ok my boyfriend is really nice and takes me to school at 6:30 every morning he picks me up from school when hes not working and then comes to my house every night.i love him but when i ask him to do things he gets mad and says no. he doesent like to watch girly movies with me and he drinks every other week and i dont like that and when i sayd i want to drink just to see what he sayd he sayd he doesent like girls that drink, preety much everything a guy does is ok but not when a girl does he says girls then turn into hoes and dont know what there doing.also when i tell him something he doesent believe me. he likes to go to parties and i dont like to cause im shy, i wasent always shy untill he sayd i was annoying a lot it made me not want to be as outgoing as before. were kinda opposite a lot even when it comes to food or drinks we fight about every day.he says that i cry because thats what love is about. he also says no other guy would treat me better than him. what do you think?
2006-10-13 08:56:31 · 9 answers · asked by flower g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok, first of all he is SO wrong that no other guy would treat u better...!!!! obviously when u cry and are sad, he is not doing a good job...so he is either really selfish, or doesn't care about how YOU feel.
second of all, remember this: in a relationship, it can either be Good for you, or Bad for you. period. even if the relationship is just "ok", or whatevers, that is STILL bad for you, because u can always have something better, or different, or exciting, etc.
how can u tell if it's good or bad for you? watch the Signs. how do u feel? are you Happier? A Better person? do you Learn things together? is your relationship Growing? in this case, it seems to me that he is having a Negative effect on you.. :(. u are less outgoing, u are self conscious, u feel suffocated, u can't go to parties and drink but He can... etc etc.. that is not a HEALTHY relationship. he may love u, but it's not the healthy, positive kind of love you NEED or Want. u need to change first; be more Confident, and know what u are worth. u Deserve better. next, don't take SH*T from him; if he treats u badly, don't take it. tell him if he doesn't change, u are out of there. and if he says "u can't find anybody else", say "i'd rather be ALONE than be w/ you", smile nicely, and leave w/ ALL of ur things. u may love him, but if he won't change to do what is BEST for the relationship, then he is BAD for you.
don't let someone continue treating u badly.... u can take some single time out and work on yourself, to make you feel Beautiful, Smart, and Happy.... a boyfriend can Help u do that, but u have to do it on ur own..and in ur case, ur boyfriend makes u feel Worse. when u are happier, positive, confident, healthy, u will see that u can have standards from y ourself, as well as ur future partner. good luck, and be strong~~ ur love is WORTH something!! he should be thankful u love him, and should treasure and take care of u, not be mean to you. find someone who thinks ur love is so wonderful, and he will be wonderful to you too~
2006-10-13 09:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you say he's a nice guy, he really isn't. First of all, a boyfriend should be generous and willing to do things for you. He shouldn't get mad at you for just ASKING him to do something. At least you don't order him around like he orders you around. He seems to wants to have control over you. Him giving you a lift to schools seems like he just wants more control. He's not doing it to be kind, I think he feels it gives him more powere over you. He's a bit sexist as well. He thinks girls can't drink because they can't control themselves but men can? Thats just stupid. There isn't much trust in your relationship. He doesn't beleive anything you tell him and you are having to come onto yahoo answers for advice about him.
Your boyfriend should give you more confidence not less. I bet that if he hadn't made you less confident then you would not still be in this relationship. He is completely out of order.Does he cry when you argue? Probably not. That is not what love is about. If you were in love and you cried a boyfriend would try to make you feel better, and it would not be because of him.There are plenty of guys that would treat you better. A guy like him will make you settle for rubbish guys later because you dont know what you could have.
I think that the reason that you are still in the relationship is because you feel dependant on him. Like you need a boyfriend. I think that is how he is trying to make you feel.
Get out of your relationship and fast. I wouldn't even call it a relasionship. He has shattered your self confidence, you need a boyfreind who can build it back up again.
I say end it.
Good luck :-)
2006-10-13 09:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk. Not all girls that drink are "hoes." But if you're not old enough to drink, that's a different story. Why is it OK for him to go out and not you? He won't do anything for you. He doesn't believe anything you say. And he tells you that you cry because "that's what love is about?" That is bullshit. That is not love at all!! I think you can find better. There are guys out there that would be willing to do simple things for you if you asked. That would believe things you said (if you're telling the truth). And wouldn't make you cry. I think he's a jerk and you need to find another guy.
2006-10-13 09:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow it really sounds like this guy has you on a short leesh. Love is not crying and fighting all the time! Love first has to do with respecting eachother, even the parts that are not great. If you want to go do something that is your right and if he cant respect your choices for yourself you need to boot him. There are tons of guys out there who would treat you just as well, actually better! Guys who will respect what you think and want. Guys that will even endure chick flicks!
2006-10-13 09:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship. There will always be someone who is willing to care for you, you just have to give them a chance. He sounds like this may become an abusive relationship soon. get out while you still can. Its the best thing you can do.
2006-10-13 09:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take control of your own life or stop complaining. Why is it always me, me, me? Perhaps he's thinking the same way?
I'd say dump him and become more outgoing again. Better to be single than to fight everyday.
Good luck.
2006-10-13 09:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all you have a man that does a lot for you , and he's probably mad that you don't realize that , and he's not your Girlfriend, he's you BOY friend, a man that like to do man things , of course he's not going to want to watch girly movies. I bet that if he was every thing you wanted him to be , you wouldn't like him, unless your into girly guys, that don't drink and listens to everything you say , and lets you do anything you want.
It seems like you not happy, and if your not why should you continue not to be happy.
good luck, P.S if you don't want him I'll take him,LOL, jkz
2006-10-13 09:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by FlAwL3ss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dump him.
Buy a bicycle to get to school.
He's a jerk on so many levels it's hard to count but any guy who does something to destroy your own self-esteem is not someone to hang around with. Tell him to grab his beer and his butt and get both out of your life.
2006-10-13 09:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by RangerEsq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
superb..3/4 of it extremely is genuine for me...my GF thinks all i prefer to do is get in her pants yet i actually love her and that i could provide the international to her if i ought to...loopy. been in basic terms a month. i tell her how pleasing she is on a daily basis or attempt to. nonetheless enormously warm although lol
2016-10-16 04:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by mcfee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋