I'm 19.. almost 20. I love my boyfriend very much and we've been together for almost three years. I'm scared though that I'm too young to understand what love is, because both of us are are in our first serious relationship. We've never been with anyone besides each other. Do you think we need to experience what else is out there, or is it possible that we could grow up, get married and be perfectly happy. Does anyone ever marry the first person they fall in love with? I'm scared though that if we break up to try other people that I may never find someone and always regret leaving him. What do you think?
2006-10-13 11:21:47 · 17 answers · asked by deepwaters05 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let it run its course. You could have all the experience in the world and it still won't guarantee you have a happy and successful marriage in the future. There is no rulebook, and if you try to manufacture your future happiness you will probably fail. It's all about feelings. If most of the people on this site told you that you should get more experience with other guys, would you do it? If the answer is yes, then I'm glad I'm not your boyfriend because that would be an incredibly disturbing sign.
2006-10-13 11:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by John P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 18:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its possible, I know some people from High School who got married and never dated anyone else. They have been married for years and are still very happy. But I would say they are the exception. Most people are not ready to settle down until they are at least 25. It sounds like you are curious about what else is out there and that curiousity won't go away after you are married. If you are really curious, you should try dating other people. You can always get back together once you realize there is nothing better out there.
2006-10-13 11:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jason S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're wanting someone to tell you that you need to date other people for awhile. And that's fine!
At 19 and 20, I wouldn't think it's an issue of waiting until you "grow up".
It's perfectly normal to want to experience dating other people however, make SURE that you are willing to take the chance of losing the relationship if you do. Think this one out before you make any decisions, you have all the time in the world.
If you're doubtful, don't do anything. You don't have to decide right now.
As for people marrying the first person they fall in love with, yes, it happens all the time. It's likely that these marriages won't last, but it's possible if it's REALLY love. My brother and his wife met when she was 13 and he was 17. They married 4 years later, and have been married nearly 40 years, HAPPILY!
Give yourself time, be true to yourself, and also, consider his feelings in this. Perhaps HE"S not ready to consider marriage with his first love? Discuss it with him. Then HEAR his answer, not what you want to hear. That's one of us girl's biggest mistakes!
Take your time, you've got a lifetime ahead of you!
2006-10-13 11:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by Amy N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up only if your unhappy, not for any other reason. You don't have to marry anytime soon. Just date until your sure. Even if it's ten years from now. As far as marrying the first person you fall in love with, I did and am still happy 25 years later. Never have been in love with anyone else. He says we've went this far might as well finish it out together. :O)
2006-10-13 11:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married my highschool GF, the divorce cost me over 10 grand.
You're 19.75 (almost 20).
I recommend living for a while. Experience people, college, single-ness. Figure out who YOU are. not who you are as a part of a relationship.
Yes, people can meet in school, never have anyone other in their lives and be perfectly happy.
Be warned that this is EXTREMELY rare.
If you're hoping for the happily ever after, you may be disappointed
2006-10-13 11:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by George Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can marry the first person you fall in love with but in retrospect, like if you hang on for a few years until you actually know for 100% that there is something different with him that you absolutely know you could never have more with anyone else.
2006-10-13 11:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's lust, and sometimes it's love, and you just know when they are the right person, even if it's the only person you have been with. Yes, 1st loves can grow together, love each other unconditionally, get married, live a wonderful life. If it doesn't work out, then at least you experienced it, don't take your chances, if you think he is the one, don't take your chances, try to make it work.
2006-10-13 11:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the old saying goes "if you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn' it never was". I don't know if you want to take the chance on dating other people, but I sure would like to know sooner that later if the relationship was going to work. Remember, " what is for you won't pass you by".
If you are truly in love with eachother, what do you have to lose, Go for it.
2006-10-13 11:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend married her high school sweetheart - 15 yrs later they are still happily married and she had her doubts but she always tells us she couldn't help it and to be in love with someone else would not be possible
2006-10-13 11:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋