i am i the only one?

Question

I am 20 yrs. old a single parent of one attending college full time and over 2 hours from my family...i am just wondering if it normal to feel very depressed and overwhelmed..i mean i have alot on my plate i really dont know anyone around just ppl from school...and noone in my class has kids so i cant really do stuff with them u know no babysitter..i was just wondering if anyone has gone thru this before and what they did to get out of the slump...i am just about to quit school and ruin an academic scholarship i really dont want to so i need advice...thanx

Answer 1

Just work through it. A scholarship is something you will regret forever if you blow it off. I attended a tech school to get where i am. I wish i could have gone to college. We do it for our children. Just wait and you will find time to have fun eventually. If not, you wouldnt have anytime anyway, even if you werent in college, you still got that child.

Answer 2

Movie night at your house. Invite friends over and cook dinner or order a take away.

Is there a college counsellor you can talk to? They must have come across this problem before. You could also do with sharing your thoughts and offloading.

If you can stick with your studies that would be best. Try to get to your family as much as you can or tell them how you feel maybe they could come by and baby sit one weekend,

Studying can feel very overwhelming at the best of times even when you don't have the added responsibilities you have. So you do need to make time for yourself. Is there anywhere near you where you could take your child in the daytime, say like ten pin bowling and friends could come along too.

Let your friends know how you feel if you are close enough to any of them, they may have some ideas.

also it's worth making inquiries to find out if there is anyone at all in a similar position to you so you could swap babysitting with or both go out together with the kids.

Please don't be afraid to use whatever support you can get, don't feel too proud.

Best wishes.

Answer 3

1. Take three deep breaths. Sit down somewhere and know that you are not giving me much information to go on. What year are you in? How are your grades? What is your major? There are so many people that would trade places with you in a minute. I have spent my life either in college as a student or 32 years up in front of a classroom as a Zoology/Biology professor.
2. You just need someone that you trust to talk to often. I am sure there are guidance counselors that can help. Sometimes parents are either too close to the situation to be objective or they just do not understand.
3. I still teach part time as an adjunct and I meet with some of my students that have many more problems than you have told me about.
4. If I can help my email is [e-mail]

Answer 4

You have a lot on your plate and being an adult takes some hard sacrifice sometimes. Hang in there and stick it out. It's worth it.

I'm not here to judge you, don't misunderstand, but you picked the road you are on, having a child young and single. You also picked the path to better yourself and to give you and your child more options in life by going to school. Good for you.

I have studied many wise men and women's words and asked some people I have met along the way where the path to happiness in life lies.

The answer usually involves CHOOSING THE PATH YOU ARE ON RIGHT NOW. You made your life, just the way it is right now. It didn't just happen to you, you got where you are for a reason. Accept and choose that path. Only then can you take charge of your life and control it, rather than just on for the ride.

One man described it to me as he woke up one day and looked at his life. He always though he was a passenger, just along for the ride but one day he found the steering wheel. That steering wheel was choosing responsibility for everything that ever happened and was going to happen to him and through that, he became truly happy and peaceful with himself but also energized and empowered to change what he could.

Answer 5

keep on and DO NOT give up. My pastor used to say when u get to the end of ur rope; tie a knot. and if u have to tie another and another. sometimes i feel like i'm out of rope and no room to tie another but at the end of the day; nothing is worth throwing away a blessing like that. i am the single mom of two teens soon to be 17 and 18 and trust me, it still isn't easy and on MANY days u may want to give up but u will only REGRET it. Stay strong and u WILL make it through.

Answer 6

Pray. If that doesn't work, smoke a joint.