I need some really Good advice PLEASE!!!!!!!!???????????

Question

I am on one of these dating sites sad i know but i am 22 and very shy when i first meet somone it turns out i cant chat over the web ether and the majority of the men intrested are 40 plus. Iam really bad at at this dating thing can anyone tell me the where whens and hows please???????????? could it be because i look like her of 10 years younger but younger???????????

Answer 1

i know what you mean you just need to get out there

Answer 2

Your not on your own at being terrible in the dating game. If you think your bad... you should see me!! lol

I dont know exactly what you mean regarding the where, whens and hows though?

To overcome your shyness, the best thing to do is practice speaking. Practice in front of a mirror and that will boost some confidence in you. Do a role play and pretend your a teacher or something and teach a topic. Its just an example.

I believe the vital key is to be yourself. Many people can be shy at first, as for me, I say stupid things really.

I dont think you make too much sense at the end of your quesiton, but my answer is to keep your chin up and be patient with the dating game. Someone will come along one day, and it can happen anywhere.

Take care.

Answer 3

I would recommend going to a chat room. I met my boyfrind in a yahoo chat roon 6 years ago (it's our anniversary tomorrow!)

I was reluctant to go on-line, but I thought:
I'm an OK, nice person. If I'm on here, there must be someone else like me on here too.

Maybe a webcam and audio will help too (didn't have those in my day) - but only once you get to know them first. Then speak on the phone. Then meet up in a very public place. I live in London. The first person I met on-line was in Dallas, Texas. I flew out to meet them. Stayed there 2 weeks. Went back again for a further 3 weeks. Didn't work out.

But, if you're willing to work at it and meet people, then you'll find someone.

I'm shy too, but I wanted to meet someone MORE than I am shy.
When the balance tips, you'll meet the right person, and it will all be worth it.

Good luck.

Answer 4

im not sure about what you mean with the last part of your question... but confidence is the key. whether you are at the library or in the grocery store confidence, or the appearance of confidence will atract any man or woman any day of the week. a Barnes and Nobles is good, just find someone looking at a book you like, and start up a friendly conversation. the same can be said about a block buster, or anyplace really. it sounds stupid, but be yourself, if you lie, you might attract someone quickly; but it will quickly end when the real you comes out. so be yourself from the very beggining and save yourself the trouble, if kevin fedderline can find love so can you... just stick to it.

Answer 5

friendfinders.com is a good site too meet people and chat, you can also type your age in and etc..Be very careful about meeting anyone off these dating sites! never agree too meet them alone, always be in a public place. Stay away from those 40t guys, you are far too young for them ! When you start off chatting with a guy just ask normal everyday Q's...How are ya..where do you live...how old are you...ask about the weather in his state and etc...all these are good conversation starters...You can ask him what he looks like if you want too, later on in the conversation but unless It's a big thing with you, just get too know him a little first.
I can't say bad things about these dating sites, because i met the man I am now married too on friendfinders lol..BUT..we talked on the phone for almost a year before I finally agreed too meet him, I had a cop friend of mine do a background check and etc on him also..you can't be Too Careful these days.! You have plenty of time too meet someone, so take it slow and please take my advise...BE CAREFUL...NEVER AGREE TOO MEET ANYONE ALONE...MEET ONLY IN A PUBLIC

Answer 6

are you on plentyoffish.com (plenty of fish) you can pick your age group and limit who mails you. Lots of younger guys. I just joined a month ago. Lots of people do it, no biggie. (yes I have met a great guy and made a couple of friends too)

I have never chatted before one month ago either. You need to ask questions that allow YOU to know if you are interested in him. If you have things in common. What kind of work they do, do they eat out or cook, how long have they been on the site. I know I like guys who can talk, so if they can keep the conversation up, then I'm more likely to be interested.

Mail me if you want to talk girl. No problem.

Answer 7

First of all are you comfortable with your shyness? If you aren't then one way of getting over shyness is to act like you are the complete opposite. Practise first with maybe everyday people, most especially those of the opposite sex. Prepare each time how you would act (imagine you are on a date), change your look (makes you feel like you are someone else). Well you know what i mean. Life's a performance almost!

Answer 8

I know you've heard it said before but I've found for me personally it worksto be yourself! Look,I'm 42 years old and like 80 lbs overweight and if you can believe it (I can't!) I have no problem attracting men. I think the reason why is men feel comfortable around me. I'm not always trying to impress them with my cuteness and coming off fake. I have my own so I don't seem needy. I've learned the art of flirting without being nasty and sleazy. I know how to make them blush. I know how to make them smile. I know how to make them laugh. I don't try to be "one of the boys" men like a woman to know her place. I don't try to seriously compete with them. It's not about being servile or anything like that but it's about recognizing and appreciating the differences between a man and a woman. You be who you are and let him be who he is. If you hit it off, cool. If not agree to disagree and keep on going. Develop your own interests. Be confident in who you are and what you have. Once you take the desperation out of the game you will find things flow to you a lot smoother.

Answer 9

I would not go on one of those dating sites, I was very shy at your age, but my advice now would be to make the best of yourself, and to be interested in the other people you meet, try to talk about any subject, and not worry what they are thinking about you,just teach yourself how to hold conversations that are interesting and friendships should result from that.

Answer 10

I was really shy around guys to at your age. I acually found my husband at work. It just takes time sometimes to get use to the dating scene. Don't rush anything take your time. Right now you are in the prime of your life.

Answer 11

Don't chat over the web - strictly use email. you can get a lot of the pedophile creeps who think you're underage by chatting.

Good luck