right guys problem is that i am muslim and not allowed to have sex before marriage. i have experienced now many times that i like a girl. girl likes me but i cant go and ask her for close relation because i know they dont want to get marry me as getting married now a days is not very common. this time was 3rd time and because of that girls left me. i m feeling lonely as well as guilty for being rude as we both like each other. but because of my behaviour they left me. plzzzzzzzzzz help me with gud advice .
thanx in advance.
2006-10-13 09:57:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's more common these days to have sex before marriage than it used to be.
Maybe you should look for a nice Muslim girl to date. That way, her expectations will be the same as yours.
2006-10-13 10:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by johntadams3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think perhaps you are carrying a lot of emotional stuff around with you in relation to your religion. This is not because you are muslim. Many other religions also have this effect on people, most obviously Roman Catholic.
I think it would help you immensly if you tried to explore your feelings and thoughts on these matters. Is it that you dont want to have a relationship? Is it that you want only to spend time with someone who potentially wants to marry and thus consumate the relationship in accordance with your religious views? Is it that you feel you are not allowed to do something you really want to? Is there anywhere or anyone you could discuss this with where your views and feelings will be taken into account rather than someone elses views being pushed onto you?
I think that once you have sorted out what you want and how you want to go about achieving it, then you will be able to communicate your needs and wishes to any potential girls and then I am sure things will be a lot easier.
2006-10-13 10:11:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What behaviour do you mean? I am sure if you respect a girl then most girls will find that attractive or certainly won't do your chances any harm. Muslim women alsosurely expect a man to have few partners so you fit the bill there. Try to relax and be yourself and nature will take its course- Inshallah.
2006-10-13 10:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get hung up on the marriage thing right from the start. Ask a girl out first and have a couple of dates. Get to know them first before springing it on them about your not wanting to be intimate before marriage. Nobody wants to deal with big life decisions on a first date.
2006-10-13 10:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have to have sex with a girl so she will like you, tell her up front what your beliefs are, im sure not all muslim men are virgins befor they marry are they, still it's up to you do what you believe is right.. good luck
2006-10-13 10:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by twinsters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these days no matter wat ur religion most guys/girls have sex before marrigae neway so gud n u..neway try to be friends with the girl before hand and let the girl know in a conversation u maybe having that you dont belive in sex before marriage so wen u finally if you do go into a relationship with her shell know wat to expect..if you get me?..good luck neway!!
2006-10-13 10:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by trendy_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a muslim girl!
then she will understand, that wont be a problem
2006-10-13 10:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they can wait there not worth your time
2006-10-13 10:17:28 · answer #8 · answered by sambonesgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋