How does my being a virgin affect a female's perception of me?

Question

How does my being a virgin affect a female's perception of me?

First of all, DO NOT tell me to wait until marriage. I am not a Christian. Please respect this request.

I am a 17 year old senior in High School. And yes, I am a virgin. I get attention from girls and they like me (I'm a nice guy, average looking, pretty "popular"). But, almost all of the girls I'm around lost their virginity at least a year ago. Could this have something to do with their perception of me? Do they perceive the possibility of hooking up with me as "scary"? Is the thought of dating me even more scary?

Also, its not like I've been desperately trying to have sex with somebody. I've thought about it and I've come close to doing it, but of the 3-5 girls in my school that I'm at least remotely interested in...most have had boyfriends. Now that they're single, how does my being a virgin affect my chances with them? Because generally guys are the ones losing their virginity first.

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

My first thought would be free from disease and also an ametuer so dont put it in the wrong hole(JK) Look use it to your advantage when you figure out who it is that you want o so this with then tell her you had not found the girl that you would be willing to learn from until now. Tell her you want someone who is open and willing to be patient and you think shes the one. She will appreciate your honesty. But also if you wait to long older girls tend to loose patience with guys who dont know what they are doing so if your not wainting until marriage then dont wait too long. And please be careful do gp find the biggest hoe at your high school okay find a girl that will appreciate being with you. You deserve that at least the first time/

Answer 2

Girls may think that you are inexperienced but being that you all are still in high school that is a good thing. Who says that the girl will even know that you are a virgin. Unless you are wearing a shirt that says hey look at me I am a virgin then I wldnt worry abt it. You want to deal with a girl that likes you for you and that you like as well. If the opportunity presents itself to sleep with her then go for what you know. I dont think the thought of dating a virgin scary at all, it just means I have somethings to show him.... :)

Answer 3

It affects your chances depending on the girl's opinion and expectations. Period.

To start a sexual active life you have to:

1.- Know about and apply contraception to avoid unwanted pregnancies.
2.- Find a suitable person, one that you love and that attracts you (and just in case you forget, is healthy... avoid STDs!) so you will have no regrets.
3.- Get a better reason to start it than "Girls I am around lost their virginity about a year ago", and "guys lose their virginity first". A better one can be "I am ready to give myself entirely to this particular woman and am ready to expect the same from her" (oh boy, are you???And talking only about physical commitment and bond!)
4.- Be a major of age.

Answer 4

Some girls are nasty, but I can say, that a guy being a virgin is really, really sweet. A girl will LOVE that shi!!! It just means that your a more sensitive considerate kind of guy. That being such a rare thing makes you a diamond in the rough. Plus a girl will love to have the opportunity to teach you things. JUST make sure you don't go broadcasting your status. The one you tell should be the one you actually do it with, and that should be someone very special.

Answer 5

I am 16 and no that is fine if you are still a virgin, but pick ONE girl!!! don't have 3 or 5 different choices... make sure you date the girl for a wile before you decide to do thinks. A month is good and make sure you really do like/love her or you will really regret it. It also would be a good idea if you trimmed or waxed a little down there.

Answer 6

No, most (non-whorish) girls shouldnt be bothered. If you were like 27, that would be different. You are still young. Im 23 now, and i didnt have sex til i was 18. No big deal, just dont make it a big thing. The only thing most girls would care about is that you would be awkward and not sure what to do. Just be confident and have some clue what you are doing and no girl will care.

Answer 7

I think girls are afraid to take that from the guy. I think they are scared, they just don't want to be that girl. I'm speaking from seeing my girl friends in that position. But in my opinion it doesn't really matter, if your dating a girl she won't care that your a virgin and will respect that. and when the time is right, it will happen. I won't say wait til marriage because that rarely happens! but when you do decide to have sex, and she's not 'the one', you may regret it one day when you DO meet the one. and you will wish she was your one and only.
so basically, just don't sleep with someone who doesn't mean anything to you.

Answer 8

I think it is wonderful and it show most women like me that your not afraid to wait for the special girl. It also shows that you are not a followers. So many people do it to avoid being judged and looked at wrong. However with so many diseases going around you should wait and before you act you should get tested together to show trust, faith , and that your not just interested in sex but your heath and relationship.

Answer 9

Oh my.

You are a beautiful thing!

It's like... being the first to use a new peanut butter jar. No crumbs, no gouges, just pure smooth peanut butter.

They are enticed by you I am sure. Wondering how much fun you would be. (the more fun the better) Enjoying the idea of being the 'first'. (We are told that the first will always be remembered).

Ohmygosh, there is a very lucky girl out there.

Relax, and have fun!

Answer 10

Um...no your shouldnt wait till your married you will definately regret that. Dont worry you are still young and have plenty of time to lose your virginity. Forget about the girls in yoru school who have already lost it. They are probably sluts anyway. Find the right one to lose it to, you will probably be bad at first but you know what they say, practice makes perfect!