My friends say I am "too nice" to the guys I've dated.I try to treat people the way I would like to be treated but they think that I do to much.Also I have a few friends that are so mean to their boyfriends and men in general, yet they seem to get more attention and never have problems getting a date.
2006-10-13 12:12:35 · 12 answers · asked by nyc88m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry, a man that will appreciate you the way you are will find you. If not contact me.....pls!
Carpe Diem!
2006-10-13 16:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by afrodyzyak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you let people in general control and use you.
Also, I used to be so nice to all girls (the you are to all guys) that I treated them like queens. I learned my lesson of never treat a girl nice unless she actually deserves it. Like if I were with a girl like you, I'd be soooo nice to you because your nice. But if she's a b*tch, I treat her like the way she treats me, and then make sure I end that friendship/relationship and dissappear.
And furthermore, the girls who you know who treat their guys and men in general like crap are probably not going to get very far in finding real love. B*tches usually attract *ssholes, and they both usually lie and cheat on each other, talk smack about the opposite sex, claim love doesn't exist and marraige is stupid, and wonder why they're never happy. YOU sound like an honest genuine person who WILL find real love. Don't be like your friends. Just treat people the way they treat you, don't over-nice it with even those who don't deserve it. You can get hurt for no reason that way.
Your friends, like a lot of mean girls, don't have trouble dating because there are a lot of *sshole guys out their who love dating b*tches because they're only looking for a fun time, not real love. The world is full of B*tches and *ssholes. Not enough good nice people.
2006-10-13 12:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. overall I think that being nice has to do with being respectful and honestly caring for people which is a really good thing. At the same time, you do want to have a bit of an edge in your personality which is possible even for nice people. In other words, even if you are a nice person it is good to stand for what you believe in and not simply followed other people's lead to avoid confrontation. And that is the perfect combination, you are nice and polite, but yet, you can't be pushed around or controlled!
2006-10-13 12:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by jd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. A woman should also be a bit naughty. Too nice is really not all that great. I'd look elsewhere for a 98% nice girl. 100% nice is less good. Sorry.
2006-10-13 12:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by Travbot the Observer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a woman's opinion:
Men don't want a woman to be their doormat. They don't want someone who won't say what she likes or dislikes. Men get tired of hearing a woman say, "You pick the movie because I don't care." and things like that. A woman with a little self-confidence will attract more men than a door mat.
2006-10-13 12:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its fine as long as the man is treating you the way you treat him. I would love to be treated nice (in that way) by a gf. Ive never had one(im tryin) but i would treat them very nice and respecfully also
2006-10-13 13:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by johnathanelson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not a guy but i have learned through the years that yes you can be to nice to a guy....then they take you for granted and run over you...and after a while it seems as you never get to do what you want it always goes his way....
2006-10-13 12:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you want a guy's advice, but if you read the book "Why Men Love Bitches" you'll get all the answers to your question, cause I did!
2006-10-13 12:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let the guys have complete control over you, then yeah
2006-10-13 12:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jer G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what feels right to you, maybe your friends don't have a problem getting dates because they are considered "sure" things to the guys....just be yourself!
2006-10-13 12:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋