i've had a crush on my bestfriends brother since i was in the sixth grade and he was in the eighth. when we were in grammer school we called ourselves going out but at school he would ignore me and have all the girls falling all over him.. of course i wouldnt say anything because i was shy but after school we'd talk on the phone for hours or whenever i spent the night we'd be all in love. now we're both grown and he has kids and baby mamas drama and i have kids. also his sister is still my very best friend and she talks about him all the time about how he's no good and is a womanizer.. but im as in love with him today as i was in sixth grade. when ever he says my name i have a heart attack and whenever we are in the same room i swear i cant breathe... but i dont know if i should persue him or leave it as a crush because he is the type of guy that you know has a lot of women and they all break their necks to cater to him buying him 06 trucks.. motorcycles etc.
2006-10-13 10:07:25 · 28 answers · asked by P.G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your best friend says her brother is no good and is a womanizer yet you still want to know if you should date him? Hello!
2006-10-13 10:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch.. he's a gold-digging player. Usually ppl would say no to go for him. But I'm the type of person to give ppl the benefit of the doubt. I cannot settle unless there is closure, and I hate the "what if" factor.
He may see something in you that he does not see in all the other women. Were you guys close when you were in grammar school? If he gives you cardiac arrests whenever he says your name, try it out. BUT be very careful!! Don't get burned. He's got baby mama drama, and that is always a red flag. Proceed with caution!!!
2006-10-13 10:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know how you feel? Ask yourself if this is the type of man you'd want to be with for forever. Ask yourself if he could change for you...he probably hasn't thought about it if he hasn't stepped to you yet. He sounds like he has no idea that you're still pining for him. Especially given the fact that he dogged you when you were young, and you've witnessed (or at least had his sis tell you the real deal) his treatment of women. If you're the catering type, go for it...if you can put up with his abuse. But from where I'm sitting, don't start it now. I'm having that issue...you fall in love, and you KNOW they're not good for you, but you can't pull back. So, my advice is not to even start anything with him, that way you're not conflicted and having your emotions guide you toward a situation that could be hurtful and stressful on you. Your kids need their mom at her best! :)
2006-10-13 10:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you both have kids, so I assume you are both in relationships. If that is the case, then leave it as a crush. There's no point in trying to pursue it. If neither of you are in a relationship, then you might CONSIDER pursuing it, but don't get your hopes up or expect anything because you'll almost always get disappointed. Good luck in whatever you choose, but only you can decide what to do. Only you can make that choice.
2006-10-13 10:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by Elaina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let him go. His own sister and your best friend thinks he's no good. I'm sure she has your best interests at heart, and you should probably listen to her. Also, think about your kids. Do you really want a man like that to be involved in their lives? I know it's hard, but try to focus on other things, it will get better once you let him go for good and move on.
2006-10-13 10:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by deepwaters05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, because I went through the exact same thing growing up except for the kids part but it will not go anywhere because he is to used to women falling all over him to really take the time out to care about you or your kids.
2006-10-13 10:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by Snuggles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that he is a womanizer then I would keep it as a crush there is no reason to mess with him especially since you have kids because you will get hurt and more importantly the kids will get hurt. Good Luck with your decision.
2006-10-13 10:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go girl , that was the past and he sounds like he grew up worse than what he used to be.His sister knows him well and you don't want that around you or your kids.
2006-10-13 10:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey save yourself the trouble because if like you say he has all these women all around him you will never find happiness with him because it will a ompetition for him, even more his own sister talks negatively about him... that should give you a clue... save yourself the pain of having to deal with someone like that move on and keep him our of your life so you're never tempted
2006-10-13 10:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy's sister is right. He is a womanizer. Leave him go. You'll find someone that loves you and only you.
2006-10-13 10:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by SM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋