The funeral is for my husbands grandfathers companion. it is for tuesday at 1 pm. i asked my mom if she could watch my baby(2 years old).she is a realitor. she loves my child very much but is also very busy.so when i asked, she sounded like she couldnt but said "yea I can watch her." but i know my mom and shes lying. so then i said look if you cant, let me know by the wekend and i'll find someone else. she laughed and said yea right, you--she said this because i only have like one friend. anyways i felt so angry. should i just stay home and not go, or should i let her watch her?she'll watch her for like 5 hours.
2006-10-13 10:46:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if your kid is safe, and hte funeral is important then yes, otherwise its up to you
2006-10-13 10:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by saxophone_god21 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have the money I'd call around and see if a daycare would take her for the few hours. Your daughter could profit from some interaction with her peers. Does your church or an organization you trust have one??
If that is not an option then I'd have her do it and go to the funeral. You are going to support your husband and his family. She shouldn't make you feel crappy about that and it seems like she is intentionally doing just that. You know your baby is safe so go to the funeral.
2006-10-13 17:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel strongly about the funeral, then go. Don't take your baby with you. It' s not an appropriate place for small children. You should find a trusting person to babysit for you. Your mom may have last minute clients since she is a realtor.
Good Luck!
2006-10-13 18:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by YKK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go. It's funny but family members (I talking about your husband's side) will notice if you are not there and wonder why. Be supportive of your husband and go with him. Let you mother keep her grandchild. I would consider for future situations, that you find a good babysitter that will take a child on short notice. Most private babysitters would be glad to watch a drop in on occasion.
2006-10-13 17:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by cowboys21angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go to the funeral and let your mother watch your baby. I don´t think you are asking her to do that very often, so if there is nobody else you can find around, just forget about her comments and let her do it. Good luck.
2006-10-13 17:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by Martha P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go to the funeral. Your husbands grandfather will be glad you went. He may not express it but he will remember that you were there. As for your mom.. Just say thanks for watching your daughter and leave it at that.. This is a time for your husband and grandfather and it is important that you are their for them in this time of need.. Just go..
2006-10-13 17:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by Shy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i personally wouldn't not leave my baby with someone who i knew did not want to watch them i would worry and feel bad for my baby. you said 5 hours that is a long funeral i think you should go to the funeral but i don't think you should be gone for five hours
2006-10-13 17:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could take the baby with you, some time at funeral a lil person can bring a smile to some one who is so sad. I took my lil girl to a cousin funeral and it helped us with our sadnes, plus gave hope!
2006-10-13 17:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by PENNY M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should go to the funeral ur mom my have been lying but if is and doesnt want to watch the baby she should have told u the truth when u asked.
2006-10-13 17:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by collegegyrl06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as opposed to creating more tension, i would stay home. most people understand difficulty of childcare--you can visit with Grandfather at later date and bring child-he will enjoy that
2006-10-13 17:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and show your repects if you want and not worry,let her spend some time with the child.
2006-10-13 17:49:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋