There's this guy I like very much. I found a way to meet him, and we became good friends. I never told him I liked him because he is in a long distance relationship. Most of the time I tell myself to stay away from him, but he always finds a way to make me run to him! He takes me out to dinner, we go to the movies, if I reject his offers, he makes me take him to dinner either by betting on things or asking me leave a CD to his room. Then, I realize it's been hours we've been together having good times. I have such a good time with him, he has too. He makes compliments to me, I feel I'm important for him. But is that it? Why does he treat me so well when there's this other girl? I feel like stupid sometimes always running to him when he asks, and I feel that he just spends time with me to make up for the time he can't with his gf. But then he says or does something to make me think he likes me too. I feel desperate. I try to move on, but he doesn't let me. What advice can you give?
2006-10-13 09:01:12 · 19 answers · asked by Earthling 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh he talks to me about his gf too, and she knows we spend a lot of time together. He says he doesn't know if he's in love with her but he likes her very much. Then, he acts like he likes me too :( Why would he send me a text message that says "I had you think of me for two days at least, I'm happy" over something we discussed earlier. Is this friendly? Then why would he go and talk to his gf on phone for hours in front of me! Why, why why?
2006-10-13 09:10:36 · update #1
I'm in that same situation!!! I don't buy "he is playing you" answer because why would a guy invest all this effort if you're still in the "friendship zone"? What puzzles me is, why did he have to tell you about his g/f at all if she is away, and you would have never known! If he didn't tell you about her then he'd be a "playah"! Maybe he is just waiting to make his choice? And in the meantime just getting to know you better? But honestly I don't see why he'd keep a long distance thing going if he has you here, and you're having such a great time. What is the goal of that relationship? Personally, I am just trying to get out of this as soon as I can (but it is so tough!). Because really what is wrong with these people is just that they are not sensitive enough about how they may make other people feel, and that's just dumb - so who wants to be with an insensitive guy who is also dumb?
2006-10-13 09:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by Serenah 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just wants a friend. Stop liking him cause then u will lose a friend if u enjoy hanging out with him. Just enjoy his company and if u feel like it is getting to much, dont be available for him. be detached for a while. dont answer calls and just consume yourself with anything that can keep u busy. If he is in a long distance relationship, if they are strong it will not go beyond friendship with you. But if it falls apart... and u have already shown detachment, if he likes you, he will come around.
But to save you for right now, I say dont be there for him, dont let him borrow stuff and stay away from him. if it really is a friend thing between u guys he willl notice and ask u whats up because he cares. If he is priming u to cheat on his gf, u will know too cause he wont be calling u anymore.
dont make yourself available..
And if they happen to break up, he just may be attracted to YOU even more because you have shown detachment.
good luck, in the mean time find someone else who is not attached to anyone. Get your mind off of it.
2006-10-13 16:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by spiseemami 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl if you like him, let him KNOW! Obviuosly there aint to much going on wit that gf, if he's doing all that with you. No man is gonna spent that much time with a mutal friend, and he has a gf. I think you need to state your feelings, and c whats going to come of it, becasue if he doesnt know how you feel, how is he gonna know what to do? He may be thinkin the same thing, damn I like her, but I gotta girl. Go ahead and lay it on the line so you want get hurt in the long run. At least you can c where his head is at about you.
2006-10-13 16:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by gagirl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, its you thats not letting yourself move beyond him. Your letting your emotions be walked on, even though you know he has a girl friend. He might be doing this just to pass the time, or perhaps he does not know how you truely feel about him. It's also possible he's interested but unsure how to proceed. You need to just let your feelings known to him, then you will know. I suggest you do this, and if you cant get the answer you want, then stop hanging with him so much, and find yourself an unattached man.
2006-10-13 16:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he probably feels conflicted. i have no doubt that he likes you. that is why he phones you up and hangs out and compliments you all the time. but...he does have a girlfriend (there is always a 'but', don't you hate that?). point blank ask him how things are going with his girlfriend. and that will give you a key into hsi mind and what he truly thinks of her. if he were completely in love with her, in my opinion, he wouldn't be hanging out with you. try not to get things started with him on an emotional level or physically because that's gonna complicate things until ya know for sure. (unless you have already, then turn things down a notch). i hope this is helpful to you.
Good luck and let us know how it turns out!!!
and p.s. i can TOTALLY relate to your situation!!! :)
2006-10-13 16:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ive had a guy kinda like tht, but diffrent. usually the best way to solve a problem like this, u shud just find some1 who's better 4 u, cuz if thers another grl in the picture, its usually not a good idea. u cud start some serious unwanted drama. and most likely he'll reject u cuz of the other grl. u deserve better.
2006-10-13 16:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by smileylol7 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If they are in a long distance relationship then you have nothing to worry about. I think your friend really likes you and I see this other girl going bye-bye. Give him a chance if you like him, and then I tell you he will be coming up with a(n), "oh we split up over something stupid" response to the other girl and then he is all yours.....Give it a chance.
2006-10-13 16:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by cdb774 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's undecided on the other girl and your helping him make up his mind. He probably wants you to be the aggressor so he doesn't feel like he's cheating on his gf. No matter what is going on, why would you feel bad? Sounds like you're having fun together. So you're enjoying life - doesn't sound that bad to me.
2006-10-13 16:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you move on for reals then no one can stop you, not even him. Problem is, it seems like you like him.
So sit him down and chat with him about this. Tell him that it bugs and see if he will quit pre-cheating on his girl and get real with you. Problem with that then is can you ever trust him after he's done this to his girl?
2006-10-13 16:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just spend time with him and dont let it get to far! u can be his friend and have a good time too! if u like him then maybe u should talk to him!
2006-10-13 16:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋