Has anyone been denyed the bathroom as a child or seen/heard of it being done to someone else.?

Question

I was denyed the bathroom as a child at school several times. I also knew a girl who's mom never let her or her brother use the bathroom in public, forcing then to hold it sometimes for hours on end. She told me they were made to hold it after getting home if they complaned about needing to go or misbehaved.

I have also seen parent do this to their children in public. I was wondering if anyone as seen this before and in what setting?

Answer 1

My husband is a victim of not using public restrooms even if they were about to pee their pants. When we were out one day I let my children use the public restroom and my mother in law looked at me in disgust. She has this germ phobia thing and says no one should use these. I think if the child's gotta go, let them go. I have made my child wait before, but because of circumstances listed in an above response. Sometimes kids just think they need to go into every bathroom.

Answer 2

When my sister was in second grade, the teacher would not let her use the bathroom. My sister had recently recovered from a kidney infection. My mom called the school and told them that my sister needs to be allowed to use the bathroom whenever she wants. That settled that matter.

As far as children using public bathrooms, well, of course a parent shouldn't let a child use a nasty bathroom but they should find a clean one for the child to use. Making a child "hold" it seems a bit stringent. If the parent has some phobia about public toilets, they should not foist it on the child!

Answer 3

I have heard of it. I had a friend that is diabetic, and when he was in grade school (before they found out about the diabetes) he had to frequently use the restroom because that is a symptom of diabetes. Well, the teacher wouldn't let him go and he said it was miserable and imbarrasing because a few times he almost wet himself. Well, needless to say, they found out he was diabetic and his mom went off on the teacher. Some parents and teachers need to realize that making a child hold it is not only inconsiderate, but could be dangerous to the childs health also.

Answer 4

In first grade the teacher was talking about something and the rule was that if she was speaking than it would have to wait. Any way I knew I had to go but knew not to ask I tried to hold but after a while I wet my pants. I had to sit in my wet pants until my mom could get out of work go home and bring me some dry clothes. The teacher got upset and the kids made fun of me it was awful.

Answer 5

It's not right in my opinion to make a child hold it in that fashion.... however I am guilty of having my daughter hold it a few times but for very different reasons, a couple times have been because of completely discusting nasty smelly filthy bathrooms, but in that case she only had to hold it as long as it took me to find one or come to another one. The other times was to teach her a simple lesson, as she had developed this fascination for 'having' to see and use the bathroom EVERYWHERE we go. NOT EXAGGERATING. As she would insist that she did not have to go at home before leaving home, only to be in the grocery store 10 minutes later doing the potty dance, she was intentionally holding it so I would have to let her use the restroom wherever we went. And sometimes she'd say she had to go when she didn't, just so we had to go to the restroom wherever we were. Prime example... the mall one day, every department store, she had to 'pee'... sometimes sitting on the toilet several minues till a little pee would come out as I would tell her she had better really have go... it gets very exhausting stopping at EVERY restroom!... Another one of her favorite 'tricks' was to tell me she had to go to the bathroom when we were about to drive by somewhere that she wanted to go into.. such as McDonald's, Toy's R Us, her old daycare etc... you get the drift... not because she had to pee, but because it was a way to try to get me to stop at places she wanted to stop. There's many more examples and times my daughter did this until I figured out a way to get her in check with this restroom obsession and manipulating me (I never did want deny her right to pee when she said she had too, as I had no way of knowing when she seriously had to go or not)... so... New rule came into place. You pee no matter what before we leave the house, if you don't, and hold it on purpose, and decide then to tell mommy 3 minutes after we leave the house, then we're not making a special stop. It can be held untill we reach our destination. (Unless it was a road trip, then it was the nearest rest-stop)... And I would then not allow a restroom break in EVERY place we went into, unless it's been a reasonable amount of time since she last went based also on her beverage and water intake. This took actually about 3 or 4 weeks... so yes, more than a few times. But it did cure her. She tries to get one by me ever now and then, and now that she has started Kindergarten she's trying it all over again... without success... telling me once in a while that she has to go potty just after we leave the house (after she has already gone)... asking me if we can stop at her friends house along the way to go potty... ha... I don't think so, we're not playing this game again... it takes 2 1/2 minutes to drive to school, I think you can go at school when we get there. I don't think I'm being unreasonable doing this, I think I'm being a responsible mother and trying to not let my daughter attempt to rule the roost. .. kids are good at trying to do that. Other than that though... I would never 'make' her hold it for ANY other reason. It's NOT healthy, most definately can lead to bladder infection... which I had my daughter checked for originally, thinking she really had to pee all the time, till I figured out the 'game'. :) Hope that was helpful in some way. :)

Answer 6

I've heard of it, but I consider it abusive because it is not something that the child should be punished for, or be used to punish a child with (bodily functions).
Its HIGHY unsafe, unnatural, very damaging and unhealthy-- I mean, you are doing damage or at least highly stressing internal body organs. How abusive is that?? You might as well punch the child kidneys if you want to hurt their organs. Why would that be frowned upon and not forced-continence?

I think its physical abuse, along the lines of forcing a child to eat when he she is not hungry or is full, or, denying him/her food when he she needs it (forced to go without meals when the child needs to be fed already)

Its physical damage and infliction.
....I think Ive made my point... :)

Answer 7

it quite is tragic for the mothers and the toddlers. I thoroughly agree that each attempt could desire to be made to maintain the families in tact as much as a threat. It makes plenty greater sense to spend the money on helping the mothers and young toddlers build their lives interior the "genuine" international, than it does in simple terms farming out the toddlers in all guidelines. The mothers actual are victims, too, and those famlies could be saved. it quite is time we began finding at adoption without the rose-colored glasses on. attempting to discover foster residences for those toddlers in an already overcrowded foster care gadget ought to quite harm their lives.

Answer 8

That's just wierd.

Once at school, I was told to eat my cabbage, despite saying I didn't like it and would be sick.

I ate it, and threw up all over the table and other children.

Game, Set and Match to me, I think.

Answer 9

I think it's cruel to make children hold it in. It is damn hard to hold it in when you really gotta go and it is just a control thing to make children wait.

Answer 10

Yeah my kindergarten teacher made us line up & go and if you didn't have to go when SHE said so you had to suffer. That woman was f'n nutso, should never have been in charge of kids, in my opinion...