2006-10-13 11:11:56 · 18 answers · asked by Christina T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't try to be their Mom. Don't even try to be their friend. Just be friendly and caring and natural. Don't try to force yourself on them, or make them interact with you.
If they try the "maybe if we ignore her, she'll go away" trick, just laugh (not AT them, but just in genuine amusement) and tell them that you are quite well aware of what they are trying to do. That you know they feel threatened by your relationship with their dad. But then give them a promise. Promise both of them that you will never, EVER get between them and their dad. And then just walk out of the room, so they can be alone with their dad.
It shows the dad that you are willing to put his kids first. It shows the kids that you are willing for their dad to put them first. And it shows that you can be trusted. ALWAYS keep your word to them, while at the same time not letting them walk all over you. They will either have to learn to like you as you are, or not. The choice is theirs, and can not be forced.
2006-10-13 11:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to be freaked out....they are just kids who may even be just as nervous about meeting dad's new girlfriend.
Just be yourself, if your boyfriend is having you meet them, then he's obviously likes you a great deal, and thinks there are strong possibilities for your future together, as most men and women these days don't as a rule introduce the kids until they think the relationship may go somewhere in the future.
2006-10-13 11:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by ne_patriots2005 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a million. triumphing a super lottery pay off 2. looking 'one' of your shoes alongside an open street 3. being caught in an elevator 5. looking out the guy you're, or have been, relationship is concerning you 6. seeing somebody you have dated on the FBI's maximum wanted record
2016-10-19 08:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have just read all the previous answers and collectively, they represent a "how to survive manual" for your meeting- just take on board all that has been said (apart from the escape answer)and you will do fine-good luck!!
2006-10-13 11:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by mark2zephyr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are pretty perceptive. Don't try anything false or put on airs. If you are just yourself, you'll be fine. Be the wonderful person your bf fell in love with.
2006-10-13 11:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't you know that he had kids when you met him? If so, then there is no reason to be freaked out. Just be yourself and be nice to the kids.
2006-10-13 11:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself I have been on dates with single fathers and I met their kids as long as you are yourself they will like you try not to try so hard and if they seem indifferent its because you may be the 10th person that they met so far so don't think its you and please know that they are just as nervous as meeting you
2006-10-13 11:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are probably just as scared of meeting you too. Take them both a little "hello" treat.
2006-10-13 11:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THEY WILL BE NICE TO YOU AT FIRST THEN WHEN U GET MARRIED THEY WILL HATE YOU, STAB U IN THE BACK, CALL U A BIATCH, & WHORE. I KNOW I AM GOING THROUGH IT RIGHT NOW HUNNY. GET OUT NOW. RUN FOR YOUR LIFE OR EVIL WILL RUIN UR LIFE. NOT TO MENTION THE MOTHER OF HIS KIDS. THEY R THE WORST.
2006-10-13 11:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by donnies_sugarbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it can be pretty hair raising, however it is a logistical step in your relationship. You will be fine
2006-10-13 11:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋