There is this woman that i work with and i have this huge crush on her. About a month and a half ago she started sending me strong signals that she is interested but i never really reponded back because i am such a whimp i really did not know how to ask her out untill about a week ago i finally got some guts and ask and she told me that she is allready seeing someone else and why did i not ask her a month ago. Now most guys would have moved on but the thing is she is still sending me some of those signals and i know that she still likes me so i was just wondering sould i try and force my way in to her life and make her forget about the other dude or just move on?
2006-10-13 13:07:31 · 10 answers · asked by shawninonaga 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you read my post I'm in a similar position as you read my question if you have a chance.
Ok, since she told you that she's already dating someone and you should have asked a month ago. This is what you do don't force your way in....this may sound crazy but the best thing you can do for yourself and keep your respect is ignore her....if she tries to make small talk with you.
Be graceful and tactful and if she tries to makes eye contact with you look the other way before she gets the chance to bat her eyes.....and when she finally realizes or thinks you're no longer interested she will come to you and when she does....kind of quote and say to her "Wow, if only I met you a month before you met the guy your with now" try it.... and if you really like her ignore her advances and stares. She will come running to you....mark my word
Good Luck
2006-10-13 13:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Ebonee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry about this, but you don't want to force your way into her life, that will lead up to no good, but what you should do is kinda move on, you can still show that you care for her even if she already has a bf cause if she is still giving you the look then she must have some feeling for that and maybe in time she will ask you out, but don't dread over this, there are lots of women who probably think your a wonderful guy.
Good Luck
2006-10-13 13:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Korri babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Men are funny!! what 'signals' was she giving you? which 'some' of the 'signals' is she sending you?
If she was really interested, she would have said so. she can't be serious with someone who she has only been with for a month. She could have said let's meet for a drink or something.
This is a SIGNAL enough to tell you that she is a 'flirt' and she is just playing with you. Ignore her. She doesn't like you, she likes to wind you up!
2006-10-13 13:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just play it cool for a while. Keep up the flirtation, but don't by any means try to "force" your way into her life. If she's still sending signals, then she's still interested, and the other guy is just a phase. (Good grief - she's only been dating him for a month!) Flirt shamelessly with her and send those signals. Now the ball is in her court. It's up to her to make a move.
2006-10-13 13:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't. You cannot just snap your fingers and make her forget about this guy like magic. You're just going to have to respect her new relationship, and leave her alone. After all, you had your chance. Continue the friendship, and keep being the same guy that she was attracted to in the first place, and who knows, maybe eventually, things will pick back up between the two of you. If things are meant to be, then they will be. Good luck!
2006-10-13 13:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say ignore her. She sees that you are stressing about it and she's giving you signals but then says no, what is that? She's just playing around, she's probably just a tease. Maybe if you ignore her for a while she might come around. If she's giving you problems now imagine how she's going to be if you actually date and end up as gf and bf. She's going to drain you man. DON"T DO IT!!!
2006-10-13 13:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by Karina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Force, subtle approach works better, show continued interest and be yourself... most women are romantics, bring her a small flower and put it on her desk.... bingo you're in the running again...
2006-10-13 13:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on man, but i guess you have to take the blame for not asking her out before.
2006-10-13 13:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can ask her again, tell her it will just be a "friend" date, and no strings attached. If all goes well, she might like u more!
2006-10-13 13:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you no hoper
2006-10-13 13:11:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋