanking. Costs nothing. Lots of couples do it. Role play helps if you can do that.

Answer 4

Whips, chains, and clamps.

Start light, then work your way up.

You should try it.