A New Jersey church is trying to get parishoners by advertising that "God wants you to have great sex."
The pastor of the nondenominational church states he is trying to attract people who are at 'risk of throwing their lives away' by having sex too young, outside of marriage or in inappropriate relationships. He also says that church is the one place sex should be discussed but isn't because 'God invented sex'.
Do you agree with the pastor and his approach? Or do you see this as another way to just get people through the door?
2006-10-13 13:19:33 · 37 answers · asked by genaddt 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
God does want people to have sex; sex is the ultimate expression of love for someone, you are giving them everything you can give and opening yourself to them completely. God invented sex for our pleasure, and it shouldn't be treated as taboo in the church. I think this pastor is doing a very smart thing, appealing to today's people. Sex is such a huge part of everything today, and people need to know that Christians aren't against it. I think the reason God tells us not to have sex before marriage is because the longer you wait, the more amazing it will be when you finally give everything you have to the love of your life, and that's something you can only share once; if you are not a virgin, that's hurts a lot for the other person, because that's a part of you they will never have.
2006-10-13 13:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by grenworthshero 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that any venue, church included, where the discussion of sex is meant to inform people of the possible consequences of early, premarital, or inappropriate sex and the joys of sex in a healthy relationship is a positive thing. Now I do believe that the advertisement for the church "God wants you to have great sex" may be a little overboard and of course an attempt to attract people, but still a statement that I believe to be true. Sex sells everything else under the sun, many negative and potentially harmful things, so why not let it sell God?!
2006-10-13 13:32:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As has been noted already -- SEX SELLS.
I have noted in my roaming that some churches have put out pumpkin patches with signs; probably some social service companion fund raiser. Trying to catch up with Roman bingo.
My opinion goes for one and all: They are end time churches; where the Lord Jesus Christ has been locked outside the door. Sex education belongs in the home and not in church, school or government.
They have been able to preach about sex any Sunday they want.
They can start by teaching women to dress modest, refrain from wearing pants and cutting their hair after the fashion of men; so that their prayers will be heard before God. You can see what a big crowd real Bible truth would draw.
2006-10-13 13:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by Tommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way i agree with the Pastor. ever heard that quote "sex sells"? Well it really is to get people through the door. and when they do They will be able to hear the truth about what God has to say about sex. At my church, on youth nights, Our youth Pastor does a series called " love, sex, and dating" And he also says that God wants us to have great sex" only when your Married.
But to put out the message "God wants you to have great sex" would only put a bad image for there church and ours. Because people think that if one is that way , there all that way. so my finally answer would be no I disagree. There could be a better and appropriate way.
2006-10-13 13:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by rickysa24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a scary church. The Scriptures say that we are to preach the gospel, this is the way people get saved no matter what the times are like. This Pastor is wrong and will be held accountable for it. He won't last very long trying to run a church this way. My husband is a Pastor and he is horrified with this kind of thing. This is not being done with the Holy Spirit, this guy is on his own.
2006-10-13 13:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How else would God say Go and multiply if he does not encourage sex? But for the priest to say it has to be done the way you say he told his congregation is quite irresponsible. I do not know if what you are saying is true or you got the wrong impression. Unless the parish is really desperate enough to invite an already promiscous parishioners to get inside the church.
2006-10-13 13:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rallie Florencio C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all There is nothing wrong at all with talking about anything that is in Gods word inside a church.
Gods word is there for us to learn from. Why would we teach our children and our young adults to stay away from sex and all the dangers involved and then the minute they are married, tell them only green light "go ahead" and have fun? Shouldnt they also be taught just exactly what sex is?
There is no sense in only telling them what not to do, and then leaving them on their own when it comes time for what to do, and there are many married couples who have no idea what biblical sex is, beyond its ok after you are married.
When my first child got engaged and just before his marriage, I sat down with him and explained that I was well aware that he and his wife to be both had fears of what was expected from them on their wedding night.
I explained to him about many things, including the mans responsibility to "listen" with his ears and his heart and exploring and finding out what pleases her, and that she would most likely be doing the same thing with him.
Even if it is a way to get people through the door, at least once they are through the door, they will be getting Gods word on the subject of sex and not mans opinion.
2006-10-13 13:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by cindy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't just a way to get people in the door. God does want us to have sex. It is only the Catholic church that has male priests that have sex with young boys that makes sex dirty in church.
2006-10-13 13:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally speaking i wish i would have waited until i was married to have sex bc quite frankly my husband is the best lover i have ever had and for all the heartache(and unfourtunately in some cases STD's ). i could have waited. Not to mention our sex over thepast 8 yrs has gotten better and better. I think Christians have a problem with being sexy as a whole...i mean sex should be discussed in church its apart of life and it is apart of the marriage ministry. as long as he is promoting it inside marriage ..its kewl with me.. i mean that shouldn't be the foundation for his church tho'
2006-10-13 13:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by yellabanana77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think promoting sex to help keep couples together is a good thing.
There is nothing wrong with promoting sex, but I'm not sure the church is the best, unbiased place to get that sort of direction.
2006-10-13 13:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by Scooter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋