2006-10-13
09:28:12
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My Mom knows that i am probably one of the most responsible Freshmans alive and that i can take care of myself but she won't let me date. She won't even talk about it or consider it though she knows i'm smart about guys!
2006-10-13
09:30:25 ·
update #1
In Response to an answer she won't let me go on group dates either. She only lets me hang out with my guy friend OCCASIONLY(thats not spelled right?) because he's jewish and i'm christian.
2006-10-13
09:36:16 ·
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i know she is trying to protect me. I'm not into the physical stuff yet and i won't be for a while( cuz honestly i think its gross) i just want her to at least let me hang out with guys and have her have more trust in me because honestly i tell her everything!
2006-10-13
10:24:07 ·
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I don't let my two daughters either!! I am very strict though! Give your mom a break...she is just doing what she thinks is best!!
2006-10-13 11:32:55
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answer #1
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answered by Anonymous
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I believe in not dating until you are 16 and then only group dating until you are 18 or 19. I may be 24 now, but I remember being your age. You may really feel you are responsible and everything. But when your hormones and peer pressure and curiosity all get thrown in there it's like you don't have any control over what you are doing, and therefore you can't be trusted or responsible. It's nothing against you or any other teenagers, it's just the way it is. So feel lucky you are being protected against your own mistakes!
2006-10-13 16:44:33
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answered by mommyem 4
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Your mom will always and forever look out for your best interest. It's not that she doesn't trust you -- maybe she doesn't trust those guys.
I know how you feel. I was never sexually active in High School and when I got to college, some girls told a lot of the guys that I used to hang around with that I was still a virgin. I was upset, but I still didn't give in. It was either I got dumped for not "giving it up" or no one asked me out because they knew I wouldn't. That goes to show you that it's true what they say, "A lot of guys only want one thing." Of course, my parents didn't know all this stuff was going on and I really don't think it would have made a difference in their decision to let me date.
Don't worry, your mom will eventually give in and let you go out, but just keep in mind that there's really no need to rush. When I went to my first "Sweethearts Dance", my parents made 2 of my older brothers and their friends go with me and my date... so embarrassing! I have pictures of that night and my date and I are posing and the next picture is of my brothers and their friends posing.
2006-10-13 18:21:30
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answered by JoesWifee 3
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I think you need to talk to your mom and ask again about the group date. Tell her you will go with a group of kids that she knows and only during the day. Let her meet the kids you want to go with call and check in when you get to where you are going and when you are on your way home. If you are a freshman you are still a little young to go on a one on one date with a boy, sorry kid that is just the way it is. But as a group day date with other guys and girls in a public place for a few hours seems ok to me if you are as responsible as you think you are.
2006-10-13 16:53:37
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answered by valarie l 2
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Your mother is just trying to protect you I'm sure. I know you don't want to hear this now, but you will have your whole life to try out different relationships. I was your age when I started dating, I was pretty responsible as well. I wound up pregnant at 19, and missed out on so much. I didn't go to college or get to do other things young adults should experience. I love my life now, I'm married and have a wonderful life. If I could do it all over, I would've chilled out on the dating thing for a while. Good Luck!!
2006-10-13 17:15:14
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answered by jessica s 2
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This is not an answer you will like at all ...
You live in mom's house you follow mom's rules. You don't pay for your roof, you don't pay any bills, you don't pay for food- you don't support yourself, you need to follow her rules. As un-cool as this may sound it's the hard facts. You aren't truly responsible until you can be responsible for yourself. In the mean while, suck it up and stop whining.
Life is not fair- and this is something life will show you. Fairness is an illusion. Look around you! Educate yourself on your local socio-political situation and see if you find any fairness there; go visit a local Women's Center...life is just not fair.
Whatever your parent's reasons may be, you, as a responsible minor, need to respect that. Once you are living on your own you can make these decisions.
Good luck!
2006-10-13 20:09:10
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answered by An Opinionated One 2
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It's definately fair. Life isn't fair and the sooner you realize this, the better off you and everyone around you will be. If you are so responsible, then you wouldn't complain about it and you would understand and accept your parents' reasoning. A lot of teens think they're so responsible, but their parents know better. Listen to their advice; you're their responsibility until you're 18 so make the best use out of it.
And guys your age are not worth it, so you might as well wait until your parents say you're ready. Teenage guys have major raging hormones that are worse than a teen girl's hormones. So listen to your folks.
2006-10-13 16:38:19
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answered by Anonymous
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Trust me, you can be as responsible as they come, it's not you she doesn't trust...it's those guys out there! You are still just a freshman, and even though I'm proud that you are responsible, there are still many, many things you have not come to understand. Things that your mom has already gone through. She is only protectiong you from maybe the mystakes she made when she was younger. Just listen to your mom and let it go. Believe me, you have plenty of time to start dating!
2006-10-13 17:06:23
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answered by amyvnsn 5
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Yes. I do. I was a responsible high schooler who snuck around and got knocked up. So I think your parents are in the right. :) Plenty of time to date once you're older. If you're around 16 or 17 though I think you should be able to go out once a week or so for 2-3 hours. Just my opinion though.
2006-10-13 16:31:17
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answered by momofthreemiracles 5
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well, i dont think anyone should be allowed to go on an alone date until they are at least 16. group dates maybe at 15.
and that is if you are responsible.
i'm 23 and married to a guy i started dating at 15. we were not allowed to go on alone dates till 16.
but my sister started dating earlier than me, at 13, and she had a couple of really bad experiences, she was pressured into doing things she didnt want to to and regrets a lot of things she did. she's 19 now.
2006-10-13 16:42:45
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answered by TN girl 4
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Dating alone is one thing. Talk with your mother about group dates. So she knows there will be other people arround. Your mother knows your responsible but she also knows boys your age arent. My mother made sure I had a job and car before I could date. Job = So I could afford dating. Car= Incase I got into a situation I could drive off and get myself outta it. Group dating should be allowed but I dont think you should rush single dating.
2006-10-13 16:33:05
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answered by Christa Joy 2
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