I am a Christian whos husband left and divorced her. My beliefs have ALWAYS been that scripture says that God allowed divorce because our hearts were all messed up but it was never suppose to be that way. Secondly, I have found that my heart has fallen out of love for my ex husband and I would love nothing more then to be released from him however, I TRUELY believe, in the depths of my spirit that God has NOT said this is ok. Now I am feeling some strong feelings for a guy at my church who I hang out with a bit, but who only sees me as a friend. But I STILL don't feel like I have been released from my ex.. What would you do in my case? Aside from pray because I am already doing that... Can you also pray for me too?
2006-10-13 11:23:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If your husband divorced you then you are free. You should seek God's will for your life and wait for Him, He will guide you and direct you to someone He has chosen for you., But be cautious and don't rush any relationship. No one is perfect. I will pray for you too.
2006-10-13 11:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by Richard E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take responsibility for both sides of the marriage break up.A relationship is created or not by TWO people. What did you do? What did you not do? Instead of being a victim of your "reactions" and the emotions they produce,take some control of your life, confront your own actions.
This is not about God's approval or disapproval.
The Lord helps those who help themselves.
Take a look. Until you do this you will not be able to END this marriage., divorce or not. You will simply make the same mistakes with the next guy and never really move on with any positive results.
2006-10-13 11:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by thetaalways 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen God ha said that ALOT of things are not ok...look at the world we are living in right now...there is a lot worse out there that people are doing that God does not agree with...I dont exactly know your situation, but obviously you and ex got a divorce for a reason...everything in this life happens for a reason...you need to move on with your life and try and forget about your ex as hard as it may be...even if it is not the guy from church im sure there is someone out there for you that will treat you like the woman you are...keep our head up
2006-10-13 11:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by Yanisa619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for you. Divorce is painful!
First and foremost, I don't believe that you've committed a sin. God loves you and His mercy is infinite as is his forgiveness and understanding.
I was raised to believe that you never, never end a marriage, but when my ex started doing evil things (picking fist fights with people of different religions and races, picking fist fights with me, drinking, doing drugs, adultery, stealing....), I realized that I couldn't support God and Christ's message and be married to someone who had no room for God.
I prayed, searched my soul and read books. I truly believe that my prayers were answered. My heart is at peace with it.
Friendship may be just the thing for you now. You don't have to have a romance and the moral support of someone who shares your values may give you the morale boost you need before you venture out there and find love again.
Someone on your side. You're in my prayers.
2006-10-13 11:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God allows but does not condone divorce, and until, if ever he cheats on you, you must remain faithful. Scripture says what God joins let no man tear apart.
You say you don't love your ex, well start, love is a choice not a feeling. Adultery is the only reason for divorce. Love it or hate it.
2006-10-13 11:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by JaimeM 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your husband left you, divorced you it is out of your hands. if he is not Christian, then you have no obligation to him, because you were unequally yolked. If he has entered into a sexual relationship even if he is Chirstian, you still have no obligation to him. That he divorced you out of the hardness of his heart. This was allowed by Moses, God Hates it, but what has been done is done. if there is no cahnce for reconciliation, move on.
I will be praying for you.
2006-10-13 11:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by setfreejn836 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 06:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by riesgo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was your ex an emotionally controlling or manipulative type person? I’m wondering if your feelings could really be because of your ex’s control that you’re having a hard time moving on.
2006-10-13 11:33:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage and divorce are civil, legal proceedings. If you are legally divorced you are free to marry another.
Sounds like you need to get back in the game and get on with your life.
2006-10-13 11:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
will pray for you naturally. may I suggest you talk to a professional counselor or perhaps your minister. what you say to the counselor will be kept confidential and sounds like counseling might help you get back on track. if you can not afford counseling on your own call the local welfare agency and ask them or perhaps a mental health clinic.
2006-10-13 11:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋