ok....i already asked one questions about the whole cry it out thing...and i tired it at nap time...and well it went pretty good...he cried alot...screamed and all that stuff, but only for about 20 minutes...which i thought was pretty good :) but now...what about tonite....when he gets up at about 1am...what do i do?? go check on him...turn on his Leap Frog (he likes the music, he listens to it to go to sleep) lay him down and leave the room...or just not go out there at all...and i kinda dont want to do that cuz i dont want to make him think we r gone, so give me some tips in what to do when i goes out into his room at 1 am!!! thanks!!
2006-10-13 11:16:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The cry it out method is a cruel and unusual punishment for a human being that has not yet learned to communicate fully with you. I recommend the book "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley & William Sears if you are looking for a more gentle method.
I can sypathesize with you. My son, almost 4 now, did not really start sleeping through the night until he was about 3. But at 19 months, it's not right to let him cry it out, no matter what anyone else on here might say.
2006-10-13 11:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by birdlover515 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
With my little guy, I would go in, without turning on anything, put him back in bed, say the exact same words I say when I put him to bed "It's time to sleep. Good night." Give him a kiss and leave. At first I had to repeat over and over, but he figured it out and now he sleeps all night!! It took about two nights. I couldn't do the "cry it out". I responded to his cries, but let him know it's time for sleep. I think the fact that we do the same routine every night before bed helps too. Bath, books and bed.
By the way...the whole idea that crying makings the lungs stronger is such a HUGE MYTH!!
2006-10-13 18:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by seaelen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got used CIO with the two my babies. It did no longer paintings with the 1st (so i ended), it labored basically great with the 2d. he's the single with the grownup interpreting point at age 8. Your bond? Being wrapped around your youngster's little finger isn't a "bond". Being a solid be certain who the youngster is acquainted with will continually be there whilst mandatory and who they have confidence to assist them do the ideal ingredient is a bond. in case you do in contrast to leaving your daughter to cry for longer durations, do no longer go away her for longer durations. you could circulate in each and every 2 minutes in case you p.c.. do exactly no longer nurse her decrease back to sleep if she's already been fed, or get her up lower back. tell her you like her, you're there for her...yet she does not p.c. a breast to circulate to sleep. that's actual - and that's mandatory. What in case you're taken unwell and could circulate into scientific institution? No newborn could be that based on one single grownup. you additionally can attempt selections for the duration of the day. does not she ever nod off in her pram, or her carseat? If no longer, attempt happening a automobile trip or a walk whilst she's probable to be sleepy.
2016-12-26 18:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by sterman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go in his room once, reassure him that you are there and all is ok and you are going to bed. Then leave the room. If he is still crying in 20 min go back and do it again but keep it short and sweet and don't engage in further conversation. Keep your voice level and calm.
If you don't go in at all, I think you have it right - he'll have the sense of abandonment and that's so awful for kids.
Good luck to you - I know it's hard. Been there and done it three times! :)
2006-10-13 11:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by MissHazel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just reading your little question and my daughter who was 14 months old used to be a night waker too ... I myself used what I called sleep time. I used to go into her lay her back down she used to fight back.. lay her down tuck her in say goodnight have a couple of minutes to settle her and walk out and close the door. She would then get back up and bang on the door. after 2 minutes go back in pick her up lay her back in bed and the same process stay with her not playing just a quiet settling tone say goodnight walk out and this time I would not go in until 3 minutes. She would cry scream throw things but I would always go in tell her I love her settle her and would have quiet time. Each time I went in to settle her it would be a minute more until I got to 5 minutes. Then it stayed at 5 minutes .... she got to a stage where she would stay in bed say Mummy and cry ... Eventually she knew once I said nigh nigh time it was sleep time... This only took a week of doing before she was sleeping all night from 7.30pm to 6.30am.
Good Luck with your little boy.....
2006-10-13 11:34:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go check on him when he starts making noise, reassure him and tell him to go back to sleep and that mommy's going to do the same. Then, don't go back in unless you absolutely have to. I'd avoid the music/Leap frog thing in the middle of the night - it may wake him up more at that point.
2006-10-13 11:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he wakes up at night, go into his room and tell him it's time to go to sleep, rub his back for a couple of seconds, a kiss, cover him and walk out.
do not turn anything on or he will getover stimulated and he'll expect it all the time. he needs to learn to settle himself down.
if he gets up again, then go in - don't say anything to him, just lay him down and cover him, walk out, no kiss , nothing else.
as long as he doesn;t get out of his bed and start wandering the house ( in which you bring him to bed and walk out), then just let him be after that. he may cry and scream, but will settle himself down.
it's for his own good and your familie's sanity
2006-10-13 11:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by island3girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put a baby gate up in his doorway, so that you can still hear him but he can't get out. My 2 1/2 year put us through the same issue at bedtime, then she would get up in the middle of the night also. I can hear her when she wakes up but if there is a baby gate up she will usually just fuss for a minute and then put herself back to bed. In all honesty she did have a few screaming fits when we first did this. But kids resign themselves to the fact that they aren't going to win, eventually.
Good luck!
Also do not go in there! It will only encourage him because he wants the attention. (Unless you think he may be sick or hurt of course)
2006-10-13 11:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by Pixie Dust 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just let him cry and wait until he goes back to sleep my son cried for a long time at least 45 minutes when he woke up in the middle of the night and its SO HARD to listen to them cry but it will all stop
2006-10-13 11:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
o.k. i understand wanting to let him cry it out...however, i have an excellent book from amazon.com called "the no-cry sleep solution". it really is a great book and it;s the middke ground between crying it out and being on your baby's demand.
so, do what you feel is right...i'm not judging, however, crying it out isn't youronly option!
my mom read it and wished she had it when she was raising us kids and she's an RN, so she has the medical thing going on too.
take care!!
2006-10-13 11:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by joey322 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋