Potty training ideas?

Question

My two, soon to be three year ols refuses to use the potty. She will tell me she needs to pee but will fight you if you try to set her on the potty. Then as soon as she gets up she'll pee in her panties. We haven't even attempted to poop in the potty. I am seventeen weeks pregnant and would really like to have her completely potty trained before this baby is born. But I don't want to make it a trmatic event either.
I have tried to reward her with movies, toys, candy, and new panties that she gets to pick out but nothing seems to work.
PLease help if you've been in my situation or if you have a good idea.
I've also read all the books and watched all the movies.
Please help!!1

Answer 1

First off, take a break from it for a couple weeks. If you're going to try something new then you need a break from the old first.

Put her back in diapers/pull ups. She shouldn't get to wear panties if she's just going to mess in them. Tell her why she has to wear diapers again so she knows why she can't wear her panties anymore. Tell her "If you're going to pee your pants then you are going to wear diapers. You cannot have your panties back until you can be a big girl and pee in the potty."

Wash her panties and show her "These are clean and if you want to wear them then you can, but they have to stay clean...do you hear me?" If she agrees to try and keep them pee-free then let her wear them. If she pees in them, then she has to go back to diapers.

Put her in the car and tell her "We are going to the store and you are going to pick out a treat." Take her to the candy aisle (rewards shouldn't be more than a piece of candy) and let her pick out a bag of candy. When you get home, take her into the bathroom and put the bag of candy on a shelf and explain to her that she will get a piece of candy when she uses the potty. Keep the candy in the bathroom so she knows that that's what it's for.

Ask her every half hour if she needs to use the potty. If she says yes then take her into the bathroom and have her use the potty. Eventually, she will get to a point where she just walks into the bathroom and goes without telling you. When she does, she deserves a much bigger reward than a piece of candy. Take her out for ice cream or get her a reward like a coloring book because when she can go without telling you is the day she is fully potty trained.

Answer 2

I was in your situation and I know it's frustrating. This is what I did: My daughter could not handle having wet pants, she would freak out. So I got her dressed every morning wearing regular undies and told her that these were that clothes that she was wearing today, if she peed in them that she would have to deal with it. If she did pee in her pants I obviously didn't make her wear them all day, but a good half hour wearing them made her really uncomfortable. She did realize not soon after that she wouldn't have to deal with wet pants if she would just go pee on the potty. This really only works if you spend a lot of time @ and close to home.
I also just had a baby 6 months ago, and if you are successful in potty training before the new baby comes be prepared for some regression. The jealousy can be a killer.

Answer 3

I hear ya!!! My daughter(9-18-03) was allot like that. We had hoped by her 3rd birthday to be done but she had different ideas..lol I asked her Dr and she suggested to try a 'potty clock'. What i ended up doing was using my cooking timer(it goes for 1 hour) and every time it went off she would sit for 2 minutes(at least, longer if I was really lucky). For some reason, the alarm is something she was looking forward too so she didn't mind going on the potty. I tried to tell her to go but she would say the Potty clock didn't go off..lol Anyway, that was on 9-21 that I tried the clock and now we are in big girl underwear with only 2 accidents since.
Good Luck, hope this helps!!!

Answer 4

I put mine back in diapers and told her when she was ready to be a big girl and use the potty to let mommy know. The diapers were bulky and uncomfortable to her and she came to me in a couple of days and asked to use the potty. She also told me the "Big Potty" scared her. I got three potty chairs, one for her room, one for the bathroom and one for the play area. When she started using them, I took the one out of the play area first. When she was consistent with the other two and completely stopped pottying her panties I asked her if she was ready to use the Big Potty and she said she was. It was really cool because she got to call the shots and make a decision and I got what I wanted too. Good luck and congrats on the new baby.

Answer 5

I have a 2 1/2 year old little girl and we are having the same problem. Also read book and nothing has helped so far. We have had limited success but Beach Craz is pretty much describing what we are trying. The easiest part is first thing in the morning, most people have to pee. Toddlers included. So every morning, before cartoons, before breakfast, before anything we set her on the potty and sing songs/nursery rhymes to distract her until she finally goes pee. At first she would fight with us and then stand up and pee on the floor, but after we made her clean it up she got the idea where it goes.
Good luck and if you find any miracle solutions please let me know.

Answer 6

I think it's the childs personal level of readiness. my little guy is 3 & 1/2 and is just now really potty training. He still won't poop in the potty, but we're constantly sticking him on the potty every 45 minutes. we've gotten to the point where we bribe w/ his favorite toys, etc. I know this isn't probably what you want to hear, but I Hope it helps, I also had to completely stop using the little potty and pull ups, he would just pee in them bcuz he knew he could.

Answer 7

There is a Bear in the Big Blue House movie about going potty that worked wonders with mine when we were having problems. I have sinced passed it on to friends who have had problems with this too, and it seems to help improve. Also, if your child has a favrite stuffed animal you can get it and sit it on the potty and make potty noises. After stuffed animal is "done pottying" Reward it by giving it some candy or whatever would motivate your child., and praise the animal ( "Good Elmo. You did a great job pottying.", etc)Continue this several times throught the day in front of your child. The child wants to be praised/rewarded and be like their favorite stuffed toy.

Answer 8

First off, when you say potty are you referring to a child sized potty chair or the adult sized toilet? If you mean the adult size maybe she is afraid of falling in. Have you ever made a comment about flushing her down the toilet? My mother used to threaten us (along with the boogey-man) to flush us down the toilet if we didn't behave. My sister wet the bed until she was 15 years old!

Potty training made easy... a child will teach herself when she's tired of sitting in wet pants. Get rid of the disposable paper diapers or disposable paper pants. Get the cloth diapers or terry cloth panties and the plastic waterproof panties to put over them. That wet soggy feeling gets old fast.

Also don't terrorize her. It will happen when she's ready, but it sounds like the trauma damage has already been done. Stop making a big fuss over it. She may be fighting you just for attention.

If you use a potty chair... put her potty chair in the bathroom next to the toilet. Take her in with you when you pee, but don't force her to sit there. Maybe it has fallen over on her and she is afraid of it. Maybe it's uncomfortable. What ever her reason for not liking it is, don't force the issue. Let her watch you on the toilet and she will get the hint. Eventually she'll want to be just like mommy and other big girls.

My daughter trained herself when she was 2. I never used anything but cloth diapers on her.

Answer 9

So you've read books and watched movies...wow I guess you have it all covered huh? How about the fact that your daughter isn't ready to be potty trained? Just because she knows she is going to pee doesn't mean she is ready for potty training. And I suspect that part of the reason is the fact that you're going to have another baby. She probably feels like she is getting replaced, she used to be the baby, baby's wear diapers, mommy and daddy love baby...Get the picture? Stop trying to make her grow up if she's not ready and face the fact that you just may have two in diapers...but that was your choice not her's.

Answer 10

I was recently in the same boat with my son. I was adamant on not having 2 children in diapers at the same time and he was creeping up on 3 yrs old. We pushed and pushed and got no results. We offered bribes, we threatened to take things away, we would sit in there with him for hours at a time....still nothing. In the end, he did it all on his own. Thankfully for my benefit it was before the baby was born. Pooping was a whole nother ballgame - - he refused to poop in the potty. Believe it or not he actually stopped pooping. We tried suppositories and laxatives for weeks. He was afraid to go. Make sure your son is comfortable in the environment and have lots and lots of patience. Bottom line, he'll do it all on his own when he's good and ready. Good Luck!!!!