We've been together for 8 months, living together for 2. She says she misses her old life where she didnt have to worry about being tied down. Says she loves me and does want to work things out. What do I do to keep her interested and not let her run away like she always has when she didnt like something? I give her everything I can but still sometimes that doesnt seem enough and she wants to be gone all day and not have any contact with me. Any women that could give input would be greatly appreciated. I'd do anything to keep this lady from giving up on us and leaving my life.
2006-10-13 10:34:28 · 13 answers · asked by wizsap 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I also believe its just the thought that she can go do whatever she wants to do because i've told her she could at times and then she doesnt want to do things anymore. Shes been babied her whole life and never had to really deal with anything always easier to just run back to mom. But shes trying now...and i know its gotta be hard to do that. And as for the cheating she says she isnt and I believe her. Im around way to much for her to get away with that.
2006-10-13 10:43:32 · update #1
I don't think she's giving up or running away... she just misses the single life. and every girl does sometimes when they're relationship starts to get serious, especially if it's a young age. i dunno how old you two are tho.
but if she doesn't want to be tied down, and if u love her... give her exactly what she wants. don't try to keep her in coz it'll only push her away. eventually she'll realize whether you're the one she really wants to be with. believe her when she says she loves u and wants to work things out... but also give her the space to do what she needs to do before settling down with one person for the rest of her life. it's kinda scary also when you're living together 'n things are getting serious. you kinda have to give some time apart before seriously settling down. like, maybe you guys shouldn't be living together just yet?
but stay positive... let her know you love her every chance u get and that you want to be the guy for her. don't just tell her but show her... but don't overly do it coz trust me, it will push her away.... give her some time do things on her own... or to go out with her friends 'n all that... spend some time apart. give her the chance to miss you everyday so that at the end of the day... you're the one that's on her mind and can't wait to be next to you. u know what i mean?
good luck, hope everything works out! =)
2006-10-13 10:47:07 · answer #1 · answered by hawaiiangirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one thing STOP LIVING TOGETHER! That will freeze a relationship over! Come on you guys have been together for only a few months, you don't move in together that fast. Try backing off for a bit and taking things slow.
Sometimes you can't do anything to keep someone from leaving and maybe it is that seriousness that is making her run. Some people aren't ready for that type of commitment, let her grow up a bit more then see what happens. Good luck!
2006-10-13 10:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by coconutsmh86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you really want things to work, but you need to ask yourself... is this the type of women that you can spend you life with and be secure in your relationship. Sometimes we want things that aren't right for us. It's hard to see right now, because love is truly blind. If you are putting so much into this relationship and she isn't, then there is a problem. When someone loves you... you can't keep them away. You deserve more than she can offer you.
2006-10-13 10:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by Marla C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are she was cheating on you from before you guys moved in together. If she loves you so much whats the big problem with living together? She is hiding something much deeper than you think.She has other things on her plate that she wants to do . I suggest you find a new girlfriend this one will result into something bad.
2006-10-13 10:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's lying! Its not that she wants to be free of being tied down, its that she doesn't respect you and wants another guy. If you are truly being a nice guy, then you have messed it all up yourself. Chicks don't go for nice guys, they want ******* who control them and make them feel bad about themselves. It happens all the time. When you let her go she will be with some guy who won't let her wear her favorite sweater or talk to her parents anymore. Watch and see. You need to figure this out now, or you will lose every woman you fall in love with!
2006-10-13 10:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by letum_ante_dedecus 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
properly according to probability he's under pressure. i'm able to easily think of that possibly he's extremely under pressure after in basic terms being married and then he in all probability works finished time---is his interest demanding? according to probability make him a great dinner with candels and a humorous movie or romantic movie and make the night all approximately him doing issues you comprehend he could like and spot the place that leads... If that would not paintings consult with him and ask him if he's under pressure and why you adult men at the instant are not intimate anymore... i'm hoping this enables!!! do not blame your self and attempt to not carry any anger in the direction of him approximately this---there are maximum of reasons this could be happening :)
2016-10-16 04:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would sit her down and really ask her what is going on....get down to the problem .I f you really love her you won't just let her go......a least find out why she really wants to leave and try to make it work.....if that doesn't work then if you truely love her you'll have to let her go if you love her......but my advice is to still not give up...if you wake up and go to sleep think ing about her.....and she's always on your mind then don't give uo just yet!
2006-10-13 10:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by tabbypickel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most likely she has found someone else to occupy her time and she feel that this is the only way to let u down easy. she probably had this guy before you all moved in together. what a waste of your time. ask her up front is there someone else and to be as honest as she possible can.
2006-10-13 10:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it's hard, but if you love her you may have to let her go. Tell her what you just wrote...that you would do anything to keep her in your life...But honestly you cant force someone to be in a relationship if they don't want to...it's probably not what you wanted to hear, but it's the truth:(
2006-10-13 10:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by squirt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you all should talk and work all of this out that way she wont leave. and you wold really know if she loves you because if she stays she must really love you. I say you should talk and give it a chance. and thats coming from my heart.
2006-10-13 10:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by ty_wanted@yahoo.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋