Is it hard?

Question

Is it hard to leave someone we love or do we make it hard so there’s a reason to stay, or are we just scared to take a chance on life?

Answer 1

Fear of the unknown i guess....

Carpe Diem!

Answer 2

I think there is so many factors for discussion with this question. One could analyse it saying that it is nature to not want to leave someone that you have an emotional attachment too. That in leaving someone we love, we in turn are abandoning not only them apart of ourselves. Or you could look at it from a very freudian point of view, which would say that by leaving someone you love (I'm assuming a partner and not a relative) that you are manifesting some kind of abandonment of your parents (be it Father for women, Mother for men). there is also the consideration that we as people take a psyco-social point of view that we have been taught that we should all find a partner and live happily ever after, we are force fed this belief basically from birth and the thought of that not eventuating become ver difficult to process. There is of course the nature point of view that as humans we need to find a partner.

I don't think that it so much that we are scared of taking a chance on life, but that we often fear more than anything being alone.

Excellent question.

Answer 3

It is hard to leave someone we love, so we DO make excuses to stay. And, yes, taking a chance on life without that person can be pretty frightening. There is comfort in the familiar. There is always that thought in the back of the mind, that perhaps things will change.

Answer 4

I think some people feel that any relationship is better than no relationship. Some women think that they are defined by who they are with. If they are not with a man they are worthless. Others have never lived by themselves before. They go from their parent's house to the husband's house. I don't think anyone actually matures until they live on their own away from parents. When someone is able to pay their own bills and take care of all their own needs they become ready for a real relationship with another person.

Answer 5

Humans are etermal optimists.

We live our lives and usually hope for the best.

When it comes to matters of the heart, love can make you distort your actions, your lover's actions, and the actions of those around you.

Leaving someone you love is never easy, but sometimes necessary for growth. Children leave their parents to begin new lives....sometimes couples need to break up in order to find happiness with other people. Sometimes we are separated, not by choice, but by circumstance.

Love is an emotion that causes chemical reactions in your body. You can feel heart sick when you are confused about the one you love. No one wants to feel alone, no one likes being rejected.

I think when you are truly with a person that you are compatible with, then your love works through issues that might seem impossible.

Answer 6

I don't know about you girlfriend, but I live my life to the fullest, never scared to leave (if it don't fit, I dont force it!), and I never make it hard so I have to stay or he has to stay. Misery loves company and life is too short to be miserable, youve got to love the one you with..vice versa

Answer 7

I don't think being alone is unknown at all. It's lonely. You have to decide that being alone is better than being abused, even if you feel that being alone is a terrible thing. It isn't really though. I don't mind it anyhow...

Answer 8

One or all of the reasons stated by you.

Answer 9

If you really love them, then yes it is very hard.

Answer 10

it isnt hard uless u make it that way
its also up to u if u want to stay together with sum1

Answer 11

Fear is the unknown so yes we make it hard.