Would you be offended? Sex Question?

Question

My new girlfriend made herself *** with her figures before we got started. We were just getting into bed and making ourselves comfortable. I thought she was just lubricating herself.. but she was making herself ***. This was our first time together! Guys - I was offended.. would you be? Girls can answer too. We are both in our 40s

Answer 1

I gotta agree with you on this,that's very rude.She didn't even know what kind of a lover you would be.Half the excitement with someone new is to find out what they like,don't like,and to see if they can rock your world!I hope you said something to her.And unless you're from mars,I'm sure you didn't get up and leave.I would've got up got dressed and said"well,looks like you don't need me".I mean if that's something you talked about that turns you both on.Maybe she can only get off if she does herself.But the polite thing to do is inform your partner,'hey this is the only way I can have one".And at least give you the opportunity to try.She could use your ears as a steering wheel,and at least get close.I don't know if I'd bother with this one again,Wayne.Or at least get some guidelines down before beginning.I for one would love to hear her explanation.Well,better luck next time and God bless.

P.S.I just gotta say something about one of your answerer's,and the menopause thing.I'm well into my 40's and am no where near menopause,and maybe Miss.Satisfaction isn't either.All these people saying she did your work for you,if that's considered work,my husband and I must be somewhere else on the chart.Only 1 gentleman said exactly what I'm thinking you feel,and those of us with a little more sexual etiquette would think.A little communication would've been great.Like saying to you"would you like to watch me "PLEASE" myself? Do you get off on this? I mean something,instead of just crawling in bed and BAM! she took care of some business before you even got in the bed.I don't know,maybe we come from different sexual times. No pun intended.

Answer 2

I'm not sure if you should be offended, all guys aren't the same. Some guys like seeing their woman turn themselves on, and some prefer to do it themselves. From a personal perspective, I think I know where she's coming from. Personally, I would love to masturbate before I have sex with my b/f. I've never done it, because I don't want him to think I'm weird or anything. Most women don't normally masturbate in front of their men. The reason why I think she made herself *** before you two had sex was because she doesn't get the same fulfillment. Maybe she comes better and harder when she's masturbating. She wanted to make herself *** because once you two start having sex, she might be incapable of coming while having intercourse. In other words, the only way she can *** is by masturbating. So she wanted to get her rocks off, before actually starting intercourse with you. After explaining it this way, yes I'm starting to see why you might be offended. But she know what she wants and what she likes in bed. So she did it herself. This might have made you feel like "Damn, she didn't even give me a chance to pleasure her." But really, I think she did it because that's the only way she can ***. If it really bothers you, talk to her about what happened. Make sure you discuss this with her before having sex with her for the second time. That way, she will know what to expect during your next sexual episode.

Answer 3

I am a girl...I think she was just making her self feel good (and thought you would be excited about that). I'm positive she didn't mean to offend you, why were you offended? Is it because you didn't get the chance to make her *** 1st?
-I am her husband, i think unless it was that special to you, it's not a big deal cause it's just less work for you to do to get the job done. If it was special than you should talk to her about it and maybe ask her to wait til after you get done.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I think she was just trying to please you. A lot of guys get REALLY turned on by watching their women make themselves c**. If you don't like it then when you are comfortable with it tell her that you don't like it and I bet she will stop, or at least give you a reason for why she does it!

Hope this helps

Answer 6

well that can be looked at 2 ways .... 1 ..most females kinda know they are not goin to get off .. so they get theirs by themselves .. that way they wont get mad when the man does not do it .... 2 it could have been she was thinkin it would be a turn on for u ... and it would get u 2 in the mood ... dont be offended ....we dont get offended when u come up short ... u should be happy that your job was done for u ...lol...(i am such a b*****)...lol

Answer 7

hell no I wouldnt be mad, its even better if she does that while you hittin it from the back, it gets nice a wet whhhooo hoooo what a ride , dude your in your 40s live a little and try and knock her back oooouuuttt. let her rub it and then stop her before and suck on it man what an explosive oragasm, its all about the pleasure principle

Answer 8

Maybe she thought that would get you excited. You should try talking to her about this instead of us. Maybe that is just what shes into. Let her know you were confused by this and she might be able to clear it up for you.

Answer 9

No you should not be offended. You need to learn more about the female body during and after menopause. If you do you would understand.

Answer 10

It sure didn't speak well for her sex etiquette. If that was her plan, why was she getting in bed with you. Those whom wouldn't be offended would at least feel left behind.