2006-10-13 11:10:03 · 54 answers · asked by mom of bride 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It depends what you are requiring of her.
Are you requiring her to invite 100 family members and 75 colleagues?
Are you requiring her to provide a 5 course sit down meal & full open bar for 5 hours?
Rather than give her a set amount I would pay for the things you want her to have & let her come up with the $$ for the things she wants.
2006-10-13 11:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how big and what kind of a wedding you are having. 10K could possibly be enough for a wedding that isn't very large (i'd say 50-75ppl). You will also need to be very thrifty with the details, which can be done and still look great. Such as finding a bridal gown at a sample sale-- most beautiful gowns start at $900+ and that is actually considered reasonable. Also, cutting corners with flowers-- doing beautiful yet simple arrangements will save money. You may want to look into a venue that costs you little to no money (ie if you have a great backyard, or a friend has something). Then, you just have to pay for the catering. You will also need a DJ as most bands are $2000-4000. Hope this helps! I'm getting married in a week so i am a pretty good source...
2006-10-13 11:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by Linz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom of the bride, best wishes, and I hope it get a wonderful son-in-law. I sure did when my daughter got married in May. You are being very generous, and yes, she can have the most beautiful wedding with that kind of a budget. I spent a little more than on my daughter's, but let me explain...I paid for everything! I paid for hotel rooms for the bridemaid's, the two couples that helped me, my parents, and ours. I paid for the bridesmaid dresses and shoes, and jewerly. My daughter and her new husband are college students, all of the wedding party were broke kids. They all have part-time jobs, but they couldn't afford dresses, shoes, motel bills, and gas for destination wedding. The wedding was 5 hours from home. So, I took it upon myself to do this, it's not neccessary, but I just felt like I needed to.
Your daughter can have a very elegant wedding for that amount. She can still bargain hunt, and spend a little more things that matter the most for her. Say she wants to spend a lot on her wedding dress, then she can spend less on flowers. If she's a good shopper, and doesn't demand everything, then she will be fine. I quess I spent about 7,000 on the actual wedding it's self, I made the table cloths, and my daughter made all the flowers and center peices. We had a 25,000 wedding on that 7,000. Believe I know I use to do this for a living years ago. Get her a notebook, so she can start her lists, and start calling around getting prices for the different services she will be needing. Without my notebook I would have been lost, and everytime you mark something off, it makes you feel good, and that much closer to a finish product....a dream wedding.
God bless us all.........
2006-10-13 12:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter should be very grateful for the money.It really depends on the size of the wedding, where it is etc. I had a very elaborate reception following our ceremony, black tie..the kicker we spent Thousands less then most would have even have imagined. If you know how to budget well and do your homework you can get alot out of it. There is no need to spend 20K for a 10K wedding. Ignore the other comments about it not being enough. You need to be realistic and if you can afford that much or more it is really up to you. They say the average wedding is $20K......but what is the average wedding consists of anyway? If the national average income is only 35K I think that is way too much $$ to spend on one day.....It's not about the wedding it's about the marriage no amount of money you give her is going to make the marriage better.
2006-10-13 11:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by allaboutwhat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord, yes. I wish I had that much money for mine. You can find a lot of really great deals on the internet to save money. The amount you spend depends on whether you have to have the best of the best, or if you're willing to bargain shop. If she wants a dress that 3,000, a location that's 5,000, a caterer that 2,000, a photographer that 2,000, etc no, it won't be enough, but if she is willing to spend a little less on these things, get married in a church where only a donation is required, that kind of thing, then you can have an awesome wedding for that much! It just depends on her attitude. It also depends on how many people she invites, especially when it comes to the catering. If she's wanting 300 people or something, then it's going to cost more than 100 of course. I think you're being very generous with the amount.
2006-10-13 11:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by benjis.girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! What a blessing to have a parent that can give you $10K for a wedding! I agree with one of the others who have previously answered the question. That is a great down payment for a house! My brother is getting married next weekend and I think his wedding will cost about one thousand dollars. It really depends on how you do it. An elegant wedding does not have to be expensive if you are very creative!
2006-10-13 11:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by cardangelmica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Totally over the top, the money would be far better spent on a new home. I hate this idea that children expect vast amounts of money for a showy wedding. The whole concept of marriage seems to take second place to the dress, photographer, presents and reception. Marriage is about a life commitment to between 2 people who truly love each other and not about frivolous, showy celebrations.
2006-10-13 18:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope your investment pays off. It's still a mystery to my why anyone would want to spend so much on a wedding. The simpler the better and much less stress. One can have a beautiful wedding for a few thousand. It's not the wedding that counts, it's the marriage. I would think twice and maybe three times before I offered that much! Sorry, but this is my opinion.
2006-10-13 11:21:45 · answer #8 · answered by Rea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure is. A divorce is only $75.00 so why pay so much for wedding. It's the rest of thier life to worry about money. I know you want things very nice and sure the bride deserves to be treated like a queen, I got married for $150.00 and we still love each other 21 yrs later.It's not the amount you pay for the wedding but what the couple gets out of it.
2006-10-13 11:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by Butch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!
She should be incredibly thankful that you are helping her at all!
I recently attended a friends wedding that cost a mere $5000 (in California mind you) and it was one of the most beautiful I have ever seen. If $10,000 is the budget (which actually is A LOT of money) shop around- many "wedding" places hike prices up for things that can be found elsewhere for much less if one just looks.
Besides, if she complains, tell her that if she is old enough to get married, then she can pay for it all herself ;)
2006-10-13 14:53:05 · answer #10 · answered by lamusketeer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋