i got paregnat at15 and had my ferst babygirl at16 then i disided to go liv with the fawther and leve my school and other things that were very inporten and it was not werth it he sarted to hit me and at the time he hit me i was paregnat agen i wasso mad becaus i sed to my mom that i wasnt going to but i did then he was puting things in my hed saiying that i shud get enuportion and hes cristen so i disided to leve him and now my mom is not helping me with this baby but shes still helping me in other thing and im dot in school becuas thay wont exept my girl in daycer and im at home every day and inportenly the father dos not send me mony for the baby that im going to have and his girl iv tiad to thereten him with child suport but so far he dosent call me eny more and i dont now what to do i need edvas or ideas how to get him to send me mony every week.
2006-10-13 12:06:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Go to the court house. It's called child support. You will get paid weekly. I would also recommend going back to school. It will help you in the long run.
2006-10-13 12:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First- if he's not paying, go to court and sue him. There are lawyers that can take your case to court pro bono (meaning you do not need to pay money). He can also be charged with statutary rape, depending on where you live.
Second, go back to school. You kid will not die from being in daycare couple hours a day (some schools even have day care facilities), but she can die from starvation and suffer in life if she does not have access to good education. Judging by your spelling, you cannot provide her good life because you do not seem able to get a good job (I assume you do not have a high school degree). Get an education and get a job- the father has to pay for child support, but you also have to be responsible. Go get a job and feed your child, do not expect the father to take all of the financial responsibility.
2006-10-13 12:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you raise one child much less 2, if you have no education or job? Give the child up for adoption and get a EDUCATION!!!!! How can you teach your children, if you can't even spell the word first? There are so many great people in the USA that would love to adopt a child, like myself. Adoption sounds like a great idea for you.
2006-10-13 12:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by r2512r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents are divorced and you can get child support till she is like 18 or somthing crazy like that! then yes i would try going back to school ask someone if they can watch your baby for a little while cuz it will help you out in the long run!
2006-10-14 08:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! I have come across many people in your situation. BUt you shouldve been smarter than to be having sex that young then getting pregnant. But besides that... you went to go live with him and have another kid! well the best thing to do is to take legal action! if he doesnt want to pay and u have 2 of kids.. well dont threaten him.. do something about it! Get child support becuz u NEED the money!!!
2006-10-13 12:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by Gaby H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfortunate that you are going through this situation, you are so young. You need to try and obtain some kind of welfare assistance, once you do that those people will find him and make him pay. Make sure you give them ALL of his information. Give them as much as you can. You REALLY need to go back to school and learn how to spell. This is so important for your children. Best of luck.
2006-10-13 12:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by corey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must qualify for social assistance? There are programmes in the US (where I assume you are from) and Canada for young single mothers. These include help with schooling, working, daycare, etc. Contact the social assistance department.
2006-10-13 12:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to send his *** to court ...ASAP!....But get your family taken care of to....here are some things you can do to help you and your babies:
1. Sign up for W.I.C. so that you can get formula and food for you and your children
2. Apply for medi-cal it is free insurence for you and your children. If you dont qualify then........
3. Sign up for Healthy Families. Healthy Families is low cost insurance for children and teens. It provides health, dental and vision coverage to children who do not have insurance and do not qualify for free Medi-Cal.
www.healthyfamilies.ca.gov
There is so much out there that you can do to help your family.....i know its hard with out the father, but dont rely on him....do it yourself in the end...you will feel better cause you did it yourself........
2006-10-13 12:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by gidget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apply for welfare or take him to court for child support. You may be able to get whatever savings he has if you can get him jailed for hitting you. Other than that, apply for welfare and try to go to a community college.
2006-10-13 12:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by reverenceofme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you got pregnant so early, shouldn't have been fooling around....should have used birth control......also learn how to spell because what you wrote is not readable. maybe if you were in school a little longer you would have better writing skills....SPELL CHECK?????
2006-10-13 12:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by blueman2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋