How can you be lonely when there is loads of people around you?

Question

no i don't feel sorry for myself, it's just i don't feel like i belong !!!!

Answer 1

You're just not connected with the people around you.

It could be something that you're doing or it just might mean that you don't share interests or your self expression is at different levels.

Try to make the best of what you have and create more connections.

Gravitate to people and activities where you naturally have more in common with people.

For instance I used to go to pubs and be the only one of my mates that didn't like getting drunk. It can be pretty lonely being the only sober one, so I just stopped going and found different places to spend my time. I'm talking a good few years ago like 10, but I stopped going to pubs and even since I do partner based dancing, my favourite being salsa (more or less depending if I'm in a relationship). It's really difficult to dance to a high level and drink, its the equivilent of drunk driving, I dance and can talk to lots of non drunk people, fantastic. There's a lot more in common with the people there and I can go almost anywhere to dance (I live near London) and not feel lonely.

Its all about connecting with people at the same level as you.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

I travel quite a bit around the world and for some reason travelling broadens the mind. It's a bit like a one way road over a bridge, once crossed there's no going back. I to have been in the same situation, the experiences you talk about, the things you've seen etc.... to a non travelled or worldly wise person are totally unimaginable and hence, the more you try to share, the more boring you get to those individuals. So, as a consequence you remain silent, thereby, subtle as it is, the feeling as you described creeps in.

Answer 3

Your are obviously unhappy with something, maybe you do belong but you are doing something so you feel as if you don't belong. Do you know all these people that are around you, have you made that effort to be with them? Maybe you don't fit into that crowd as in you share different interests etc? You need a common ground with mates.

I split with my partner beginning of this year and I lost everything, car, home and had to get my own flat which was miles from anyone and anywhere and my friends deserted me - that was pure loneliss.

Answer 4

Because even though there are a lot of people around you, you feel like you are alone. You don't feel like you are really around anyone, and you feel like you can't blend in. If you don't want to be lonely, then you can try to spend more time with the people, so you don't feel so alone. You can be at a table with a lot of people and feel like no one is around you. Another way to not feel lonely is to try to talk to other people, and try to find out what you have in common with them, so you don't feel lonely. Just try to blend in, and spend more time with people, so you can get more friends.

Answer 5

Because everybody tends to get so absorbed into their own lives that even though you are all together you might as well be alone. People don't reach out to others anymore which is quite sad actually. But you might also be isolating yourself by being cold or unresponsive. Try focusing on 1 person to start with and do something about it. It gets easier the more you try it!

Answer 6

Society never grew with rules for large masses. Our ancestors lived in small villages where everyone was known. So we have learnt to ignore, to detach to walk past, not to speak. How often do you get on a train and ignore the people around you. You do not talk to them because you don't know them and there are too many to know or so you have been trained. Therefore it is not hard to see that those who live next to each other ignore each other. Do you know the names of all who live in your street. Do you know the names of all those who work in your building for most the answer will be no. Fact colleagues go to work and never socialise, then they go home and have no families and no friends because they never make them. They have no introductions to make them with then they become lonely.

Answer 7

This is the only time you can feel lonely. Being alone is just that. Not being able to relate to others is real loneliness. Show an interest in others when in company. Ask questions. Explain that you are shy, but want to communicate.

Answer 8

You can feel surrounded by loads of people but still feel an emptiness inside of you. It may be because you feel different from everyone else, as in you don't fit in or feel as though you don't belong.

Answer 9

Everyone feels like that some days. I mean in a world where there is millions of people, we don't talk much to the people around us. Although we are a global community we communitcate less. We are distant, distrusting people. That leads to less community, which leads to feeling alone.

Answer 10

Loneliness is being in a crowded room of people and knowing that you are still by yourself. It takes more than just a person to be a friend... often it takes even a shred of common ground. And for some people, there isn't even that much that they share with others.