Is there really such a thing or is this just a lame excuse?
2006-10-13 12:38:44 · 11 answers · asked by nyc88m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think its so much a fear as a laziness issue. Some people just don't like the idea of being tied down to another. They'd rather be free to be with as many people as they'd like until they find the one, or eventually just get suckered into marriage. I personally think that if you have a strong connection with someone, there's no reason to fool around on the side. If they're good to you, be good to them.
2006-10-13 12:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ally S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if someone has had issues in the past within their relationships, then the fear of commitment is real, ie down to their own self esteem or insecurities. Otherwise, its just a lame excuse to play the field!!!
2006-10-13 12:43:53 · answer #2 · answered by carolina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people feel that they'll lose their freedom but (just like I was) some people are to afriad of being hurt that they never let themselves get close enough to love or get into a real relationship to get hurt. But I got over it and I've been in the same relationship for 5 years and i'll be married at the end of the year. If you really want to get over commitment issues take a chance and see what happens.
2006-10-13 12:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is an excuse in every ones case. I've been married twice.I am in a committed relationship. But have some fears of marrying again.
You need to find out what there definition of commitment is. I am committed to our relationship. No interest in dating anyone else, being with anyone but him and want to be together forever.
2006-10-13 12:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are young and not finantially secure it is quite a reality. Women for the most part have no trouble at all comitting to a long-term relationship since they are family-oriented. Men, for the most part, desire to date and have no desire to have children or be with a woman who has kids from another relationship. Women dream of a family, a picket fenced-house, bla-bla-bla. Men treasure their freedom and do not want to be tied down, specially when they are young. After all, it would be a mistake to allow anything (a wife and specially children) to slow down the tide of ambition and finantial success. An older man who has already achieved whatever he wanted in life is more likely to consider a wife and family.
That, my dear, is the long and short of it.
Mr. M on "fear of commitment."
2006-10-13 12:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a lame excuse and lets them be free to see other people and have sex with other people. If they are not committed to you then they can do what ever they desire with out hurting the relationship with you because they are not committed to you.
Don't put up with it.(unless you like it that way too)
~Good Luck~
2006-10-13 14:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is maybe something has happened in this person past in a relationship or during his/her childhood that has them afraid of making a commitment.
2006-10-13 12:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's really a fear of getting hurt . . fear that the relationship won't live up to their expectations . . fear of being with just one person . . .
2006-10-13 12:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
excuse
2006-10-13 12:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SOME PEOPLE ARE VERY SELFISH AND DONT LIKE CHANGE AND OR ARE CONTROLL FREAKS. THESE PEOPLE ARE VERY LONELY. SO YES, I DO THINK IT DOES EXISTS. MOVE ON!!
2006-10-13 12:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by JILL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋