I know he is married, but when he comes to my office to visit me I can not avoid this feeling, it just feels right when he is around. He comes by and say's how I'm I doing and brings me a snack or something. He makes me feel good, but I know he is married but he is very nice, and out of all the guys that come to this office he is the only one that catches my attention. He seems like he likes me too, but I do not know how far is too far.
2006-10-13 09:50:21 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
me too!!
2006-10-13 09:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How far is too Far is something that you and you alone will have to make the call on. Although I can tell you this, If he's married, You should watch out for your own heart b/c here's the truth. Even if everything goes to the plan you have in your head. 1) you'll always have to tell people that you were the girl who dated a married man. 2) The odds are that if anything were to ever happen One or both of you would freak out and it would ruin the marriage as well as any Chance you two had to ending up together. Or 3) You go the distance and see if this guy is interested. He plays the game and you two start sleeping together. Then 6mths a yr goes by and he's still with his wife and you've now become the other woman.
Look at your self and really look deep. Make sure this guy is worth it.
2006-10-13 09:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by Dr_Jay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...if you know he's married then anything that you may not want his wife to know about is to damn far. He could be a really nice guy and he may even be attracted to you but the idea of taking that casual office flirting beyond is NOT a good idea. Force yourself to dwell on the fact that he is married whenever he's around! Force yourself to remember that you will NOT be some woman on the side for ANY man! Truth is if he's flirting with you and possibly leading you on then he's obviously not that nice of a guy. The thought of a married man hitting on single women is repulsive to me. If you were married would you want your husband flirting with women in his office? I wouldn't! Remember that whenever you feel yourself getting carried away by your feelings. Doing things on impulse is highschool! There is a certain way to react to things when you're an adult and adultry in any form isn't nice nor should be tolerated! Remember Karma...it comes around!
2006-10-13 09:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How far is to far?
When you act on any of those feelings. It's completely normal to connect with people we work with, we spend so much time with them everyday. Sometimes that connection can become very friendly and more on a personal level, but it needs to stay there.
Playful, harmless flirting is one thing. Don't get carried away. You'll end up hurt, his wife doesn't deserve to be decieved and believe me...everyone in the office will know about it. Who wants to get involved in the office rumor mill?
He probably does like you and enjoys spending time with you. You obviously show him a bit of adoration, from how it sounds, so you are good for his ego and vice versa. Just check yourself. Married means bad news.
Friends is fine.
2006-10-13 09:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's married, he's off limits! I know it's hard not to develop a crush on someone you work with. You seem them everyday, talk to them everyday, they're nice to you. But in this case, you don't have too much of a choice. Continue to be nice to each other but I wouldn't think too much else of this situation. Would you really consider dating someone who is married? It's okay to be friends, but nothing more than that.
2006-10-13 09:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, you really need to get this fantasy out of your head....put yourself in the wife's positions before you jump ahead. Plus, he could just be a nice guy and not having any feelings for you. And even if he wasnt married, dating at work is very dangerous. Ask anyone who has done it
2006-10-13 09:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Messing around with a married man can be hurtful to alot of people including yourself. I would think twice about it cause there are alot of people it affects.I hope it's not my husband cause you will have to help pay that $900 a month in child support. Good Luck!
2006-10-13 09:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's married. He belongs to SOMEONE ELSE! It doesn't matter how you feel. He is not yours! Leave him alone! Hey! I like your car. I know it's yours, but it looks better than mine and I want it. Driving it would make me feel good. I don't give a damn about how you're going to get around without it I want it so I'm going to car jack you and take it, now how does that make you feel?
2006-10-13 09:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything that is beyond a professional relationship might be too far. Since he is married, you might want to find another guy to hit on. You don't want to get yourself into a complicated situation.
2006-10-13 09:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Intimate contact is too far... He starts grabbing your hand and saying things that are trying to swoon you... He's over the line.
As long as he's being nice to you, be nice to him. Friendship wise. He tries to get you into bed... Forget it... There is no future in it and you'll only get hurt.
You also don't want to be known as the little hussy at work trying to steal other women's husbands.
2006-10-13 09:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by James B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you need to leave him be. If he tells you he wants to be with you and have a relationship, then go for it. But he is married, it wouldn't be right. Only go with him if he tells his wife. It will end up making a big scene if not, If he cheated on his wife with you!
Good Luck!
2006-10-13 09:54:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋